Tagged: alokik

Question: As I understand in “Gyan” balance is the prerequisite in every aspect? Could you please throw light on this aspect: how to maintain balance between “Lokik” and “Alokik” life?

Thank you for your question! 🙂
The word “balance’ conveys the idea of “equilibrium.” That “balance” is never static. There is no a point in your life when we can say: “I have reached balance.” Rather, it is a concept to strive for.

The typical assumption of balance is that “I give more importance to something instead of something else for some time.”
For instance, sometimes family (lokik-worldly) life will need greater attention than the time that I use in spiritual endeavors.
This is the traditional view.
Note that we are always dividing things in our life: Spirituality, lokik family, alokik (spiritual) family, work, play, etc, etc.

Here is the paradox of balance:
When we do not see parts but the whole aspect of it, we naturally remain balanced. In other words, there is no difference between my “alokik” and my “lokik” life when both are part of who I am, a spiritual being and thus, look at those under the lenses of spirituality.

That spirituality will be in my “lokik” relationships. That alokik life will be there for I am not wearing “2 different masks,” (the lokik and alokik) but I will accommodate, adapt according to the individuals and circumstances.
I recall BapDada asking for that in the last season (2011-2012) BapDada mentioned that we needed to make everything alokik, everything spiritual in our life.

Finally, today’s blessing also mentioned about balance: karma and yoga. Both are One. My yoga feeds my karma and my karma allows me to have better yoga. That is balance.

Best wishes!

Question: Baba says that you have to make a balance between “Love” and “Law” could you please explain how to make this balance practically in lokik an alokik life?

Great question! Thank you for asking.

To answer your question I will share an article which was written sometime ago. It was about “Love and Law” and Dadi Janki’s words inspired me to do it.
When you finish reading it, I am sure you will get the point and will implement “law and love” practically in your life according to your circumstances and current set of sanskaras… 🙂

Here you go, Best wishes! 😉

“It takes a second to forgive. Be able to forget what happened so deeply that, even if someone reminds you, you cannot remember. Have a balance of law and love, not just law on its own. I do have to be firm following the laws of God, but this is easy in an atmosphere of love. Give love to yourself so you can follow God’s laws and give love to others so they can follow God’s laws. We have to move forward with forgiveness, compassion, honesty and love.”

Dadi Janki.

Laws are black or white. There is no in between. However, laws are able to make a distinction between what is considered correct and what is not; this distinction has no ranges. It is an “all or nothing” approach.

When we read a law, for instance: “Do not swim in this lake.” What would happen if I see a creature in that lake needing help and I enter this lake and swim in it? Did I break the law? Of course, I did. Do I feel “bad” because of that? Not a bit.

The problem comes when our mind becomes settled in extremes and we pretend to fit any event which life throws at us into those extremes. That is the easy approach.
Let me put everything in convenient “boxes” in that way my intuition, my sensibility is completely out of the picture and only “reasonable extremes,” thoughts based on duality, “black or white”are available.

I recall the story of a young close friend of mine who wanted to become a “great athlete.” He took great care in doing all of his assigned workouts, rest, nutrition, etc. He was very disciplined in following his daily routine, however; he wasn’t happy even though he was pursuing his dream. Why? Because he wasn’t in balance. A Human being is more than just a “great athlete.” Due to his motivation to follow everything down to the “dot,” this young fellow wasn’t enjoying a social life, he needed to go to bed at 10 PM, “no matter what in order to get his 8 hours of sleep which is recommended by most physicians as a normal and healthy habit.”

In his young age when most social activities were happening at night, he wasn’t able to go. When faced with this decision he stuck with his “athlete dream” so faithfully, but painfully, his social life was missing and with that the wholesomeness of life.That is the consequence of an “all or nothing approach.”

In due time, this lack of balance started showing in his athletic performance. The pressure of becoming “great” was even taking away the joy of practicing his sport.
Success is not a straight line. Most of us believe that in order to swim passing the waves of the ocean, we need to walk straight, no matter what. Watch out! …others are watching you… or so we think. Rather, it is an easier approach just to go under the waves and emerge, safe and ready to swim with joy and liberty after “bowing down” to the circumstances in life.

The “great athlete” could have shown his discipline by only attending to his friends parties, let’s say twice a month rather than denying them altogether.

