Changing “bad” into “good.”


“… It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing: your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.”
Wayne Dyer.”

For most individuals the teaching expressed above is great. Life squeezes you and the juice that comes out is what you are…

Let us take a look at this phrase: “What’s inside is up to you. It’s your choice.”

Going along with that consciousness, we are taught to change what we ARE by DOING several things, here are some of the ones that I recall in my life experience:
Praying, meditating, having yoga with God, feeling guilty every time I had anger and asking for forgiveness by confessing my sin, pretending to be good by rejecting my anger, keeping that anger inside and learning not to express it because it is “bad.” After all, I am supposed to be “love” and I need to act that part to be considered “good.”

In a subtle way, this is how we learn to be dishonest with ourselves.

Here is another realization: “If we want to change something in us, don’t change it, but observe it instead.”
The “I” changing the “I” is the illusion of an illusion, changing another illusion.

If we willfully change something, which is not ripe enough in consciousness, that will be a repression.

When we observe something, we realize the triggers and the consequences without judgment and labeling.

This is not an issue of “choice.” It is an issue of awareness. Until we are not aware, we will not have choice. Paradoxically, when there is awareness there is no need to choose.

The “choice” of replacing “negative things” for “positive” turns into a repression when it is not the natural consequence of observation and the assimilation of life experiences.

When we “choose” to live in love, that is not love but a belief of what we think love is. When our consciousness opens up through that observation, we may find that love is not an “action” or a “thought of being loving” but a continuous state of openness to “what is.”

Anger is not “bad” in itself. It is a mismanaged energy which has a consequence in the self and others.
The energy of anger could be transformed into strength when needed.

Typically all “spiritual” teachings in duality, will teach us to suppress and to “replace” with something else.

Replace your “bad” thoughts with “loving thoughts.”
Thoughts are a reflection of who we ARE at that point in time.
We change who we ARE, when we are AW-ARE…. paradoxically, without willfully making a change.

That change is non-intellectual, it is not to replace concepts in our minds and to make ourselves believe that we are “doing” good because we follow some law, code or commandment.

When there is awareness, there is flexibility to change without being asked to or told to, but it is a natural expression of being harmonious with our perception of “what is.”

Our ability to be conscious of our relationship with everything, changes our interaction naturally.
Until that point arrives in our lives, then it may be necessary to live under the “black or white” world of duality for as long as it is necessary.

Below, those “spiritual” teachings is a nutshell:

This is bad. That is good. This is right. That is wrong.
This is positive, take it. That is negative, reject it.
Sounds familiar? 🙂


  1. raj

    “Our ability to be conscious of our relationship with everything, changes our interaction naturally.
    Until that point arrives in our lives, then it may be necessary to live under the “black or white” world of duality for as long as it is necessary.”

    I would love to hear your experiences on this .if you ask for my exprience till date , I find it a path which require a lot of couragae , a path full of confusion( bcoz ur never sure what is right or wrong) . but one thing I would like to mention it has brought down my fear by some margin. Now I have started observing that fear and it is just a state of mind. I observe my fear and it goes. To add it more when I observe myself during that moment negative label attached with fear does not pop up .so it does not disturb my state of mind much .
    To put it in terms of % it still range s 4-5% so I need to channelize rest 95% and convert it to my strength .especially the fear because of a attachment or fear of being critical ill. ( if possible plz share any experience related to these)


  2. Latchimy Ramasamy Krishnan

    I m very touched to c n read about your achievements in path of spirituality. Your continued efforts will reveal God.
    Om Shanti
    BK Latchimy


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