Thank you for your question.
In my experience to live on your own and by yourself is necessary to understand all the “neediness,” and emotional uproar going on, for the self does not feel complete by itself. Thanks to this neediness, we could make “mistakes” in our life. It is the typical love song in our time: “I need you,” “you are everything for me.” and ” i cannot live without you.” 🙂
Those individuals may not have the capacity to experience the self and perceive that naked neediness and to experience how the mind cries for “help.”
“Help me if you can, I’m feeling down
And I do appreciate you being round
Help me get my feet back on the ground
Won’t you please, please help me.”
Obviously, the “way out” is to look for that someone to resolve the issue. This is how attachment develops. Honestly, you are in a relationship because you “need” something.
On the other hand, when you “share” love; that neediness is not there. There is no string to attach you to someone emotionally, and if you are “self sufficient,” you do things by yourself from cooking to paying your own bills in addition to feel at ease being by yourself, you are ready for the “next step,” as long as this state is “natural” for you and not something artificially created in your own mind.
Unfortunately, this is not the “normal” person that you will find out there. That is why “true” spirituality is not like going to “your auntie’s home.”
Now, to answer to your question: 🙂
Therefore, you will feel attachment if you are in a relationship or if you are not in one. In this case attachment will be latent and it could be expressed towards any individual who lives close to you on a regular basis. Attachment is not dependent on relationships but it will clearly manifest in one.
However, if you are in a relationship and you do not feel attachment, you have it made…although the sure way to find that out is when life “separates” that relationship, then you’ll know.