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Question: Looking on being right rather than wrong


“Profound and thought-provoking post. (Spirituality, repression and control: http://avyakt7.com/2013/04/10/spirituality-repression-and-control/#comment-9789 )
If externally imposed morality leads to double -standards and dishonesty/ hypocrisy ( and I agree with that fully) then how do flawed humans that we are discriminate right from wrong? Inner compass is not auto-calibrated in all, hence transformation needs some cardinal points- true North- to align righteously?”

Thank you for your interesting question.

Yesterday it was shared that there is no moment in time when we “are” the same. Avyakt7 is a label and behind that label there is someone who is continually changing by opening his consciousness; therefore, “no one” in particular… paradoxically. 🙂

Your agreement with some aspects of what Avyakt7 has shared, only indicates your location of consciousness at a particular point in time. That does not mean that because we both agree, that thing is automatically “right.”

In my current state of consciousness, there is no such a thing as “right or wrong” in life but every intention has the potential to turn into an action and that has a consequence.
It is “what it is” and judgments are out of the question. Everything which has happened in life had a “motive” for being that way. My moral judgments about rightness or wrongness are not needed. Human moral behavior in society is part of life, but it is not necessarily the reflection of what Nature and the Universe manifests. Humans expect that our understanding of “our world” at the “office,” in business, in cyber space, in logic, reasoning and analysis is the one which could give us an accurate view of what is “out there” in life.

A religious mind is of no use as well, for a religious mind already has lenses to look at things. It has a flag to defend and a dogma to maintain, thus that mind has a need to interpret experiences for a particular collective consciousness to believe that “we have the truth.”

In my experience life is not like that.

Let me elaborate on the above.
Experiences in life are like the story of going from day to-night. Every experience has a degree from one extreme to another.

Many are stuck with the experiences at 6 AM, at Dawn. These individuals call that experience “right, pure, Godly, happy, etc” As the day advances that “righteousness” becomes “wrong” so at 5 AM something totally wrong, that is totally dark will give birth to Dawn at 6 AM again… 🙂 Darkness and light are related. Their timing is different and that makes our experiences different…in time.

How can you be “right” if you don’t know about “wrong”? How do you know something without experiencing unless your insight is used?
The easy answer is to follow someone who we deem to be “right,” nevertheless; our insight, our inner knowing beyond intellectual debates and logical games, will remain dormant.
Following someone has its time and that time is different for everyone.

Someone who shows courage has the potential as well to show cowardice at a different time. As a matter of fact, both ranges of experiences will be experienced.

If we understand that, how could we generalize and call humans as “flawed”?
Let us get rid of that label, of that belief.

As the song from one of my favorite groups of all time “Depeche Mode” illustrates in “Nothing.”

“Life is full of surprises
It advertises nothing, nothing”
Always knows the prospects
Learn to expect nothing, nothing.”

We give meaning to what is out there, based on what we ARE “inside.” The outside merely reflects the inside.
Because the mirror can only reflect the source.
To transform the self is not a matter of intellectual discrimination of “wrong vs. right” actions, although Avyakt7 respects those who feel that way.
As shared before, actions are “nothing” when intentions are the honest source of that action.
Intentions come from your feelings. Those feelings are the manifestation of what you ARE.
That is why, Being is before doing and having. To follow a moral code just for the sake of following without a change of consciousness, a change of being… That may be externally “good” but internally of no use.

For example: Raymond does not eat meat. If Susan has a cookout with hamburgers, bacon and steaks…that will not “tempt” a bit Raymond’s being.
It is not because Raymond feels sorry for animals or because Raymond thinks that eating meat is unhealthy. Those thoughts are artificial.
Raymond’s consciousness is aligned with living and to let others live. He does not need a commandment, but at the same time there is no rejection in him when someone eats meat. There is acceptance.
Being aligned with life and letting live has its own consequence. There is no need to label someone as “good or bad, pure or impure.” There is no need to teach anyone a lesson.

Since we are in different states of consciousness, some may need to follow a path, a religion, someone to tell them what is “right and wrong.”
That is a good beginning which reflects our consciousness.
If we allow our consciousness to open, to move by simply accepting the experiences in life and by not rejecting life itself, then we could be able to develop our insight which already knows. At that point “right or wrong” acquires a different meaning.

