Tagged: fantasies

Be alone to know the depth of your “I.”

In your view, what is the most valuable “practice” in the path of self-realization?

That question is not properly made. It is biased with the belief that we need to “practice” to achieve something in “spirituality” to become a “better” person.
Nevertheless, let me share my experience.
To learn to be comfortable with yourself and to have a full life while living alone, is the most important “practice.”

Most “spiritual” people may understand this as to “force yourself” to DO it, because practice “makes perfect.” That is the conditioning, the discipline of practicing something to “achieve it.” That is fine for man-made ideals, but BEING does not change like that.

Life will put you in that situation. That is the natural path, that goes along with individual readiness.

Someone who is not ready, will internally fight it. Outwardly he may be living a life of a hermit like monks and nuns DO. However, they are busy with their own mental ideas, desires and needs to achieve Paradise, enlightenment and favors from God.

When you are comfortable with yourself, at peace; there is nothing to DO, nothing to achieve, nothing to look forward to. In our language and conditioning that may sound as the description of a “loser,” but it is far from it. It is the plain enjoyment of your own company and the experience of feeling fulfilled, at peace, vital.

This is not a compulsory activity (DOING) to become enlightened or “better.” It is a harmonized, natural response of being at peace.
It is in that state of balance how we discover the meaning of to “live in the now,” for the mind cannot go to the future as there is no need to achieve anything: No prize, no grandiose ideal to become, no “spiritual” after-life fantasy to get.

Going into the memories of the past, will show me all the pieces of the riddle which are building the “now,” although without identification with the one who at one time “I was,” the traumatic past experiences do not have the pull to remain in my psyche and change my enjoyment into sadness. The one from that past is not the same as the one who is now. Even though we have the same name and the same memories, there is no continuity of that “I” internally. “I” am free by not BEING a particular “I” at any point in time, by not defining me.

When the mind has no place to go, then enjoyment arrives through the feeling of BEING at peace, in harmony with “what is.”

The mental conditioning of what is supposed to be “fun,” or enjoyable does not allow us to BE, for the mind will look for that idea as the definition of success. Anything less is failure and the conditioning is to avoid it at all costs.
Define something, then that exists. Make that into an ideal to obtain, and the “reality” will be that it cannot be obtained. However, the mind will be entertained with the possibility to achieve that.

What is what I can DO to “improve”?
Become aware of the conditionings. Not to reject them, but to observe that any decision, any choice that we think we make, is coming from certain conditioning which we label as “truth.”
This awareness of all those things that we have learned through conditioning, is the “solution” that will prompt us to unlearn.
Without unlearning there cannot be newness.
Without newness, life may be the “same old thing.”  🙂

Fantasies of the mind

Every end is a beginning.
When we learn to take the messages that Life may bring, we could move in tune with “what is.”
Those messages may not be according to our religion, our morality or some other static human created code, but it is exactly what is needed according to time.

What is important is to understand the transition between ending and beginning. It is not immediate, it requires to perceive the dance and to go along with the song.

Today I will share about the importance of knowing our minds.
When we become trapped by our minds, we live in seclusion, in an artificial environment of perceived security.

The mind is able to fantasize and to take us into a world of wishes.
For example, we may meet someone who we believe fulfills all of our fantasies. It is the “perfect” partner.
That label of “perfect” will be there as long as we don’t know the person.

Many times, we could meet someone for many years without even knowing who they are. We may know only the surface, which is a great way to keep the fantasy going.

This fantasy could increase if the person that we admire is unreachable, unaccessible.
Let me be more specific: Have you ever fallen in love with wonder woman or with a rock star?
That is what I am referring to. That could also happen in the life of a grown up.

The fantasy falls apart once we meet the person “live” and get to know the person.

“Her kiss was not as wonderful as the dreams I had…” to paraphrase Sara Teasdale.

The human mind is an incredible creator of fantasies.
Those fantasies are constantly fed by our beliefs.
Therefore, they become “real.”

Things may happen and we could experience them, but when we have in our mind a belief about a particular person, then that person is given charge of our experience.

Isn’t to realize this a wonderful gift that we have to learn from “others”? It may be a costly experience, but it is worth to pay the price to feel freedom in the mind.

With a thankful heart and appreciation of the learned lesson; the Life walker moves on, into the next adventure… 🙂