Rishie realized that when he was in his low 20’s he used to like certain type of girls. When Rishie became older, in his mid 40’s he wasn’t aware that his “preference” had changed. He no longer pursued girls in their low 20’s anymore for what he considered to be desirable at one point in his life, all of the sudden… wasn’t.
In a “normal” awareness, we call that “getting old,” but “getting old” should not change someone’s taste of what it is considered “desirable” or “beautiful.”
How is it possible for that change to take place without Rishie’s awareness?
Rishie may have realized that “his preference had changed” but he would never think about the possibility that “he” had changed as well. That “he” is actually, Rishie’s consciousness.
That is the “proof” of consciousness changing all by itself. It does not depend on Rishie’s willful desire to change.
To make things easy to grasp, here an easy example.
Rishie’s father was a black man and his mother a Spanish lady. Rishie had a natural preference for black girls. That is what “he liked.” Rishie’s parents divorced when Rishie was 18. Note that Rishie’s liking is already “built-in.”
Let us say that Rishie became indoctrinated by his mother who urged Rishie to find a brown eyed, brown haired Spanish woman; because that is “correct” and “right” in their social circles, their traditions.
Rishie had a special connection with his mother and wanted to please her. Rishie made “efforts” to change his “preference.” He fought with his “inner devils” and finally decided to have a relationship with someone who pleased his mother.
That was the story of Rishie, the “effort maker,” the one who does everything to please his mother, the one who would like to be labeled as a “good son,” as an “example” for others.
The price that Rishie paid to obtain those nice labels from his mother was pretty steep.
It is the same when we force our “change” into whatever belief system we believe in.
Beliefs are not “bad.” However, there is a time limit that every single belief is attached to. What is that time limit?
When consciousness changes, of course.
To go beyond that limit is what allows someone to open up to a different consciousness.
Perhaps Rishie could have ended up marrying a woman as her Mother’s likes… Perhaps.
Perhaps Rishie could have ended up with another woman from another race after he realized through his own experience that the paper wrapping of a candy bar is not the candy bar.
There are many possibilities that life could bring when there is no active participation to change things according to someone else’s wishes.
Those possibilities are in itself the “Guru,” the “life teacher,” “the hand of God,” for those who can see that consciousness changes according to what it “has to be.”
But of course, Rishie’s mother was full of expectations and her beliefs are overwhelming to the point of being self-righteous about what she knew to be “right.”
Rishie’s mother wanted to be “happy” at the expense of her son. That will have a consequence. There is a lesson that Rishie’s mother will need to learn.
We could call the above scene of life, with different labels. “God has punished Rishie. That is why he was unhappy.” “God has punished Rishie’s mother, that is why she is suffering for the wrong she did to her son.”
Or…”That is Rishie’s karma,” or “If you don’t obey your mother, then there are serious consequences. That is the law.”
Labels are not important. What is important to perceive is that Life has a flowing thread. To go along with it, is to be in harmony with “what is.” That harmony has no way to be put into labels or codes or commandments. If consciousness is not allowed to change by itself, (that is through assimilation of life experiences) then we create an inner conflict.
The “I” against Life.
Another “gem” of dharna. This avyakt Murli has many practical pieces of advice for us to experience and make them practical.
Avyakt Murli, April 17,1969
You cannot give or take love from the divine family until there is love for effort. If you have love for effort you can then become worthy to claim love from each other.
To the extent that someone is loving, he continues to receive the response of that love. You have to take love through the avyakt form, and give the proof of service with love. Avyakt love is the main thing. Avyakt love gives power to remembrance. Avyakt love helps in creating an avyakt stage.
The reason for the lack of love for effort is that the majority of you become disturbed on seeing the circumstances. You create your stage with the support of the circumstances. You do not change the circumstances through your own stage. You become weak by being influenced by external circumstances. (But) by stabilizing yourself in the original stage of the self, your receive power. The original stage of the self has so much power that it can overcome any kind of external situation. To have love for effort means to remove instantly whatever weakness is visible. Never leave anything for later. Do it right now. Bondages will not remove themselves. You have to remove them with your own power.
Love for effort, meaning love to engage yourself fully in self-discovery, meaning “removing weaknesses and vices,” is what earns love from the Divine family. BapDada also mentions that we have to remove those bondages with our own power. For that we need to stabilize in soul consciousness, that is the state of feeling the self. That is the effort.
Baba continues to watch the game from up above. you can also come up and watch it and you will enjoy yourself a great deal. Baba sees very entertaining games of the children. You can also see them. If you watch while being stable in your elevated stage, you will be able to see the games of others as well as your own. BapDada continues to watch them. they are games of great amusement.
The great maharathis are not afraid of lions, yet they are afraid of ants. They are able to confront a lion easily, but they do not know the method of treading over an ant. This is the game of the maharathis. Do you know what the cavalry do? Baba also watches the games of the cavalry. The cavalry have a lot of courage and enthusiasm. They even move forward in their effort, but whilst galloping.. they do not slip off, they do not fall or get tired, they are tireless and they even continue to move along very well, but they become attracted to the side scenes that come along the path. “What is this one doing? How is he doing this? Even I can do that”. They compete. The cavalry are greatly drawn into observing others. There is an amusing aspect about the infantry also. Baba is telling you about the game. What do they do? It may be a very minor thing but they turn it into a great mountain. They do not make a mountain into a mustard seed, but instead they make a mustard seed into a mountain and get themselves disturbed. It is nothing and they make everything out of it. And then looking at its height, they lose their courage. If each of you is asked, who is a maharathi, who is of the cavalry and who is of the infantry, will you be able to answer?
COMMENTS: Here BapDada is describing the 3 types of effort makers. The first group is the one who can pass difficult tests but on the small ones there are difficulties. The second group is engaged in “competition” with others rather than seeing only the self. The third group is the one who make a storm in a “glass of water.” Through this humorous description, we can discover our own stage.
To be egoless means to be a total renunciate. Such souls surrender everything that belongs to them, renounce awareness of the body, and do not see the defects of others. Which main virtues come through this renunciation? Easiness (implying lightness and simplicity) and tolerance. Those who have easiness and tolerance attract others and they are able to have love for one another. By being a total renunciate there will automatically be easiness and tolerance.
COMMENTS: Easiness and tolerance as the main indicators of an egoless atage. However, this stage is not a “performance.” It comes “naturally” as we have greater experience of the self. Therefore, true renunciation, is to leave the ego aside.
The image of BapDada should be visible through your behaviour. The meaning of effort is not to make the same mistake twice. If you keep repeating the same mistake how can you call that making effort?
How can you be loving towards one another? You can only be loving towards one another when you match the thoughts and sanskars of one another. You have even been told the method for that: to be a total renunciate. You will become loving when you imbibe easiness and tolerance.
COMMENTS:The Father is visible through our behavior. This is how “revelation” takes place, for every religion has already their idea of God the Father, and every idea is their “reality.” In Spirituality showing is practical. It is not about pointing to a person or a place as holy, but being yourself that “holiness.”
Never think that you should be praised. Do not create your stage on the basis of praise, or when there is defamation you will become orphans. You lose your stage and you forget the Lord and master. If your stage is based on praise you will keep on fluctuating. If you accept the fruit here, you will finish the fruit for the future. The more you are making incognito effort and are an incognito helper, the more you create your incognito status. No matter how much others praise you, you yourself must not be influenced by that praise.
COMMENTS: Praise and defamation. The 2 sides of the same coin. Ego is built through both. At the same time the experience of both are the opportunity to maintain a stable stage. By going beyond that duality.
Whatever task you perform, stay at the confluence and judge it accordingly, because all of you belong to the Confluence Age. This is why whatever happens, there are always two sides to it. Stay at the confluence of both of these and then judge. You must not be on one side too much, nor on the other side to much. Stay at the confluence. The stage of being in-between is the seed stage; to be just a point. Just as a seed is very subtle, the seed stage is also very subtle. You need courage and the method to remain stable in that stage. Whenever you have to be a child you mustn’t be a master, and whenever you have to be a master, you mustn’t be a child. Many misunderstand this. You have to check this a great deal. You have to have the complete consciousness of being a chid and also a master. this is why you are told to stay at the confluence. You mustn’t simply be a child nor must you simply be a master.To be a child means to be free from waste thoughts. You simply have to follow the orders and directions you receive. To be a master means to give advice. You have to observe at which place and in which aspect you need to give advice. You mustn’t become a master everywhere. If you are a master when you have to be a child there will be a conflict of sanskars, because there will be two masters. You have to think about which form you have to adopt at which time. you have to be one with many forms. As is the time so should be your form. Achcha.
COMMENTS: Great advice on balance. There are the complementary but yet opposite sides of virtues. Just like discipline and flexibility. By being in the “middle” we are able to change ourselves according to the situation and the time. A master needs to be able to be a child. A child, a “spiritual child” (not someone acting childish) needs to be a master as well.