To answer your question how you want it requires that I know you personally as well as your situation. All I know is just your side of the issue. However, I am not fond on telling someone “Don’t do this, or do that.” That is why we hear gyan everyday, right? so hopefully we can come up with our own answers. I feel that I responded you fully in my last post.
Since you asked me what Gyan says about it, as you know; you can always go to your nearest “instrument” soul and request for her/his “do this, or that,” type of answer.