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Enjoyment with intensity


Ananda was looking at the spectacular display of “natural” lights on a late afternoon during the summer.

The sky was displaying a unique palette, which no human artist could ever imitate.
As night was approaching, those colors were displaying different hues with such intensity that anyone could feel the liveliness of that moment.

The clouds were displaying unique, fashionable shapes thanks to the doings of a graceful, cooling breeze blowing from the east, which combined with the whole Totality of that moment, gave the seer a unique perspective on the art of appreciation.

Ananda realized that as long as he had no thoughts in his mind from past or future, he was able to enjoy.

As that moment became all there was, the idea of having a “seer” (Ananda) separating himself from that which was seen, did not exist.

That is called integration.

Nevertheless, because Ananda is able to describe all of these details, there had to be an observer observing. That is the sense of self.
As that “self” dilutes, enjoyment naturally appears and with that, the intensity and brightness of the moment enhances the experience of being part of all.

The understanding through an experience is extraordinary, because if we ever thought that “ego” was “bad,” now we could see that it is not.

Ego is merely not allowing a different experience, which is to be integrated with all.

Happiness does not reside in manifesting ego, although; there could be moments of happiness in that consciousness… 🙂

A pond could be a source of great joy for some who do not know about the Ocean or a Lake.

It is relative to our consciousness.

That is why, the art of enjoyment is not related with comparisons. It is not related with having things or being in the “right” circumstance.

It could be in being… nothing.

Witnessing a detached observer in life

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It was a cool and breeze night in Spring. There was a full moon shining over the clear sky surrounded by the tranquil waters of the Bay. An inviting golden path of light touching the water, illuminated the landscape with its slow rhythmical movement, accompanied by the soothing and calming sound of the Ocean caressing the boulevard’s balustrade.

That is the ballroom dance show of Nature!
All beings are invited to take part of it, but only those who can see it, will know where to “be.”

Donald was appreciating the full moon moving across the sky, when suddenly a cloud covered the sight of the moon and the golden light.

Lights off! 🙂

That cloud finished the party! 🙂

Was the cloud purposely moving to “stop Donald’s party”?
Was the cloud really moving or it was the moon, moving in the path of the cloud?
Wait a minute, the moon does not have any light….It is the Sun….

Can the cloud move by itself, or it was the wind moving the cloud?
Is the wind able to move things by itself or is the Earth moving in rotation, which produces wind?

Donald realized that his mind was producing “deep analytical questions” which could be labeled in that moment as “ unrelented sheer stupidity.”

The time calls for unuttered appreciation and enjoyment… not intellectual questioning.

“Lights off” is part of the movement, the show…

In life there are many variables, which together produce an outcome.

Donald: Why Sally shouted at me?
Daisy: Maybe because she was angry with her parents…She had a terrible childhood, you know. It wasn’t really at you. Don’t take it personally…

Donald: But.. Why me?

Daisy: Because you were there. Because you are pretty soft. Because you are wearing a red tie, and she hates red ties… because…

We could simplify by giving “reasons” but those reasons are not complete. Something is missing.

Nevertheless, everything goes back to the observer.

The observer is the “point of reference.” We could say “that everything is relative to the observer.”

Then, as long as there is an “observer” there will be a point of reference, a point of view. Consequently, the division between the observer and that, which is observed, will be there. It is in that division where the consciousness of individuality resides.

Totality, togetherness, unity, oneness, etc. is not part of that consciousness.
Please see that for yourself.

In Spirituality, one of the “goals” is to be a “witness,” a “detached observer” of life. There is only observation. There is no observer nor a separated object to observe.

Please see that as long as there is a point of reference; that is an “observer” there cannot be a witness or a detached observer of life.

Therefore, no one whose consciousness is only located in individuality (observer) will be able to grasp and to experience the integration with Totality, for that means to be a “detached observer” in life.

Many think that to be a “detached observer” is to be calm and indifferent, someone who feels no desires…someone who is “dead.” That is possible when someone who only experiences the consciousness of individuality in his life, pretends to be a “detached observer” in life.

In the consciousness of Totality, a detached observer is completely alive, joyful, appreciative… enjoying the changes, the ups and downs, the turn around… 🙂 Just like a child.

The paradox of knowing the “self.”

