Thank you for your great question!
This knowledge is one of the deepest one, if not the deepest; but please be aware that I will be replying and writing according to the questions coming. Some of them require greater depth while others are simple and straight forward, nevertheless; challenging if the response comes from a thought process.
At a deeper level, suffering comes with the presence of ego when it does not accept the movie of life as it is. In Brahma Kumaris knowledge, we know that there is a “movie” going on. We call that movie, “the Drama.” We also know, that this movie is eternally repetitive. Basically, it will repeat the same every cycle.
Therefore, we see how foolish it is when we reject what we are experiencing as part of the movie, the Drama.
Therefore, we have DESIRES. This is the knowledge which Gautama, the Buddha; gave us. We were happy repeating that without knowing that by wishing that this movie was “different,” is like wishing that a TV program was different while watching it. That wishful thinking creates suffering. See?
Then, ego wants to change things around, rather than having the openness to let the “actors” act until our “part” comes in. The “part” will come. It doesn’t come when we “thinK” that this “is my part” which is out of a reaction. A rationalized reaction. If you have been able to follow this, up to this point; then your questions are answered.
“Your parents” are souls playing that role. WHen ego has the sense of identification with a “part” as “this is mine,” (I am their child) or “their part, is part of me,” then there will be suffering for we will feel threatened.
So let me ask you. How would you react if instead of experiencing that your parents are being insulted, you experienced that with friends of yours? what about neighbors? what about someone who you never seen before? That is what we call detachment. Detachment is related with fairness in a way, for there is no “role” who is directing my activities.
Then, in that space, when you are not affected as “These are my parents. I cant let that happen,” in that space of being grounded, the role will appear in a peaceful way, without trying to retaliate to the ones insulting.
You could act in many ways according to your role, but when you act in a peaceful state of being, then you actions will be accordingly. That is the important aspect.
There is no need to get all excited about a TV program. Enjoy it as it comes and act in that peaceful attitude. If you feel “bad” about a TV program; you will not enjoy it.
Meditation is about getting you in that peaceful state. As you mentioned, if you keep that negativity due to not understanding about this TV program, which we call “life,” you will not be able to get into that peaceful state of being.