Knowing the self

Knowing yourself

When the words, to “know the self” are uttered; immediately there is an interpretation of those words according to our consciousness.

For some, it will be about looking at the mirror to see our latest freckles or to discover that little mole that just popped up from “nowhere” by our left ankle. 😉

For others, it will be about “looking at our thoughts and desires.” Yet for others, that little phrase means nothing.

In Spirituality, the key element is to realize something by looking at it in ourselves.
That is, read whatever scripture, holy book or Guru’s words of wisdom; see those words in yourself to find their truth.

For example, a Guru just spoke about “lust.” Then there is a “pretty” girl walking by, someone may stop and look at her. Another may say something to her, yet someone else may not say anything and pretend that he didn’t watch a thing.

Let us say that we want to “judge” who is exhibiting the “vice” of lust in the above scenario according to the Guru’s teaching…for whatever those teachings may have been 🙂

Any takers?

There is no way to tell by just looking at their actions. To look at someone is not lustful. To say some words to someone is not lustful either. To pretend not to see, is deceitful but no lustful either.

We have to go beyond the outside “movie film” and observe/feel what a person feels. What is in his heart? Usually, we could observe that in their faces but not always. Many good actors out there! 🙂

Only I can know with certainty what I feel and how I feel. It is not about someone else, but about me.

This is the first realization in the spiritual path.

To observe “me” there is a need to be in a peaceful, tranquil state of mind. Slow down, relax and watch the show in front of your eyes… 🙂

Someone who is engaged in “knowing himself,” needs plenty of time, plenty of solitude. A busy schedule will not do. To be surrounded by everyone and your funny cat; may not work. Those are distractions in the beginning. Please note the word “beginning,” for a life away from everyone is not what life is all about.

It is in that serenity and amplitude of “doing nothing” throughout the day, where we could catch our emotions, our anxiety for action, our cravings for emotional support, company, need to be someone in life, etc.

All of that inner noise is not allowing us to see with clarity, and our minds will be in continuous turbulence, trying to find a way on how to fulfill those recurrent desires… Isn’t that so?

The mask of being “good” or acting “good” or putting up a “façade” with others is our own deceitful way to deal with this turbulence in our minds.

Basically, “I” cannot deal or understand myself but “I” can pretend that “I” do.
Pretending sooner or later will show the real naked picture of ourselves to ourselves.

When we see that picture and not before, is when a “true” spiritual walker has been born.

At that point, any beliefs are of no consequence. What matters is to return to that tranquility, to that serenity in our day to day living.

It is when we reach this understanding, that we finally make choices in life to support that tranquility, that serenity. Before that, is just lip service and internal chaos.

We say that we want to be peaceful but we act in the opposite way. We say that we are “good,” but there is no goodness coming from a clouded mind… there is just a “script” to do, something that someone has told me to do, so I could be qualified as “good,” “honorable,” “worth of being God’s child,” etc.

When we are not watching ourselves, we make “mistakes.” Those mistakes are not “financial” issues necessarily; but mistakes in treating another human being without care and concern by using our words in a very sloppy way.

Those mistakes are very costly for they will come back to hunt us down. You can call that “karma” or “God is punishing you,” Avyakt7 just like to call that “oneness.”

What I do to “my hand,” I do it to myself… not just “my hand,” but “myself.”

When we go away from Nature and only take a hike into tech “progress,” we lose sensibility to beauty. When beauty is lost in our lives, all we have left is a “lie,” that is the “ugliness” that we see only in “others;” but the one that we fail to see in ourselves.

That beauty beyond duality in knowing ourselves, is the one which does not know about ugliness.


  1. avyakt7

    Thank you, Rob!
    The ones who influence are being influenced. That on going awareness means liberation from influences; as you mentioned, it is a moment to moment observation… 🙂


  2. Rob Taylor

    Thought provoking post. The real challenge in understanding self is the moment to moment observations regarding the forms of influence. We choose how we are influenced, and how we influence all of Creation. We need to observe the influences in real time….interacting with the “inner mirror”. Spiritual growth is a process of refining cause and effect relationships. The ego-based forms of influenced are gradually replaced by the influences of unconditional love. Just a thought…..


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