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And just when we thought that we have “arrived” by “knowing the self” and its great amount of beliefs, ideas, biases, fears, judgments, expectations, disappointments, and so forth …which are obstacles in living life to the fullest; then we could realize that all of those things are truly what make up our personality, then in a moment of high “illumination” we could wonder: What could happen if all of that junk is miraculously erased from our minds?

Ah!! Then we become empty. Clean. Clear…. But only at the mental level. You see, the mind does not have life in itself although the illusion resides in making us believe that “life is mental.”
For most, life is information, analysis, judgments, choices, moral values, traditions, etc.

To feel is to live. When those feelings are “pure,” that is clean, clear due to a clear mind; then those pure feelings become you own “morality” in life, at that point there is no need for “mental” commandments and codes to follow.
Finally you have connected with the Totality of life, the source or even for some, with the Almighty, with God. No more words to “prove” something. You are the proof.

Please see that nothing here is intellectual. Nothing here is a mental paradigm to follow or a “fool-proof” prescription for everyone.

In the path of the spiritual walker; You find yourself just so you forget yourself. Isn’t that one of the most exciting paradoxes ever devised? 🙂

That is the witness. The detached observer. The “equal to the Father.” The “ego-less,” the “soul conscious,” the …. Come on make up a label to call it!

Of course, experience matters! This is not something that I could “get” by “making effort”… or by “trying hard,” or by “praying to God,” or by … Come on, make up a label!

This just happens as our awareness, our consciousness increases according to time. As we become aware of all that heavy junk residing in our minds… then we could liberate ourselves from being a slave of our own fears.

Because “you” and “me” come from the same source, the same components which make the clock of life to tick, tock… we cannot pinpoint a single component of that clock which is responsible for the “tick tock” but is the togetherness, the Totality of all components making it happen… To feel “I am the one” is meaningless when Oneness is the “One” making things to tick tock… and so the tick tock shall continue despite my beliefs, ideas, taboos and dogmas… Isn’t that fantastic? 🙂

Witnessing -Observing- Detached Observer and all of that

The following videos will illustrate “practical spirituality,” versus “theoretical” spiritual “skills.” 🙂 These videos are about 5 minutes each.
The topic is witnessing or being a detached observer.

Out of the many modern ‘gurus’ in existence, avyakt7 enjoys to listen to Mooji once in a while.
Mooji is not like the typical Guru surrounded with all the devotional, uppity stuff around him. To avyakt7, Mooji shows human care and with his unpretentious style is able to touch listeners with his spiritual experience. Below is a video of him (there are a couple of devotional pictures before the video itself.)

Dr. Scott Peck in this video could be the typical “lecturer theorist of Spiritual knowledge.”
This video will explain the intellectual concepts behind “peace skills.”
You “learn” skills to “love.” He is going to enumerate all the skills you need to become a loving person, a “love master.”

You will learn to work through conflicts by getting into “detach” mode but at the same time, using your peace “skills.” 🙂
You are in a detached “mode” but it is not “good” to be too detached because people will think that you don’t care, etc… His talk is a good starter point for someone who does not want to listen to the word “spiritual” but yet only believes in conceptual learning and in building “skills.” 🙂

Spirituality is not a mental game to “pretend” to be something that we are not. Detachment is not a “skill” that we learn; it is a state of consciousness which appears as we experience a different awareness based on inner inquire, solitude and harmonious living.

There are not Ph.Ds in Spirituality. There is a “reason” for that.. 🙂

Want to become a “detached observer”?


The experience of being a “detached observer,” is one of those things which come together with the experience of the “true” self. To maintain that state of being, that consciousness is the trademark of true spirituality from my perspective.

Witnessing is a key word in Spiritual talk. Witnessing or being a “detached observer, “ or a “trustee” means in essence to observe life as if it was a movie show where “I” am a participant and part of the audience at the same time.

This paradox could also be referred as the “I” not being there; that is dissolved; then there is Oneness.

For those trapped in words and concepts, that state of being could be labeled as “bad” by those believers in individuality, when in fact; it represents harmony with everything in the Drama of life, the movie of life.

The paradox being that individuality leads into Oneness. The foliage and expansion of the branches of a tree, will eventually lead into the seed.

When there is the consciousness of “I” there is separation. When there is the consciousness of the “real” “I” there is no conceptualization of individuality.

The paradox is that to feel the “real” “I” means to be in oneness with all.
That is witnessing. That is being a detached observer.

Otherwise, it becomes the mind making sure that there is “I” being separated form everything else and “I” “making effort” to be in harmonious relationship with the movie of life.

When we are trapped in concepts, we will merely act a pretentious detached observer role. That is, “I” will think that “I have to practice being a detached observer for 3 hours every day.”

That practice is the practice of a mind driven concept, which is not near as close as what the actual sensation of that state of witnessing is.

In short, to be a detached observer means to experience the self as being “separated” from the roles in life but at the same time; having the experience of that role. Both, separation and unity; not just one aspect. This is embracing duality.

Let us say that someone has a stomach ache. That person wants to become a detached observer from that pain. When that person is practicing this, that person will repeat to himself: “I am not the pain, I am not the body, I am separated from the body, etc.”

Those words become the struggle of being free from that pain in the stomach. We could almost say that we are rejecting that pain.

Acceptance is the first step to go over anything in life.

Without the experience of the self, there will not be an automatic acceptance and therefore, a calm way to deal with things in a “detached manner.”

Take your medicine, treat the pain; but rather than being the “star” of the show; become the one sitting in the first row of the movie theater.

I could “choose” to be the spectator of the movie of life or I could become the protagonist.

To know that balance without thinking about it, is to exercise our “free will,” without knowing about those conceptual words.

Question: How does the stage of a detached observer cut off our sin?

Thank you for your very good question!
Dear soul,

I will give a bit of explanation to your thoughtful question.

First, let us erase that word “sin” from our vocabulary. In the understanding of the “unlimited,” we can see that there is a movie going and actions will be performed which have a consequence. Without those activities, we wouldn’t be able to experience duality and thus, go back to non-duality. It is best to refer to “sin” as “body conscious” activities; for these actions are performed in that consciousness.

In that way, we can erase the idea of “bad” that comes with the word “sin;” for after all; we will experience the fruit of those activities; which as we know; are part of the “eternally repetitive” Drama of life.

A “sin” is the experience of suffering as a consequence of a previous deed. “Vikarma.”

That stage of a “detached observer” also known as “witnessing,” or a “trustee,” or being “karanhar” and letting “karankaravnahar” work through us; we could go through the movie of life without being affected by it. Just observing and enjoying the “show,” the movie.

Therefore, there is no such a thing as “cutting off” sins; for the law of karma will do its work regardless but this time, we will not be affected by it. That is how the “crucifx will change into the experience of being pricked by a thorn.”

Now, here the important point: As we settle our karmic accounts, we will be experiencing that stage automatically, for less things will be able to affect us. BUT, if we practice that stage ( I rather say, experience that stage) then, we will be able to “accelerate” the stage of not experiencing those “karmic accounts” with the same intensity until there is no longer the experience of that karmic account, (it doesn’t affect us) so we are free from it.

Thus, greater experience of the stage of a detached observer, less experiences of karmic bondages. That is the meaning of “cutting off sins.

In Sakar Murlis, that stage of being a “detached observer” is known as “karmateet.” Brahma Baba mentioned that this stage will be reached at the “end.” However, in avyakt Murlis, that stage of being “karmateet” or a “detached observer” was updated to “living now,” and not just at the end. In this way, we could be experiencing those karmic bondages but feeling them as a “thorn pricking our little finger.”

Best wishes!

We do what we are


Being is living. What we truly are has been there for eternity. Some may know “that,” with a label: A soul, a spirit, purusha; etc.

The experience of that which we are is all that matters, for that is all that we could ever know. The rest are perceptions.
Feelings are the expression of that being.

When activities are performed in that awareness of that “inner being,” then our activities are “in-tune” with the “outer” spirit of life.

Some call that “Drama,” others call it “Tao,” others call it “Life.”

Therefore, there is a universal consciousness, which brings unity to everything there is, everything that happens. Nothing exists in isolation.

When the perception of that unity is lost, then the “mirage,” the “illusion” of separation exists. When we separate, we build individuality. When that individuality overtakes our personality; it becomes known as ego.

Suffering then is a consequence of that separation from the totality of life.

Ego manifests its power through thoughts and emotions.
Thoughts usually become our perception of being separated which will manifest into actions and further thoughts. This repetitive cycle is what is known as “sanskara” or predisposition. An ego performing actions, will be actions with ego.

When a thought colors the original feelings of the “inner being,” they become emotions. Those emotions express themselves through the body: a disease, a sensation, a pain in the heart, upset stomach; etc. Those disturbances we name as : fear, love, hate, etc. When we express emotions, the body will experience the consequence of it.
Emotions are dualistic. A high elation is followed by a low depression. Their intensity is the same but in opposite directions.

The seed then is a thought. That thought is one of separation between “you and me.” That is the importance of recognizing thoughts.

Therefore, the “cure” for this “disease” of separation, is to go back to the original nature of Oneness. That means that our consciousness needs to be in the awareness of what is “true.”

This has been called “witnessing,” detached observer, trustee, presence, careful awareness, etc. Different names for the same thing.

When that “witnessing” comes with feelings originating in the self; it has been known as “yoga.”

Therefore, the cure of separation and suffering is to remember that oneness. That means to experience it constantly.

This sense of oneness, has been named as experiencing God for some, or to be in bliss for others; note that the experience of being with someone like God or by itself, are both accurate as long as there is the sense of unity, communion. That makes the experience of spirituality complete. The descriptive words are not as important as the experience itself. The proof of that spiritual experience is in our activities. We do what we are.

Let us say that John is a challenging employee. John does not care about his supervisor’s role. He will challenge his supervisor continuously. Roy supervises John and Anne supervises Roy. That is the “chain of command.”

Before Roy was hired, Anne supervised John. Anne believes that John is necessary in the organization, even though John continually gets in trouble with other employees due to his “know it all” attitude.
John is very knowledgeable in what he does and despises “slow people.” John has a big ego.

John manipulated his work schedule as he wished. He wanted Roy, his supervisor; to sign for it. Roy refused on the grounds that John never asked for permission to change his regular schedule.

John was upset. He mentioned that he has been always a tireless employee in the organization, willing to go the “extra mile.”
John complained to Anne about this.

Anne was a caring woman, who believed in John at all costs. John has saved “her skin” in many occasions due to his know-how.

Anne met with Roy about this incident. At the end it was Anne, the one making the final decision.

In the rational world; John didn’t have any valid ground on his posture. However, in the “real world,” we have Anne’s emotions which are coloring her decision. Anne does nto want to cause issues on her “star employee,” but at the same time; she wants for Roy to feel good.

Roy had some “choices.”
1) He could try to enforce his position (ego) over John. By asking Anne to fully comply with his refusal to sign his time sheet. By doing so, Anne’s emotions will appear and defend his “star employee.”
2) Roy could just explain his position and become part of the “movie;” that is accepting whatever Anne decides to do. Many could take this as lack of “ aggressiveness” from Roy; but in the “movie of life,” we know that it all depends on how important this episode is for Roy. That “importance”becomes an expectation. That is a desire to enforce his supervisory position over John.

Many times life will offer us the same episode. As long as there is separation between “me” and “you” at any thought level; we will have a desire. If that desire is fulfilled or not; it will lead into further desires to strengthen the separation. That is how ego strengthens itself.

Roy could be totally “unshakable” if he just becomes a witness; that is a detached observer with “unlimited disinterest” on the outcome. Anne’s decision will not affect him as long as Roy’s ego is not around. Roy still will obtain a paycheck and the law of karma will do the needful. In which way?

If Anne decides to agree with John; then John will simply “bypass” Roy at all times.
John will keep pushing his way until Anne will not be able to take it anymore. Roy just needs to “get out” from being in between.

As long as Roy lets everything unfold, without having his ego included in this; things will flow according to the spiritual laws. This is known as being “empty,” a “trustee.”

However, that “emptiness,” can only be “true,” if it comes from the experience of the self. That is continuous remembrance of our eternal quality. That remembrance is experiential. Without this experience, it will be just “acting.” When we “act” we are not “original,” and the consequence of that is an emotion building up in the self. We can stop emotions from being shown at a particular time; but that emotion will be waiting there to “explode” at a later time. That is known as a “sanskara” emerging; but note that the origin was a repressed emotion.

We cannot stop the flow of energy but just redirect it. Transform it. What we produce, will come back to us.