Question: A particular soul keeps coming to my mind. In this life i have a good relationship with that soul. Our relationship is quite formal. I have tried sending good wishes, i have even once or twice cancelled appointments so that I don’t have to meet that soul. I have even used the tip given by a BK whereby I have discredited the soul over a very minor, minor matter which that soul was probably not aware of. The discrediting technique I heard in a talk given by a BK. This soul is particularly not overly nice to me nor sweet talks me. Although he does not say much I feel uncomfortable (I am not sure if uncomfortable is the right word to use). When I first met this soul I used to feel quite comfortable but now I feel uncomfortable. I feel I cannot be my natural self. A very nice soul, polite but there is a change in the energy. In the beginning I used to feel light but now I don’t. I know it is a bit of Karma. I don’t think that soul sends me negative energy. Please don’t tell me it is attachment . THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR TIME & ENERGY.

Thank you for your good question! 🙂
No, I will not tell you that it is attachment, because is not.. 🙂

It is “just” a karmic account “starting” to unfold. I had similar experience as well. There are some souls who have the “task” of becoming “instruments” so we can discover our own weaknesses. We never know how the other soul feels, so we cannot assume anything about another soul.

Avoiding a person is not the answer. It will make you think more about that person and that may change your feelings.
Avoidance could be used when you do not feel adequate at a particular time and rather than making mistakes, you want to “postpone” situations which you know may happen.

Remember that attraction is the same thing as repulsion just different polarity. As a matter of fact, one feeling may take you to experience the opposite as well. 🙂

Through my experience what I suggest is to avoid “bowing down” to the energy that we feel from someone.
If you feel repulsion, uncomfortable, “not yourself,” sooner or later you may “bow down” as being submissive while in contact with that person. If that feeling develops into attraction, you will definitively “bow down” and will lose your self respect.

I wouldn’t use a “trick” like discrediting, for a trick is only tricking your own mind for a temporary time.

If you want to see real changes practice the “a-temporal” stage as shared here or what Baba calls the stage of the point (Avyakt Murli April 19, 1969) and have always good wishes for that soul, even when your interaction may be harsh or sweet. Maintain equanimity, that is self respect.

Become aware of your “freedom,” value it and when the thought arises about a particular soul, be aware of it and choose “not to go into it,” that is “remain free,” and determined.

Finally, those things are common. They will go away as long as you maintain your self respect, meaning not “bowing down.” There are souls who will put a “fight,” and when the other energy is too strong, they will bow down. There is no need to “put a fight,” just to maintain your self respect.

Just be aware and do not let the “seed” of a weak thought enter your mind. Always respond maintaining your self respect, your freedom.

Best wishes!


  1. avyakt7

    Dear soul,
    I would recommend this avyakt Murli

    which talks about the different types of students that will come closer to us.
    In that light, please assure those souls that they are welcome to keep coming to the center even though they choose not to follow celibacy at this time.

    As long as a soul is not causing any disturbance, that soul should be allowed to take some benefit from Baba’s centers.

    Disclosure: That is not my “manmat” but as I am showing, there is “proof” from a Murli spoken by BapDada himself.



  2. bkn

    Dear Brother , when a married soul takes the Rajyoga course,like everything about gyan after some months says they find it difficult to maintain Celibacy hence, are not coming to centre ,,What should be the ideal reply to them without hurting them ,,kindly give your advice. Thnks


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