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Irritation and Compassion.

Raysha and Ahnanda were contemplating in a park nearby.
A scene appeared while they were enjoying the setting: A dog was viciously chasing another, persecuting that poor, smaller dog without mercy. Running fast across the park , we could hear some growling, barking and noises of distress.

Mathias asked Ahnanda: Do you disapprove that scene? Do you feel annoyance towards the bigger dog? What do you feel?

Ahnanda replied: I feel sorry for the smaller dog. I feel some anger towards the big dog. He is a bully and feel like Captain America once said: “ I don’t like bullies.”

Mathias replied: “As it is outside, is inside. Look for the personal message. The bully is your mind going after your heart, without mercy, without compassion. Knowing this, do not reject your mind by trying to control it. Gain consciousness of this fact, so the solution arrives all by itself.”

Part of the journey of self-realization is to gain a complete awareness of mind and feeling. Most individuals are unaware of this.

For instance, whenever we feel angry, annoyed or irritated about something we may not notice the bothersome sensation of invisible words in our mind; or sometimes full sentences, of the “little voice” speaking to us which we typically call “I.”
That voice drives our feelings. That voice is so strong that supersedes the way we feel. When we start distinguishing the voice of complaints, name callings, self-righteous beliefs from what is in our hearts, we have made a tremendous progress in “spirituality.”

Usually the heart is settled in its own peace, amazement and wonder, whereas the “special effects” are made by the mind. Those “effects” are highly biased by our conditioning, what we believe to be “right.”

Any episode in life is void of commentaries. No interpretations needed. A sharp individual will distinguish the messages which Life has for the self.

“Outside is a reflection of inside”, thus; outside shows what is inside.
Compassion is the way to look at “reality” rather than with anger or irritation.
The dictionary equates compassion with pity. That is not the meaning of compassion.

Gentleness to all. Unconditional acceptance. Those are better words to describe “compassion.”
The hunter and the prey are one unity. Just like compassion and irritation.
In fact, part of my own development with guidance of my “special” friends, is to observe how my repressed anger, irritation or annoyance vacates my consciousness, and turns into natural compassion.

Religious beliefs will label anger as sin. Nevertheless, without previous anger or rather forms of it (irritation, annoyance, exasperation) there is no material for compassion. “Vacating” anger into compassion is what is known as “transformation.” This happens when we become aware and filter the emotion by making a “somersault” of consciousness in the moment, the “now”, when irritation is happening, and observe with compassion.

Those who do not understand the laws of duality in Life, will merely “practice” compassion. That may be helpful, but it is fake. Just like a placebo.

In fact, without a deep understanding of our “reality” of duality, none of the above will make sense.

That is why, many believe compassion to be something to practice, or they will equate that with pity as the dictionary describes.
The words in the dictionary are poor tools to understand what is beyond understanding.
We have to feel to understand and we can feel, when we are AWARE.

 

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Dealing with emotions

Some individuals will walk through a spiritual path. There, they will learn about their own “weaknesses.” That is the typical label used to recognize those aspects which need “improvement.”
Others however, feel alright as they are. They are pretty sure it is others who cause problems and in turn make them feel upset, mad, angry, unhappy, etc. These people only react to the stimuli. Thus, a step forward in inner knowledge will be to realize that those emotions are within and triggered from without.

Those inner emotions have been labeled with a negative connotation: They are called sins, vices, etc.
The “spiritual game” consists on how to get rid of those “bad traits” and install the good ones, so we could “improve.”
On that end, many inventions have been made. There are confessions of sins, yoga with God, penances, positive thought, etc. Nevertheless, nothing has a lasting effect.

Why is that?
Emotions need to be expressed. We cannot get rid of them by DOING something.
A sad person cannot become truly happy by applying some positive thoughts.
A person feeling guilt and shame, will not be able to be free from those emotions by confessing them.

The typical stereotype of many “spiritual” individuals is: Reject those traits which are considered negative and only allow those things considered positive.

Instead, we may need to learn to express all emotions. Emotions are like water streams, they will run its own curse; however, we do not allow them to fully express, thus; we stop the flow and let those emotions stagnate in ourselves. That is what is known as a trauma.

Obviously, the full expression of some emotions will be detrimental to some members of society. If I feel angry, it will be detrimental to hit someone to express it. However, I could hit a punching bag instead, to my heart desire.
I could express sadness in the privacy of my bedroom and so other emotions as well, once I am AWARE of them. Once they are expressed, the water stream is gone. Just do not use your mind to bring that stream back.
We can feel guilt. Let it go by forgiving yourself, otherwise it will stagnate as self punishment, even though we may not be aware, it remains in the unconscious.

