The game of the victim and the hunter
To arrive at a different awareness we may need to find for ourselves the insanity of our deep beliefs. Life will present the trigger, the instant that we may need to appreciate to find the “gem.” That “gem” could be a simple rock, nevertheless; it comes from the depth of our being, as the trophy for looking where “no man has gone before.”
Richard was walking down the beach. There was a fisherman there. As he walked by, Richard saw a container with small silver colored fish. Richard looked closer at the container and a small cute fish swam towards the surface of it. It seemed as if the fish wanted to get out but it couldn’t.
Richard wanted to “liberate” the fish, but he felt short to talk to the fisherman, maybe because of fear, maybe because of shame. Richard decided to stay close by and observe.
Richard was shame, fear, fairness, sadness, anxiety… but he wasn’t violence at that moment.
As Life has it, just a few minutes passed by and the fisherman decided to go someplace. The fisherman took the container with little fish and he walked by the Ocean with it… Richard thought “Yes! Release them.” But the fisherman swoosh around the content of the container and threw the fish towards the white sand away from the Ocean… some birds standing by did not hesitate to have a feast with the small fish!
Richard felt sad, guilty, he felt like a coward…
“Wait a minute… what is the big deal with fish? It is just fish. No big deal!”
That is what a fish represents for everyone else but Richard.
When Richard goes by the Ocean, fish will jump looking at him. Their jumping out of the Ocean and into the air, is a precious sight to watch. There is a language there between fish and Richard, an experience that no one else could be able to understand. Richard loves fish as a human could love their own pet. That is the story, which is not in the surface, which is not known to everyone… Fish are “special” for Richard.
For that “reason,” Richard felt at that time that he betrayed his “friends.”
Life will show us different stories.
For the fisherman; those fish meant something different. They meant food, and so for the birds.
The scene was meant to bring certain emotions in Richard.
Seeing fish jump out of the water and enjoying that unique moment, is to enjoy Life.
To use that moment to decorate Richard’s passive ego by giving to fish a certain significance such as “special,” “friends,” and any other label to bring closeness and partiality towards them to the point of feeling a need to protect them, that is another story.
Out of that need to “protect” something which does not call for protection, an “active” ego is born.
“Richard: Protector of fish, the innocent, the unprivileged ones, the handicapped, etc.” but… as much as Richard is known to be brave, he is a coward as well… for he didn’t save his friend, (as the Disney channel could show how a Dolphin will save his “friend” the dog, from the evil Shark when “cute dog” fell off the boat of his master… I mean human friend.)
The ideal was broken and Richard was able to see how his emotions were dependent on that “savior image” that he (the “I”) has placed upon himself.
The passive ego suffers. The passive ego will call himself derogatory names to feel “better.”
Didn’t the fisherman feel bad for throwing the fish to the birds?
No. He acted according to his nature. He gave food that he didn’t need to the birds. He may have thought of himself as “helping the birds” but the passive ego can believe anything about himself. “Fish” means something different for the fisherman than for Richard. This scene only brought emotions, which inflicted self-punishment in Richard.
That was a great opportunity to heal.
Fortunately, Richard was able to observe that “sad” story in himself at that moment … so he is no longer that “sadness.”
The passive and the active ego will play with our emotions when a scene of Life “attacks” a deep belief. To be open, means to be able to recognize other perceptions in Life: The fisherman and the bird’s. Perceptions are not wrong, neither right.
Life is truly a movie. We are not “part of it,” we are “it,” the movie itself…. One. When we lose that perspective we may get caught up with deep collective human beliefs. Suffering will arrive when our ego has invested itself to promote or defend a particular belief and that belief is being challenged in Life.
As Richard learns to see that the fish became part of the bird, he could understand that the perception of horror of a separated ego fighting to keep himself alive, is just another perception. Death is part of Life. We could embrace it or we could reject it. The ego rejects… Ego cannot see beyond its little “self.”
Consciousness cannot be destroyed. Therefore, the easiest thing to do in Life, is to let go… but we were taught to stick with the difficult, to fight for the static “I” to continue on despite changes.
The role of the victim and the hunter are continually played in Nature. In the human world, we have the same roles but with more “civilized” labels; the coward and the brave. Every being gets to play both roles.
We are taught to stick with one role and to reject the other.
That is insane.
