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The paradox of Being and Doing

Everything we are looking for is within us.
Only those things which are an illusion, those things which do not exist, could be dissolved.

Ego is an illusion of the mind, thus it can be dissolved.
If it is “real” it cannot be dissolved.
What is lust, greed, attachment, anger?
Manifestations of that ego.

The paradox is that there is nothing we can DO to dissolve ego. You could only realize it, acknowledge it, become aware of it, to be distant… a witness… a detached observer. Ego is not “bad” but a state of being in the pendulum of experiences.

DOING something to get rid of that ego is like trying to scratch the wind. You could do the effort, you could try different methods but the idea of “success” is in fact, ego… and thus, the idea of failure. Duality.

Most individuals believe that to BE happy, is a matter of reaching a goal, an objective. Whether that goal is in this Life, in the “mundane world” or in the “afterlife,” in “Paradise;” there is some DOING which needs to be DONE to get there… Happiness is state of BEING. It is not something that could be “achieved” through DOING.
Want to conquer the world? Want to be the richest person on Earth? Want to be the most famous person? the most popular? the most beautiful? You could reach those goals, but happiness will not be in that. Why?
Because we ARE something else: Boring, emotional, stressed out, hurt, ego-centered. Anything wrong with that?
NO. It is not about “right or wrong.” It is about acknowledgment of that. Because we are AWARE, we could see it, observe it, feel it, not as a thought or as second hand knowledge from someone, but you must feel it in your skin…then, something will happen… 🙂

DOING cannot touch BEING. Ego is the illusion of BEING. DOING is the illusion of that who is already an illusion (ego.)

In fact, “I do” is full of ego. Who is that “I”?
This is not an intellectual question.
Nevertheless in our language, in our relationship with others… we need to use those words, but we don’t need to be trapped in the meaning.

If we define what we ARE, we create a “doer.”
Action-less action, Doing without a Doer is an egoless action.

We cannot “practice” to be ego-less. Life is taking you there, as long as the “I” is not a solid wall standing in between.

Want to destroy the wall? Want to get rid f it?
If you DO. You will make it stronger. That is the paradox.

Leave your ego-centered desires behind, your expectations aside and learn to acknowledge that the wall is there.
Do not run away from that wall, don’t try to change it… because by knowing that the wall is there, you will also know why change cannot BE.
At that point, the wall will OPEN and through that empty space is how change will pass by.
You are that emptiness when there is no wall.
Because you are that… there is no one there to DO… 🙂 Paradox!

The range of experiences


One of the paradoxical aspects in self-realization is to discern the “illusion” of the “I,” the “self.”
“Illusion” is not the right word to use, but it conveys the meaning. The “I” is not an illusion for the majority of human beings at this time. The “I” is a “reality.”
When that awareness of the “I” becomes stronger, then suffering comes as the catalyst for change into “searching” for another avenue… until we find “no-self.”

Life experiences may take someone into that. Intellectual understanding will not give a person the necessary experience to change his consciousness.

Paradoxically, we are everything when there is no awareness of “self” but at the same time there is an essence, which some call “soul.” However, the “soul” does not have the awareness of individuality, which some call “soul consciousness.”

Thus, “soul consciousness” is only a state of consciousness. That state of consciousness is not the ultimate, it is not “good,” and everything else is “bad.”

The range of experiences will change as our consciousness changes. That change is not dependent on the will power of the “I” but rather it is something that happens at different times when the individual is “ready,” that is when there is an assimilation of diverse experiences which takes the individual to the full range of experiences.

Through a “black or white” mentality, we have been indoctrinated to label the lack of “I” as “good,” “ego-less,” and the fullness of “I” as “ego,” “bad.” That labeling is like using “training wheels” to ride a bike. We are riding the bike.. yes.. but truly we are not… 🙂

Let me explain the above in simple language.
Have you seen a survey with the “likert scale”? It goes something like this:

Do you believe in God?
1. Strongly disagree 2. Disagree. 3. Neither agree nor disagree. 4. Agree 5. Strongly agree.

In life, all of those “ranges of agreement” depend on a particular state of consciousness. That is all there is. None of those “choices” indicates a level of superiority or inferiority. As a matter of fact, in the continuity of life, we will experience all of them. However, it is a circle so after experiencing “strong agreement” what comes next?
Strong disagreement.

Unless we are caught up with a dogmatic view which will pressure us to perceive things under a limited boundary.

If we could grasp the above, we could appreciate that someone who is “ego-less” has only reached a particular state of consciousness, which is not static as everything in life changes.
Because our vision of life is “static” and dualistic, we label someone as “saint” or “sinner” not realizing that this state of consciousness will change in the experience of that individual. It could be in this life, in the next one…it does not matter. It will happen. This realization is known as having an “unlimited vision” of Life.

When we discover that, we could observe the absurdity of pretending to change someone’s state of consciousness by following a method.
A fruit will not be ripe enough and quickly by following a “method.” That fruit will be ripe naturally according to time. All experiences not a particular one are important for that ripeness to appear.

How Eckhart Tolle “reached” his state of consciousness?
By following a method?
No. It just happened. How about Mooji?
Same thing.
How about Yogananda?
He was born with that, but still he needed time to become aware of it.
Consciousness changes at a particular time and when it does, we may need to acknowledge it for we cannot deny the “new reality.”

That is why, it becomes more and more important to enjoy what we are able to perceive at this time and having the openness to allow for something else to arrive in our lives. When we synchronize with the movement of life, we are in balance.

Things will happen when they are supposed to. Does it mean that I have to sit down and do nothing waiting for things to arrive? 🙂

If there is that understanding because of this writing, then we have not understood a thing. That is alright, for that understanding will change in its due time. This is not intellectual business but experiential.

Ego-less appreciation


“Subtle awareness of the truth of the universe should not be regarded as an achievement. To think in terms of achieving it is to place it outside your own nature. This is erroneous and misleading. Your nature and the integral nature of the universe are one and the same: indescribable, but eternally present. Simply open yourself to this.”
Hua Hu Ching CH 24

There is spirituality in the consciousness of achievement. That consciousness implies the separation of “I” and the moment, the now.
For example, “I” need to conquer lust. “I” need to become perfect. “I” must destroy evil , etc.

The above are examples expressing 2 things:
1) The awareness that something is lacking, implying that separation between what “I” am now and “my” potential to be or to do something else.
2) A clear support of the “I,” the ego as the main protagonist in “my” life.

We could choose to understand any “classical” spiritual teaching under those 2 points. It is about achievement of something which is perceived as away from my current self.

The third way of looking at things is to recognize that “I” am the “Universe.” This simple view is not related with a “new age” thought or a self-imposed lie; when in reality “I” clearly see that “I” am not the “Universe.” 🙂

The main issue with human beings nowadays is this perception of separation.

Externally, that separation exists due to a perception: Different colors, different gender, different origin, different thoughts, different religions, different ideas, different beliefs….something different.

Internally, everything starts due to our lack of self-appreciation.

Because “I” don’t appreciate myself as a unique entity living in relationship with everything else; the aim of conforming to mental rigidity and mental patterns already established, becomes extremely valuable for my own “identity.”

Because “I” don’t appreciate myself, it is not worth to spend time with myself and rather occupy myself complying with what is there already, so “I” can fit in; so “I” can be part of another group.

Groups are forms of separation.

It is when appreciation exists, that “I” could relate in life without further expectations. The appreciation of my own uniqueness allows myself to appreciate the uniqueness of “others.”
In mutual appreciation, things could be as they are without the need to change them around to fit “my” vision.

The teachings: “You have to be good.” “You have to be this or that..” may wish well, but if those words are taken literally without further examination; the creation of that separation which is away from appreciation will be born.

I can appreciate a butterfly flying. It is a spontaneous appearance, almost magical. That appreciation will bring a smile, instant sunshine… That is the meaning of opening yourself to something, which does not need to be analyzed, controlled or compared.

Ego comes when there is comparison. “The butterfly that I saw yesterday was more/less ——(fill in the blank) than the one today.”

“My kid is more intelligent than …..” By doing this simply and apparently inoffensive “talk” we are creating in our minds that separation.
We are killing the appreciative moment of looking at uniqueness.

That is why, that openness is necessary to let things “in and out.”

The butterfly is there. Appreciate that. Enjoy that moment.
The thought of holding on to it is mental murder, lack of respect for a magical moment that life is allowing us to experience.

Life is meant to be enjoyed. That is, to be appreciated.

Question: what does detachment actually mean ?Becoming zero or becoming as big as universe as in both the case we become ego-less.

Thank you for your question!
Dear soul,

It is simply the recognition of souls and roles. Detachment while seeing roles; loving while seeing souls.

To become a zero is to become ego-less so we can be as big as the Universe. It is not one OR the other as logic and reason pretend to make us believe. It is both. Communion.

Best wishes!

Question: I find that situation, people, events, sanskars and karmic returns will force (not the right word) /create the path and lanes to bring you to the level of spirituality you are supposed to be in per drama. Ie. John who is not a gyani soul but in a life situation, where he might have lost his dream job, or his family members he is attached to or become sick and cannot take the suffering anymore that might make him look for the real meaning of life where he might end up becoming a gyani soul if it is in the drama, and further, he might explore more to gain deeper experience, but for Ram who is a gyani soul would be happy with the little experience he has and continue with his spirituality as what is supposed to be in the drama. Your thoughts?

Thank you for sharing your good observation!

Dear soul,

John and Ram are part of the Drama, their roles are needed as they are for they are connected with other roles in the Drama.
Some souls will have the roles of “angels” others, will not. Are souls who have the roles of “angels” better off than other souls’ roles? Is the kid who received the role of a tree in a play worse off than the kid who received the role of a prince?
The kids are just playing a role. Just a role. The kids are not the role.

Some souls have the capacity to “die alive” now. Others, are enjoying themselves now. The grass is green by the neighbor’s tree “now” but that will change, even if in another life. That is why the Drama is not “forcing” anything (as you pointed out, is not the right word) but it is “allowing” every actor to reach their “destination,” their “next stop.” Because it is a circle, a cycle, there is no question about being “better” or becoming “better.” Do you see that? Basically, John is “making effort” to become John again… and Ram is “making effort” to become Ram again… and avyakt7 is making effort to become avyakt7 again… 🙂 Then, we ask: Why make effort? Then I respond, Why not? 🙂 Those who have it within their roles, will do so. Those who do not will not. At the end, Ram will be Ram, John will be John and avyakt7 will be avyakt7 again….

Now, let us see what the Sakar Murli mentioned today: 4/18/13:

Question: Who is a satopradhan effort-maker and who is a tamopradhan effort-maker? What is the difference between the two?
Answer: A satopradhan effort-maker promises and makes effort to claim the full inheritance from the Father. He races to stay in
remembrance. He has the aim of claiming number one. A tamopradhan effort-maker says, “Whatever is in my fortune is fine!
It is fine if I become a subject.” Maya causes such obstacles for such souls that they drop out of the race.

Once we read this, then we think: “That brother avyakt7 is just sharing his own manmat. Baba wants me to make maximum effort. Baba wants me to race in the race of remembrance. That avyakt7 brother, is a tamopradhan effort maker…whatever is in the Drama he says…”

Right? 🙂

When there is ego, we want to be “number 1.” That means, “I” am different than anyone else. “I” have accomplished something. “I” want to be an “emperor” in the Goden age, that is “my” “aim and objective.” “I” must not be “tamopradhan,” “I” must be “satopradhan.”

The paradox is that to be “number 1”, we need to become ego-less. See that? Would an ego-less being want to become #1? Would an ego-less being “do things” in the Drama as “I am doing this now, making “my future” for the “better”? Would that person accept a setback in life seeing that it is an ego shattering experience or will try to fight it to become “number 1”? See the paradox?

Therefore, By becoming ego-less we become number “1” WITHOUT WANTING TO BE NUMBER “1.” If we want to be number 1, there is ego and with ego I cannot claim my “full inheritance.” Didn’t BapDada mention about not having desires in the last avyakt Murli? (4/14/13) Isn’t wanting to be number 1 a desire? 🙂 That is a “pure desire” I hear… right… and “I” am using “pure” gyan… 🙂

However, Baba was dealing with “little children” who will not understand these things but become lazy due to not having an experience of what it means to be ego-less. EXPERIENCE not talk.

Here, we are dealing with seeing BK knowledge with greater depth.

Getting to be ego-less is arriving at the destination. The comparison of what is “satopradhan or tamopradhan” is duality. Being ego-less is to be out of duality. It is to be one with the Drama, like a leaf floats on the waters of a river… the current is set, the destination is there… there is nothing to “do,” but to “be.” Enjoy. become easy. Experience that which is eternal. Become a Kid in the eternal play and not a role.

Best wishes!