Children will use this principle of letting go. They do not reject or repress emotions. Those are fully expressed and gone. As grown ups become more complex and rigid, there is a need to create an outlet for them.

Although, the above may not be considered appropriate by some, all I have to say is that we cannot interfere with emotions as we see fit. That is utopia, and that has been mainstream teaching due to the mentality of “black or white” morality. A repressed emotion will be detrimental for our well being.

Life uses all emotional energies to express through us. Light cannot exist without the possibility for darkness. To know our best means to equally know our worst. That sort of knowing is experiential, it comes through observation, awareness.

With emotions, express them and once expressed, let them go. Emotional healing means to let go.

We live life just to go away. The candle is lit just to be extinguished. Emotions are meant to pass by, once they arrive.
Observe the game to play it well.

Changing “yourself” through feelings.

Here some important spiritual “keywords”: Forget and forgive. Love one another, trust our own process, be the change that we want to see, go beyond our comfort levels…
Right? All of those are famous “keywords” that we should “practice” to change ourselves. The above are the “right” answers. The skillful combination of those words should get any spiritual article plenty of “likes” from the reading community.
Truth is, those words are only plain words like any other word. Our minds could have a mental understanding by looking up the meaning in the dictionary, but still those pretty words cannot be understood at the necessary level to make a significant change.

How do I know that? We forget. We will go back to who we ARE in the moment that we least imagine, no matter how careful we are in our “practice.”
What we ARE will come out to the surface eventually.

We need to go beyond mental understanding. We need to go to the feeling level.

The irony is, that the word “feeling” is misunderstood for lack of experience. We have felt pain, pleasure and elation, but those are not the feelings that I am referring to.

To feel means to irradiate from the heart. What do you irradiate? Your feeling. It is energy.
That feeling could be as strong as the pleasurable sexual libido running through our bodies. As a matter of fact, it is the same energy.
With sexual libido we could make love to a person.
With the ardor of a sentiment irradiating from our hearts, we could make love to the Universe.

That feeling will bring fulfillment. A smile will be seen in our faces.

That is what makes a difference, a change. There is experience, thus true “knowing.”

Many are happy when someone says: “Hugs to you” or “wish you the best,” however, those are only politically correct words to be pleasant.
Those words could have meaning beyond the dictionary, when the source is the feeling of the heart.
We have forgotten that.

Our minds control us. We believe to “know” when there is a mental understanding of a concept. That could be alright when we are in a classroom learning many other “concepts” but in the reality of self knowledge, true knowledge is to experience.
The perspective of an experience could be changed through the feelings of our heart, and not just through the mental conditioning that we have learned.

Feel the spiritual “keywords.” Allow for that experience to break the insipid, theoretical knowing of the mind.
Fulfillment in Life is not found in the crazy unfulfilled mind which only knows about contrast, comparison and judgments. It is in feeling Life.
Feelings will liberate ourselves from the tyranny of our own conditioned mind.

True freedom is in that liberation.

When “bad” things happen to “good” people

Raysha and Ahnanda were speaking with Mathias, the wise “tree”.
Mathias was emphasizing the importance of expressing who we ARE. Everyone has a “mission” to express in Life, but that is consciously hidden and even repressed through mental conditioning for fear of not fitting the mental idea on how things “should be”, to be “proper.”
Ahnanda said to Mathias: “In our quest for expression, we have experienced many hardships in Life…”
Mathias replied: “That is because you are complete.”

In Life, to be “complete” is to have the capacity to experience both ends of duality. A person who is complete, will experience what is commonly known as “good” or “bad”, with greater emphasis than someone who is still in its infancy as far as consciousness is concerned. The experience of that which we label as “bad” changes people. 

“Spirituality for the masses” is very soothing in this respect. The aim is to gain customers, by caressing their egos.
For example, if you have experienced a “broken heart”, this type of “spirituality” will “teach” you how to deal with that. They will share with you the tools to heal and they will give you the “how” not to experience the same thing again.

That is for those who will walk carefully in Life, afraid of making “mistakes”. Live in fear. Keep your heart untouched by avoidance, by using the tricks, tools and techniques to keep you safe and heal you whenever “you” want.

That is not accurate, nevertheless; has value. It is for the masses. For the “best sellers.” For those who are not aware yet.