Both roles depend on each other. They are One. If you experience one side, you must experience the other side. What could be the “moral” of the true story above?
Embrace both. There is a coward in every brave man as there is a victim in every hunter, for Death is in Life as Life is in Death.
Only labels separate what otherwise could not be separated.
“Intense” is the word used to denote the “highs and the lows.”
How do you know that you are in an intense relationship?
Look at the mirror. You may see a shadow of your former self.
Your vibes will be low. Your anxiety high.
The intensity of going from one extreme into another becomes an addiction as when a drug addict has anxiety towards his “fix.” That period of anxiety is the price to pay for getting the “high.”
Is it worth to get that high?
For an addict it is. For a person without the addiction, it will be a moment to enjoy and to let go.
What is the intense relationship setting showing us?
The need to feel loved. Typically someone in an intense relationship has their self-esteem and image depending on what others “make them feel.” They will become trapped in the sensations that will satiate their inner void.
That sensation, they will call love or to fall in love; nevertheless, love is away from them for there is no love in dependency, in need.
A partner acting as a trigger allows for the intensity to outburst. That emotional intensity is inside the person experiencing an intense relationship.
Intense relationships are known for bringing the duality of pleasure and pain to the outmost.
Many emotions will be felt in such a relationship: Fear, control, anxiety, breaking down with impotence of not being able to “fix things.” Likewise; tenderness, pleasure, closeness…but not in day to day living but in moments.
A physical or emotional disease is the outcome.
Intense relationships are not “bad.”
They will show us our limits and our vulnerabilities.
To continue in such a relationship in the name of “love,” is like pulling the trigger of a pistol pointing at our heads, in the name of “peace.”
What is the solution?
It is embodied in a name. It is called “Courage.”
Just like an addict needs courage to step out of the addiction, a person living an intense relationship will need the courage to get out, to cut that thread which is self destructive.
Just look at the mirror.
That takes will power. That takes guts and self-respect.
Life may bring help, but the choice to get out of that situation is completely ours.
Courage is not something that we could ask someone to have for us.
Courage is the energy that needs to flow from our beings and our hearts to step out from the ditch that we have digged with our need to be loved. The lover arrived but the lover wasn’t loving… but we took it anyway.
Self-respect is the first step towards knowing love.
Courage to be
Which religion has the truth?
That question implies concepts of “truth” and falsehood. That is duality. When there is duality, we are not grasping “reality” and thus, the paradoxical “real” truth.
However, the above question makes a great introduction for philosophical talk and historical research. As a matter of fact, it is the main ingredient for debates and exchange of words.
Nevertheless, there is nothing behind all of that.. other than plenty of words.
That is the same stuff that we will find when we look for a spiritual enlightening video in ”youtube.”
No realizations, but just history. Concepts. Easy to follow explanations lingering in duality. The same repetitive concepts to dull the mind in the assurance that “we know something.”
There are very few, “spiritual teachers” who will share out of their own experiences. Most, is about “spiritual research” done by others or to relate an interpretation of “holy scriptures” written by someone and whose position is defended by a follower.
From a religious perspective, that information could be important. That means another follower signing up, another “proof” to support a dogma.
From a spiritual perspective, it is useless information.
In Spirituality, “book” information is plain useless.
When we share something spiritual, it should be able to sparkle a different view, a different perspective about our own inner world, so there is a realization, which in turn will bring another perspective, a change of vision.
That perspective when made practical becomes our new self. A new attitude is born.
Unfortunately, most are unwilling to live by the realizations of their own experiences and rather have the “comfortable ride” of just believing what someone “important” says.
“He is an expert.” “He has 500000 followers.” “He is wonderful, divine.” “He speaks very well.” “He has special powers.”
All of that creates an organized faith, which eventually replaces spiritual knowledge with just rituals to “follow.”
Spirituality is meant to uplift by sharing experiences rather than “truth,” for everyone of us has to discover their own truth. Yes, No one can walk your own path for you.
That is why, courage is needed, for there will come a time when following is not enough, for it is a matter of living life with authenticity.
At that point to throw away everything we thought we knew, may be needed.
That takes courage. It is the time to be humble and have the openness to learn.
When we are attached to our own ideas, we suffer as we do not allow ourselves to change according to our inner voice, but rather follow comfortable, well-established, traditional patterns.
Some things need to go away, before “newness” arrives.