As Depeche Mode would put it:
What am I trying to do?
What am I trying to say?
I’m not trying to tell you anything
You didn’t know when you woke up today

Question: Honesty for Spiritual growth

“Dear Brother, I thank you for your honest opinion and efforts towards spirituality. Coming from Indian origin and being conservative, we always look for others’ affirmation for any of our actions. Being a BK is no different, the same thing is followed. But the problem is there is a struggle(BK or otherwise) between the actual experience(the truth if I can say so) and the outer self (the outward behavior to please others). If one doesn’t go by the group, he is considered as half-cast or rebel. There is a clash as there is a feeling for the need of a group for spiritual progress (away from purely materialistic group). When people see your experiences, articles they get support for their inner selves which is longing to express the emotions, freedom, struggles. May be one should have that courage to be honest with oneself to progress spiritually (BK or otherwise). If we don’t we are losing our time by just believing a set of principles as real effort. Because many teachers/seniors speak of following the principles with more and more sincerely, because there principles helped them, but to put them explicitly as support systems only (not the effort itself) for spiritual progress would make the lives of spiritual seekers a lot easier. It would be good if you can elucidate the fundamental qualities needed from your experience for progress for a spiritual effort maker.”

Dear reader,

Thank you for your great question. As you mentioned, there is this pressure to conform, to be part of something in order to “move on.” Everyone is caught up in that in one-way or another: At work, in the religious gathering, in a society with determined set of values and traditions, etc. The consequence of not following is to be “alone.” Are you ready to experience that? 🙂

The answer comes when we realize that this is happening. That realization will bring the way out of that situation when the time arrives, if it arrives.

That right moment is something for every individual to recognize.

If the above sounds “very general,” it has to be in that way, for this blog is read by many individuals from different viewpoints and state of consciousness.

From avyakt7’s own experience, the truth is in yourself. This sounds like a cliché; and it is, if you have not experienced the third level of consciousness, the self. Perhaps there is more to it which avyakt7 hasn’t experienced yet, so avyakt7 does not hold anything as “absolute,” avyakt7 is open to “learn.” Knowing the inner self will give you that closeness to God.

When you are committed to Spirituality, which means that you realize that there are many weaknesses within “you” which are lingering there due to lack of greater consciousness; then change will be on the way. The issue is “you,” the solution is in “you.” The path is honesty, sincerity in your dealings with yourself.

Usually religions and methods are there to “protect us” from that “outside” that you mentioned. It feels reassuring when others feel and think like you; but there is danger in that as well, it is called self-righteousness.

When you want to plant a shrub or a small plant that will become a strong tree later on; you will probably use a stake to support that shrub. Religions are that stake. That protection will be there but that stake will need to go away for the tree to find its own strength. Others will need that stake as long as they live. There is variety that is why, there cannot be “the answer.”

The purpose of that stake is to allow you to gain greater consciousness.

From my experience, Christianity gave me the teaching of being “accounted for.” That there was a God who could help me if I was “good.” That I needed to recognize my “sins” and change my behavior. Through Brahma Kumaris, I learned about my own vices. From my experience, all the methods/principles taught by the Brahma Kumaris are meant to recognize sex-lust and anger and to transform them into feelings of benevolence to all. Celibacy is not a repression but a choice of a lifestyle in a different consciousness which obviously will not apply to everyone. There is variety.

Through other teachings, I have learned about the inner self.
There is no such a thing as one teaching being “better” than another, but teachings come from different states of consciousness and they will be beneficial as long as the individual matches that consciousness. In this way life becomes a school. Our state of consciousness will change. Life is change.

Take a look at your life and see if you have learned what you need to learn out of your current religion, belief or “ism” that you follow; if you say “yes” but then go back to the old pattern which brought you there in the first time; you will know that you were not honest with yourself.

That is the way to find out. It could be risky.

Taking the “stake” out is a big deal. You will find out if you are capable to stand up despite the storms, the hurricanes of life… Are you ready for that? You decide the timing. No one should pressure you. If you are not ready, that is OK as well. Every tree is different.

As long as there is appreciation and gratitude for all of those experiences, which are teaching us different things in life, we could grow.

Let us just remember that everyone is playing their own role in life. Mine is unlike anyone else’s and so is yours. See where you fit in this “movie of life.” That is your honesty, your sincerity, your gift to humanity.

Best wishes!