Feel the broken heart completely. Let it sink in. Become aware of that.
Then observe, find the “why” it hurts. Just remember that is ALL inside you. It is not because of you, but inside you. That “thing” is what will need to heal. That experience is an opportunity that Life is giving us to find out about ourselves, to “know thyself.” Whether we decide to live life “protected from further pain” and thus, not living Life; that is still yet another experience which will bring other experiences in Life. Eventually, the “broken heart” will disappear in due time, not when we “want it” to. Life brought it. Life will take it away.
How is it possible for those who do not even “know thyselves” to know when the duration of an experience is enough? Every experience in Life has timing.

We don’t need to try to “fix” everything in this lifetime. Enjoy Life, but become AWARE of who you ARE, so you learn to understand yourself, to accept yourself, love yourself and consequently, Life. Thus; learn to trust Life. That is how even though we are hurt, we could go in the open again. It is that trust the one that heals. It is also called “acceptance” but I like to refer to it as “openness.” 

As what we call “good” is undone to become “bad” all by itself, so that which we call “bad” will become “good” again. It is a game.
No one needs to figure this out how to DO it. It just happens. It is the way of duality.

My new friend Miguel (being of light) mentioned to me: “Notice how your breathing is automatic, you don’t know if the next breath will be there for you. Trust Life. You are protected.”

“Protection” in Life does not mean that “bad” things will not happen. It means that “bad” will become “good.” It means that a “bad” experience is necessary to evolve, to change into something different; thus not really “bad.” It is a catalyst, part of our evolving consciousness. “Good” people have the capacity to endure “bad” things. That is the other side which needs to be experienced, explored for a complete experience in Life, that is to be complete.

A jigsaw puzzle needs to have all pieces together to be complete. However, the game is not to have the puzzle sitting there complete. All pieces will be disseminated through living Life, we label that as “bad”; then we will need to find the pieces in many lifetimes and make them fit again into a complete jigsaw puzzle.
That is the game.
Life is the greatest game of all.

The “Spirituality” of Self- Awareness

There is nothing more “spiritual” than being self aware. There is no better “practice” or “sadhana” than self-awareness.
What is it?
Everything happening “outside” impacts “inside”. Become conscious, aware of the changes inside. Similarly, what is “inside” impacts “outside.” When there is no difference between “inside” and “outside” we are self-aware.
But then, who are we?
What you ARE. No further explanations needed. No more mind to figure things out. To define, to make a pretty concept is to deceive ourselves. It is an experience.

When speaking with your boss, notice what is going on inside. Let us not put a label. Just notice.
When watching a movie, notice the changes inside during the movie. Notice how something which is not “real” (movie) becomes “real” inside us.
How is that possible? We live through the mind.
On-line friends is all mind.
Conditioning through TV is all mind.
Pornography, all about the mind. Fulfillment in sex is totally in no-mind.

That awareness is one of the most important realizations someone aware could have.
Let us not think that we “know” now, because it is only information.
That theoretical “knowing” is complete ignorance. We need to experience it ourselves to know. We need to be AWARE.

Notice how the mind creates our moods. Someone cut me off while I was driving. The “offender” went away; nevertheless, the episode stays with me. The origin is that I feel belittled. How did he dare to do that to ME? The mind will not let go.
Notice how long it takes to “move” from that situation. How long it takes to let go. Many things will have to happen to entertain our minds before we let go. What is stopping us from letting go right away?
Discover that. That is “true” spirituality.

Observe the way we walk. Observe how a thought to “hurry up” changed our otherwise, calm and relaxed movement. Are you aware of your breathing while walking? Are you aware of the force we apply every step on the ground? Many injuries on the joints have started through that inoffensive walk.

Want to be calm in a discussion? Just observe how your mood changes. That is all it takes. Like a yo-yo, go back to your center. “Move” back again. Let go.
For that to work, we need to become aware of the mind and how it obligates us to behave in certain ways, according to our conditioning.

Have you experience OCD? It is the mind taking over. There is no will power that could stop that, for will power is another game of the mind.
Just become totally aware of the silliness, of the force beyond our conscious will. That “practice” becomes the cure when we let go.

Have you become aware of how much we eat? How much of that is emotional hunger? How much of that is the mind telling us that we need more or less?

Have you noticed when we sleep well at night, the mind has been completely shut down? An overworked mind will remember at night the movie we watched or the emotional episode we went through, stopping our needed relaxation to sleep well. As this becomes a habit, we will use a pill to knock us out so we can sleep.

When there is mind, we observe. There is an “I” observing.
When there is no mind, there is no one observing.
That is known in spirituality as “witnessing” or a “detached observer.”

What is “no mind”?  Pure, unconditioned Consciousness.