Here is when love is needed. In this path of knowing ourselves, we need to learn to know our current stage. Are we there yet? Give love to yourself, encourage yourself, and “train” yourself to reach where you want to be. Do not give up. Go under the waves of “hard circumstances” and reach the destination safely. Enjoy life. Love is enjoyable.

Discipline is not longer discipline unless we understand the concept of flexibility. Discipline without flexibility is tyranny to our own self. Lack of respect for the self.
Wisdom comes when we learn to understand when to use flexibility and when to stop so it does not become carelessness. Discipline is this drive which clearly knows about the destination and knows the direction even though the winds of circumstances maybe blowing at a different direction.

To live life fully, thinking is not needed. Sensibility, appreciation and gentleness are necessary qualities to develop. Then we can act without “understanding,” without thinking and “acting right.” Laws are needed when those qualities are lacking. Thinking is “black or white.” Life does not have any colors.

Many times we are so hard on ourselves that we take away the joy in our lives.

Love is the answer. It takes time to learn to love ourselves, because we don’t realize that love is not something to give to “others,” when there is nothing inside ourselves to give.
As love grows inside us, giving is a natural consequence when there is fullness. A tree full of fruits does not know the significance of “giving.” Its own fullness automatically gives. That is a law of life…

BK musing on lokik and alokik ways.

While working out at the gym, there was a TV program going on. The name is “Jeopardy.”

Basically, you are rewarded with $$ for trivia stuff, meaning I can make more $$ if my head is full of all sort of information.

This is what a “normal” individual calls “knowing,” that is to have our heads full of information given by some authority. Nowadays, experience is not valued as much as “knowing information.” The only type of experience valued nowadays is the one which brings pleasure to the senses.

Even to break a sweat at the gym has to be “fun.” “Exercise is good for you but if it ain’t fun, I ain’t doin’ it” we hear.

This type of experience is very limited. Suffering is forgotten as all we want to think there is in life is pleasure, and instant comfort.

Anything that requires a “process” meaning time, should be forgotten.

If I suffer an occasional headache, I better take the magical pill to get rid of that headache by masking that headache, rather than finding out the cause of it as to avoid making the same error. I better take that “medicine” rather than getting a good sleep, I better take caffeine (CoKe) rather than “tasteless” water.

That is our “normal” society.

There is a little chance to step out of that comfortable “lab made” illusion of the world to experience spirituality.

Why? Because the simplest fact of all, our own impermanence; (meaning, I will not be around for 200 years) is to be forgotten.

Spirituality on the other hand, requires that we experience that “impermanence” now. It requires that we experience to live without supports of any kind. It requires that we change our “comfy” life style into a brutal 360 degree change.

Very few are capable of doing that.

Spirituality is no longer about burning incense and chanting “Om,” while dressing in white clothes, or to worship something or someone who we deem to be “powerful” to gain that thing/being favors.

Spirituality is to die. To experience that death and to be content, happy about it.

Some celebrate life only and avoid death at all cost.

Spirituality cherish death first as a way to be born “new” again.

BK life style is not for everyone. If you are able to follow it, consider yourself “fortunate” for you are one of the few and because you “belong” to the Deity to-be “exclusive” club.

That is the reward, to become a beautiful butterfly after that grueling metamorphosis.

BK life is not about reading books and talking/quoting about what someone said.

BK life is about living, experiencing under a new vision of the self and the world.

BK life allows us to experience discipline so we can live life fully aware at this time.

Without disciplines, life turns into a dance of noise, a dance without tunes, rhythm, beauty. Chaos.

Discipline allows us to be fully aware and sensitive to the call of time.

They cherish noise. We cherish silence.

They cherish sex. We cherish purity.

They cherish competition. We cherish cooperation.

They cherish sleep. We cherish awareness.

They cherish killing for pleasure of the senses. We cherish respect of other beings.

They cherish destruction. We cherish establishment.

They are different than us… but we are just like them: Imperishable Souls with a role to play in life.

“They” are now what ” we” were before….This brings compassion. Understanding.Image

Difference is needed, variety is needed. Respect is needed.

We are all coming from the same origin and we will go back to that same origin.

Be proud to be a BK. Be proud to cherish diversity.

Under God’s eyes we are all His children… and we need to be like the Father.