“…When you perceive that an act done to another is done to yourself, you have understood the great truth. “
Hua Hu Ching CH 42
Oneness is important to be felt in order to be part of the common benefit, the common good.
Otherwise, it does not matter what “I” do; the aim will be just to increase support of my own ego.
How can “I” believe that “I” am helping others, when “I” understand that “I” am helping myself by helping others?
It is the same thing. Help yourself through self-realization and then, helping others will be an automatic conclusion. That help will be of quality.
However, that is not the way we understand things.
That “I” full with ego wants to help another, and we do not even perceive or recognize that ego!
Then, “I” feel good because “I” helped a “needy” individual. Someone was lacking something in my view, and “I” facilitated that something. “I” must be accumulating “good deeds” in my heavenly account for my afterlife!
That is called a transaction. “I” do because “I” get.
Mathias the wise tree was speaking with his friend Ananda.
Ananda: “ I have a friend who is very sad because his mother is dying. His belief is that once his mother dies; she will go and meet his father in the afterlife. Even though my friend has this strong belief, he is sad.
I feel that there is nothing that I can do to “help.” “I” thought that “I” could give my friend an explanation on how his mother will take rebirth and how his father is probably in another life… but then “I” thought that this is another belief, but then, I thought that by knowing this, he could feel better.”
Mathias: “ Who will feel better, you or your friend? Your friend has his beliefs already. But you will feel better about your own beliefs; because you think that you know better. That is called being egotistical.”
Ananda:” That is right, Mathias. But I feel helpless by seeing his suffering.”
Mathias: “ Give affection. Not only words. A friendly gesture. Goodness from your deep feelings….”
There is no possibility of seeing oneness, a world family when we are still dividing and analyzing things.
“I am a Jewish.” “I am a Muslim.” “I am a Christian.”
Please see how our own mental divisions at any level creates the situation of “helping” another. We tend to consider ourselves as someone who is above; the teacher teaching students, the blessed helping the doomed. It amounts to Duality.
There is equality in friendship, and we do not help a friend when a friend is in need. It comes as a “must do” with respect, an open hand willing to be there, without looking for a reward or recognition.
When we abandon those egotistical ways, that is the “I” in need of recognition from humans and even from God, then we could see that there is no “other.”
Any label used to separate is fictitious when there is interbeingness, when the reality that “my life” depends on everything else is finally perceived.