In today’s class it said “Do not perform the task of causing sorrow to anyone even by mistake” with special emphasis on the vices of lust and anger. Why are these so harmful? What are their mechanisms? And what is the difference between lust and love? I will share some thoughts and hope you will too…
God compares lust and anger to fire. Fire has the capacity to transform, create light, but also to destroy and injure to varying degrees. Fire in the form of lust and anger leave pain and sorrow, thus creating further karmic accounts or suffering. Lust is not the act of creating children, but the subtle and self-hidden agenda to receive company, comfort, and energy from somewhere outside of the self and God.
Whereas, love has the agenda to provide company, comfort and energy through the connection to God. Love is benevolent. It brings empowerment, happiness, freedom, and peace. If we have experienced the opposite: disempowerment, sorrow, bondage, and peacelessness within something that we considered to be “love”, then it most likely was not love but the destructive energy of lust.
Lust creates the illusion that we can receive what we need from each other and this can weaken the connection with God- the Provider. This leaves those involved more empty than before the interaction. Truth: souls can only fill up from God at this time. Therefore, if we want healthy relationships, each person’s connection to God is pivotal and indispensable.
We have become accustomed to believe that we are angry because “someone else made us angry” (so they deserve it) or that in “the game of lust” we are “giving someone what they need or want”. Let’s ask, is it our own need for affection and company or that the other will really be uplifted by this? Is this person going to benefit from what I share with them or am I just taking out my frustration out?
Anger creates the illusion that someone/something else is to blame when my ego gets hurt or when I did not get what I wanted, etc. Instead of working out my own issues, I can get taken by storm and create more debris that has to cleaned up later. Anger and lust take away exactly what we need the most, what God provides: Self Respect.
Be careful when you or someone else tries to sugar coat lust or anger. The false supports of lust and anger are great hoaxes. As the old cliche goes “if you play with fire, you’re bound to get burned”.
Love builds, creates, empowers and sustains. God teaches us how to truly love and be a benefactor for all in our lives. The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV