Full of emotions, he wasn’t able to be himself.
Caught up in words and definitions, a difference between emotions and feelings could be made.
Some talk about “positive and negative” emotions when making a distinction as to what is “good” and what is “bad.” A feeling then, becomes some sort of “good” emotion…
Mary’s husband, John; had an affair. As he shared that episode of his Life to his friend Tracy , who was a potential lover once the marriage got dissolved; the label “cheater” was used by Tracy to “classify,” John’s action in the past.
In John’s mind, he didn’t have any other viable option according to the circumstances, although; he suffered the consequences through his own guilt.
When John and Tracy got together, John’s guilt resurfaced as an emotion which disabled John completely from loving Tracy.
That blockage is an emotion. That emotion is neither positive nor negative, for that depends on the circumstances and our viewpoint. Emotions tend to manifest in our bodies and influence it.
John could have been angry with Tracy and used that anger as a sexual energy towards Tracy.
That anger was another emotion. According to Tracy’s sensibility; she could have translated a sexual encounter with the energy of anger as “great” or “bad,” which in turn will set another emotion from Tracy towards John.
A manifested emotion will trigger different emotions on another invididual as long as there is receptivity.
Guilt, shame, anger and fear are emotions for they will manifest in our bodies to disable or enable some functions at a particular time. The “I” is at stake.
A feeling is the source without that “I” which will be “transformed” into an emotion due to an “I.”
For example, love is a feeling. When filtered through the experience of the “I” it becomes an emotion, such as attraction, lust, attachment, jealousy, even anger.
We could catalog “lust” as a “positive” or “negative” emotion according to a moral standard, but the label only inflicts acceptance or rejection which will create further emotions in us, which will not allow us to see things with clarity but clouded with guilt, shame, self-righteousness, etc.
Therefore, what is important is not label our emotions, but merely to be aware of them, without any judgment, but to be aware of what is continually being emitted by us.
For example, to qualify the label “lust,” as “good” or “bad” does not do anything to the fact of its existence. To become aware of it, is the key to go into its source and to find out about the “I” and his own experiences of filtering a feeling into emotions.
Many times we could perceive emotions from others and the environment.
For instance, Heather may feel grief in her heart. That grief could be perceived by Ron who is standing by.
According to Ron’s awareness, he may say: “I feel grief,” or he may be able to pinpoint the source: “It is Heather’s grief.”
However, the point is not to be caught up with pointing a finger at “me” or someone else, but rather to see that unless I have space in my heart for a particular emotion, that emotion has no way to stick with me.
Ron was able to perceive the grief, for there is grief in his heart.
The world is a mirror, manifested through relationships. The one who is aware will be able to perceive that what is outside is truly inside.
When we realize this, we could observe that “fixing the world” or changing someone may be just an egotistical activity, when we could be still in peace as the surface of a lake, without emotional ripples, so others could see themselves.
To be peaceful is to be empty of emotional ripples.
When we find the feeling of peace, we find the feeling of love.
The above quote is attributed to Shakespeare. I can see that he didn’t know love from the heart.
A thought comes, then an emotion arises. That emotion changes the way my body feels… I call that feeling; but it is not a “real” feeling from the “being,” but an emotion which has duality in it; that means: today I feel “happy,” tomorrow… “sad.”
One of the strongest emotions to feel is “falling in love.” That emotion means to be “overpowered” by something or someone.
That could be beauty, that could be power; that could be intensity.. even for some; violence. As we can see all of that is about how “something makes me feel.”
Because the mind is connected with a strong emotion, our mind will remember that particular incident, that particular individual who brought that sensation in me, that emotion.
As a matter of fact, our mind will be so mesmerized with that “fix,” that we will create thoughts just to sustain that experience. Once we create thoughts, we are making sure that we will remember that person, that incident; that scene. The “vicious” circle is enabled: Thoughts bring emotions, those emotions feelings which in turn creates further thoughts….
As the power of that emotion increases, the need to possess appears. If we have found a “lover,” we have the need to possess. We need to make that source of that emotion, “ours.”
That is how jealousy appears. That is how insecurity appears. That is what we call the “Drama” of love.
When the mind wants to possess something it kills it. That is why, love cannot exist in the mind, for duality is residing there.
“I love you if you are with me. I will hate you if you leave me.”
That love of the mind brings hate. That beautiful experience of feeling love will bring ugliness.
Out of those experiences in life, many move along without hope of finding “true” love. It appears as the problem is with finding the “right person.”
The issue starts with our mind.
As we learn to go “over the mind,” that is; to connect with that “inner being” by becoming centered in anything we do, there is a space created between the actor and the action; because of that space we could discern that whatever goes on in the mind is not really “real,” but just an emotion, a thought which when unchecked is affecting the body, it is affecting the self and its interactions; it is creating a “roller coaster” of emotions which we become addicted to. Some like “drama.” That makes them alive.
Love cannot be in sorrow. It is not a “roller coaster.” That is why, love is the fruit of freedom. That is freedom from the mind.