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Meditation

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This word , “meditation” has different meanings. Depending on a particular belief system, there will be a method, a discipline which needs to be practiced in order to gain a different consciousness.

This idea of “gaining” is in itself the problem. This is the idea of a society which inculcates to “do” something in order to “gain” something.

Spirituality does not work on those terms; thus; part of the teachings are meant to forget our previous ways.

For instance to have a logical, analytical mind is a hindrance in the experience of the self. But, in the “real” world, there is always a “good” job for those who have those qualities.

The idea of “progress” is also another handicap. We tend to do things expecting to progress according to what our ideas of progress are, that is obtaining more; having more. In Spirituality, we “lose” that baggage of ideas. In fact, the more we “lose,” the more we “gain.” 🙂

In the “moral” world there is a belief that practicing a set of rituals is the way to sustain our spirituality. However, gratitude to life is the key element to spiritually flourish, and that comes after going through our own catharsis; that is by living life and experiencing the experiences with inner honesty.

Thus, meditation has been used as another ritual, as another way of “gain” something, as another way to signal “progress.”

Meditation is just movement of consciousness. Any meditational style or practice is just a tool for that. Meditation is not separated from the “real world,” for that movement of consciousness has an effect in our lives. Thus, meditation is living life under a different consciousness. That is all.

Different schools have different methods: Sit this way, do this “mudra,” chant this, put some “touch·y-feel·y” background music, turn on the red or blue lights… etc. Just tools. My preferred meditation room is Nature. My preferred background music, are singing birds or crickets chirping at night. Just another style.. 🙂

When we have experienced peace or serenity, there is a particular consciousness in that experience. As we become more acquainted with calmness, we will find out that this is not something outside from us. It is us.

In that realization there is meditation. Complexes, inner fears, ideas and beliefs are the mental blocks for a continuous experience of that which we are.

That realization is not intellectual. It is experiential. Once we know about that state, it is just a matter of peeling the “layers of the onion,” until we get to the root of it. The “styles” to get to this “onion core” are as diverse as people are in the world.

We are that which we are looking for. When that tool for calmness turns into our life experience, we have found the spiritual meaning of meditation.

Question: om shanti brother, I am starting to churn on the topic of “discipline”. A lot of it is lacking in modern society and I see how this causes big problems with youth for example. I myself have a bit problematic history with the topic as I used to experience it as being imprisoned, being limited. In my BK life however I noticed some very disciplined and well-churning sisters flourish, even fly by it! So now I want to do more than recognize the value, I want discover the secret of discipline. (I read one earlier article of yours mentioning discipline, code of conduct).

Thank you for your question!
Dear soul,
As the video below explains: “The purpose of discipline is to live fully.” That is what the “Code of conduct” means to me. You have the boundaries limited but within those boundaries you could explore. Discipline does not mean rigidity. It means to “reform” the self by following guidelines. I mention the word “reform,” because as you mentioned about the youth, if we do whatever “we feel” like, it is not really within the limits of “whatever we want,” but whatever we have learned that we want. For example, we know that water is good for you, but on any given day most westerners would rather have a glass of “Coke” than water. We have acquired a taste for carbonated water with sugar and caffeine, we need to “reform” the self; thus; discipline. Some people take up discipline for a weekend, some for their entire life, but there must be understanding as to why we are doing what we have decided to do, for otherwise; there will be repression.

Just like love goes together with detachment; true discipline goes together with flexibility.

Best wishes!

Question: Baba says that you have to make a balance between “Love” and “Law” could you please explain how to make this balance practically in lokik an alokik life?

Great question! Thank you for asking.

To answer your question I will share an article which was written sometime ago. It was about “Love and Law” and Dadi Janki’s words inspired me to do it.
When you finish reading it, I am sure you will get the point and will implement “law and love” practically in your life according to your circumstances and current set of sanskaras… 🙂

Here you go, Best wishes! 😉

“It takes a second to forgive. Be able to forget what happened so deeply that, even if someone reminds you, you cannot remember. Have a balance of law and love, not just law on its own. I do have to be firm following the laws of God, but this is easy in an atmosphere of love. Give love to yourself so you can follow God’s laws and give love to others so they can follow God’s laws. We have to move forward with forgiveness, compassion, honesty and love.”

Dadi Janki.

Laws are black or white. There is no in between. However, laws are able to make a distinction between what is considered correct and what is not; this distinction has no ranges. It is an “all or nothing” approach.

When we read a law, for instance: “Do not swim in this lake.” What would happen if I see a creature in that lake needing help and I enter this lake and swim in it? Did I break the law? Of course, I did. Do I feel “bad” because of that? Not a bit.

The problem comes when our mind becomes settled in extremes and we pretend to fit any event which life throws at us into those extremes. That is the easy approach.
Let me put everything in convenient “boxes” in that way my intuition, my sensibility is completely out of the picture and only “reasonable extremes,” thoughts based on duality, “black or white”are available.

I recall the story of a young close friend of mine who wanted to become a “great athlete.” He took great care in doing all of his assigned workouts, rest, nutrition, etc. He was very disciplined in following his daily routine, however; he wasn’t happy even though he was pursuing his dream. Why? Because he wasn’t in balance. A Human being is more than just a “great athlete.” Due to his motivation to follow everything down to the “dot,” this young fellow wasn’t enjoying a social life, he needed to go to bed at 10 PM, “no matter what in order to get his 8 hours of sleep which is recommended by most physicians as a normal and healthy habit.”

In his young age when most social activities were happening at night, he wasn’t able to go. When faced with this decision he stuck with his “athlete dream” so faithfully, but painfully, his social life was missing and with that the wholesomeness of life.That is the consequence of an “all or nothing approach.”

In due time, this lack of balance started showing in his athletic performance. The pressure of becoming “great” was even taking away the joy of practicing his sport.
Success is not a straight line. Most of us believe that in order to swim passing the waves of the ocean, we need to walk straight, no matter what. Watch out! …others are watching you… or so we think. Rather, it is an easier approach just to go under the waves and emerge, safe and ready to swim with joy and liberty after “bowing down” to the circumstances in life.

The “great athlete” could have shown his discipline by only attending to his friends parties, let’s say twice a month rather than denying them altogether.

Here is when love is needed. In this path of knowing ourselves, we need to learn to know our current stage. Are we there yet? Give love to yourself, encourage yourself, and “train” yourself to reach where you want to be. Do not give up. Go under the waves of “hard circumstances” and reach the destination safely. Enjoy life. Love is enjoyable.

Discipline is not longer discipline unless we understand the concept of flexibility. Discipline without flexibility is tyranny to our own self. Lack of respect for the self.
Wisdom comes when we learn to understand when to use flexibility and when to stop so it does not become carelessness. Discipline is this drive which clearly knows about the destination and knows the direction even though the winds of circumstances maybe blowing at a different direction.

To live life fully, thinking is not needed. Sensibility, appreciation and gentleness are necessary qualities to develop. Then we can act without “understanding,” without thinking and “acting right.” Laws are needed when those qualities are lacking. Thinking is “black or white.” Life does not have any colors.

Many times we are so hard on ourselves that we take away the joy in our lives.

Love is the answer. It takes time to learn to love ourselves, because we don’t realize that love is not something to give to “others,” when there is nothing inside ourselves to give.
As love grows inside us, giving is a natural consequence when there is fullness. A tree full of fruits does not know the significance of “giving.” Its own fullness automatically gives. That is a law of life…