If I could get you out of my mind, I will be happy…
While most will spend their time and resources forgetting the past through getting busy, drinking, meditating, pretending to be joyful, etc. in time; they will forget.
Because we are never the same.
General wisdom will tell us “Time heals the wounds of the heart.”
It should say: “The baby-ish mind will stop crying, when peace is brought by a pacifier in its mouth.”
I guess it is not as poetic as the former, but awareness has its own language.
The mind likes static pictures. The mind will literally cry if those pictures change.
The mind cries, complaints, makes tantrums, assumes, judges and the poor “I” believes it all.
Letting go is always about the past. It could be a family situation, a relationship, a circumstance which shouldn’t…but it was…
The mind does not want to forget for there is a “something” which is meaningful, something which supports its own idea of self.
The mind will cry: “The way that one made me feel.” “I did not feel like this before.” “I don’t think I can go on without that one.”
The mind sets the source to be “him or her” or whoever. When that one is gone; the mind will cry and then, emotions will solidify the experience of suffering by following the tears of the mind so deeply, that the heart will feel wounded.
One more time, we have succeeded in hurting ourselves. 😦
Want to repeat the drill?
You feel you need something. The mind remembers that one or that situation which gave life to that “self” who is no longer there.
The mind will cry. Emotions of sadness will follow. The feeling of suffering arrives, deeply felt by the heart.
“But… What is the solution?”
It is not in the mind. It is the strength of the heart.
Let me put it in another way: “Love is the solution.”
Too cloying and cliché for your taste?
Let me put it in another way: Less I-ness.
When the heart is healed, it is always open, there is a capacity for love.
A wounded heart will go through the process of diminishing the size of the “I,” through suffering. A wounded heart will close itself to opportunities to feel, due to fear.
Resistance will be there until the “I” gets tired…
Eventually all the “efforts” from the “I” to avoid being hurt again, (Thanks to the advice of the mind) will suffocate that “I” to the point, where survival will call for a sudden change of plans.
Love can flow again. 🙂
The mind creates its own demons and protectors. To face that creation is part of growing in Life.
Do we see why all experiences that we go through are important and necessary?
When we become aware of that “I” and the ways that Life has to slim it down, then we no longer need to believe in “holy” diets and food repression.
Life is about experiences. When we are aware of them, by looking at how the self is changed into no-self, we will understand the ways and means of Life and how our perception of being separated from “what is” brings that suffering, which most are reluctant to experience.
Do you know why “letting go” is called in that way?
Because there is someone, the “I” through the mind, who is stopping something from the past to go by, to dilute itself along with the old “I.”
The “I” is hurt through beliefs of the mind. It is self-inflicted pain.
When we are aware of the mind’s tricks, we are free. No need to repress, suppress or avoid. Just conscious awareness, observation, witnessing, spectating, watching…
Who is watching?
If it is the “I” we are tricking ourselves.
Duality is a word used by many philosophies and religious beliefs alike. That word is seldom understood practically. Most are just caught up in conceptual understanding, information, history, research, etc. All of that is “good” but paradoxically it is not important if we are looking to open our consciousness.
Heaven and Hell is a well-known duality. There is no way to separate one and the other. To choose heaven over hell is like choosing the day over the night when the practical experience is that both states need to be experienced. Practically, experientially there is no “choosing.”
We cannot experience heaven without knowing what is hell. As a matter of fact, we cannot know “good” unless we know “evil.”
Religions, philosophies and so on have taught us to label one side of the coin as “good,” while rejecting the other side as “bad.”
That is how the whole game of duality in beliefs are in existence:
Pure vs. impure, black vs. white, paradise vs. hell, god vs. satan, Lucky ones vs. unlucky ones, saints vs. sinners, etc.
As we realize now, every rejection means that our consciousness will close down and align into the “black or white” mentality and thus, choices in life.
Because we are rejecting an experience of life and there is no difference between “I” and life.
Here is another “secret formula” 🙂 for those interested in concepts:
Non-duality is Oneness.
The experience of Oneness is included in emptiness.
To be empty means to experience the canvas without paint, the soul.
Nevertheless, if we choose the soul and not the body (duality) we have not experienced the soul.
Because the experience of that soul means non-duality.
In the above “secret” formula all religions and philosophies with their different terminology are included.
The key is inclusion, integration of everything; but through our analytical minds, we only separate.
Where is God in the formula?
You are merged with “him” when you are empty. Isn’t that oneness? 🙂
If God is “love” as the cliché mentions; could love be something different from Oneness? 🙂
If we think that duality is “bad,” we have not understood anything. If we label “hell” as “bad” we have not understood a thing.
All experiences are necessary.
There is no experience that could last forever for everything is change (as mentioned in other articles.)
If we reject something, we get caught up in it.
Ego will make a trauma out of an experience which ego does not like.
That experience will not last forever. It will go away like everything else.
Do we feel sad because everything “goes away”? 🙂
Then, we have not understood anything yet.
We get back into duality again and again, that is separation by creating the emotional states of sadness and happiness.
Life flows. From one perspective (point of reference,) life flows away… that is why it will necessarily come back again. 🙂 That is the game.
Non emotional happiness is non-dual.
That is contentment, joy, elation, bliss… all of those words… but the real thing is beyond the definitions, beyond what ideas, beliefs and dogmas could bring.
Practical openness to life so we could enjoy life:Through our thoughts, feelings, good wishes… actions.
That is all. 🙂
We’re being asked..Can you let go?
Go with the flow? Be out of control?
Can you enjoy these moments and be free?
Be who your meant to be and always were?
Suffering comes from resistance, persistence and force…
Take a pledge to not negate the beauty that has to emerge
Let go of familiar ways of being that keep you afraid and alone
Because you alone are the one who can break the chains of the old
Nobody else can do that for you, only you can realize yourself
I Trust that you also feel Unlimited Healing Revealing itself