The most mysterious thing in the whole Universe

Raysha was speaking with the wise tree, Mathias.
Mathias asked: “Raysha, what is the most mysterious thing in the Universe?”
Raysha responded:  The self.
Mathias agreed with an ovation.

Let me suggest some fine destinations for your next trip:
“Vacation to the inner self.” “ Watch the wonderful low valleys and huge mountains of your own consciousness.”
“Visit the mesmerizing beauty of your inner awareness.” “Have a great time with the experience of your own inner smile.” Tickets and accommodations already provided in the best hotel… Your – self. Zero down. Zero payments. Call now. Operators are standing by… Pick up that phone! Dial One- one- one- one- one – one – one – one -one -one… If you hear back that this number does not exist, that is a good clue!

Everyone wants to be “happy.” Everyone wants fulfillment in Life. Those things are wanted because those are not experienced. Therefore, where can I buy those things? How much they will cost ? Perhaps those things will be in my next getaway…

We merely survive in Life. We want for time to go by while our minds get some entertainment. We call that to live Life.
Aren’t we AWARE of it?

If we were AWARE then, we could go anywhere, do anything, buy whatever and we will be fulfill, happy.

That sounds good, huh? How do I get it? I want some of that…
Aware of the Self. That is already with you, 24×7. No time for that? No worries, it will be with you every second of your Life. Where is it?
Become AWARE of it.

Life has a funny sense of humor, though.
To find it, means to lose it. Once lost, “you” have arrived.

Going beyond mental understanding

Our world of concepts is supported by our perceptions. That in itself, will give us a twisted view of what we call “reality.”
For example, what I can observe, touch, smell, etc. becomes my physical “reality.” Many individuals having similar experiences will agree to label our descriptions of similarities as “reality.” However, how could we be so sure that what we are able to interpret through our senses is in fact what is “real”?

Isn’t science verifying our physical reality from the standpoint of what our senses are able to pick up? What is that which we could truly know?
We heard it many times, ME; but yet that is left for the very last.

We use more labels to figure out what we ARE, but we do not observe what IS.
We are a “soul” we say. Isn’t that merely a label to describe a concept? The concept is whatever we believe a “soul” to be. How is that helpful to know ourselves?
Is the reality of that label depending on my experience alone ? Or perhaps is the acceptance of the authority of someone else like a guru, a scientist, God, etc?
In self knowledge, concepts are truly deceitful.

Free will and Predestination. Merely labels to describe a perception. When we go beyond the labels and concepts, another “reality” emerges.
That is our interdependence. Observe the web of relationships. When we understand that our actions affect everything else (Totality) we could also understand that someone’s activity even though away from my field of perception, will definitely affect ME in some way. The part (“I”) affects the whole (every living being) and similarly, the whole affects the part. “Logical”?

Why do you like chocolate ice cream (or other flavor)? How does it (particular taste) appeared in your repertoire of things to like? We don’t think about that. We prefer the shallow “I like.” End of report. We call that “free will.” There is a Totality behind that “I like” phrase, we express a small part of that Totality through an insignificant “I like.”
However, Science hasn’t proved that. Science cannot comprehend that we ARE individuals but at the same time, a Totality. That is too far out.

What are the practical aspects of the above?
Every religion, every philosophy, every “ism”, every political party out there cannot have the “truth.” It is always partial. An incomplete perception.
How do I know that?
Life cannot be described through words. The Totality cannot be understood through words just like a human being cannot.
Need proof?
Ask someone to describe you exactly as you ARE. That is not only your psychological make up at a certain point in time, but your physical appearance, your unique behaviors, etc.
It is impossible. Only you know and the totality of what you know cannot be shared to others.

Perceptions. Our world is viewed through perceptions.
Isn’t what I am explaining also a perception? You bet.
That is why, mental explanations, descriptions and concepts are only distractions from what truly matters.
What is that?
To learn to be AWARE of ourselves. That is the only thing that we can know for sure, the only thing that we could be completely honest about; but yet for most of us, that “reality” is full of conditioning, full of traumas which will not allow us to fully look.

The mind has expectations, it has dreams, it has objectives to accomplish. The world is a playground to “achieve” and to show everyone “who we are.”
That is ego. That is not who we ARE. We ARE when ego is not.

“We” are a soul. “We” are a spirit. “We” are a multidimensional being.
Those labels behind concepts are fooling us from the possibility to observe.

Get rid of those labels. They only confuse and limit the unlimited.
Feel what IS. Observe what IS. Become AWARE of that without the distraction of labels and mental voices, which compel us to verbalize our experiences.

When there is no mind, we ARE.