Life only brings episodes to our own lives which are a consequence of previous deeds, of previous “choosing.”
What “I” make happen is what happens to “me.”
Life is a continuous choice. That is a perspective on life. The perspective of “I” the “doer.”
Even when we choose not to do anything, we are choosing. No action is a form of action.
In some spiritual circles, there may be the idea that we “should not open any more karmic accounts. That we should settle all karmic accounts at this time.”
Please see that “choosing” to close something, which is the consequence of our previous deeds, has no meaning. It is plain rejection of our own consequences. There is no settlement there, just postponing.
For example, life may bring a person to us. Perhaps we met that person “randomly.” If we have the thought that “I need to close doors” for that person may open a “karmic account,” in all truth; that action of rejection will open further karmic accounts.
We are continuously choosing under this “reality.”
Every “actor” in life has something to teach us, something to make us aware of our own selves., when we are looking, observing. When we have this perspective of learning and wanting to know more about ourselves, we need to be open, we need to let “actors play their parts. In the movie of life.”
We also need to clearly know, when our own “part” in life starts.
Ben felt lonely. He desired to meet a female companion in his life. Anne, was another lonely person wishing to meet her “other” half.
Life brought those two desires together and both people got to know each other by “mistake.”
Ben accepted the opportunity to meet Anne. Ben wanted to take things slowly, one step at a time. Ben had a previous rejection in a relationship. Ben loved that other person, but she left.
Ben needed time to know Anne. Time to forget and forgive. Time to heal.
Anne on the other hand, had other plans in her life. Even though her desire to meet that person was there; her ideas of pursuing “better things” in the future were overwhelming. She had an idea in mind about how things “ought to happen.”
Anne experienced an internal fight within herself. Her emotions started to break down.
Anne rejected Ben at first; later Anne succumbed to her own desires. After sometime, her desires built up and they were out of control. Anne missed the opportunity to observe her own “weaknesses” in action. Her need for company and affection were very strong.
If Anne would have acknowledged her strong desire for company, things could have been easier on her. That lack of sincerity with herself was the cause of further issues.
Things turned around. Anne pursued Ben endlessly. Anne thought that she loved him like she has never loved anyone else. She thought about that “anguish like” sensation of not being close to Ben, to be true love.
Anne went too fast for Ben. She was almost running over his comfort zone. Ben finished that relationship.
Anne was devastated.
In the reality of “I,” there is continually a choice in life. Because there is choosing, there are consequences which will be felt by that “I.”
Note that Ben gave the opportunity, the chance for life to unfold. He accepted life and “acted” when life showed him the “raw” portrait of Anne. Ben did not act out of beliefs, but out of knowing what life brought to him at different times.
Every act has a timing, which needs to be respected.
Knowing ourselves first, brings the chance to know the illusion of the “I” as ego.
Without that ego, there are no more choices.
There is no one choosing. No effects, because there is no one “acting.”
This is a different perspective on life, a different experience, a different consciousness.