There is no topic in “spiritual conversations” which draw more attention and rejection, as human sexuality does. It is paradoxical to want and desire that which we have been conditioned to reject. The other day I was engaged in a conversation about the “Hua Hu Ching,” verse 69:
“A person’s approach to sexuality is a sign of his level of evolution. Unevolved persons practice ordinary sexual intercourse. Placing all emphasis upon the sexual organs, they neglect the body’s other organs and systems. Whatever physical energy is accumulated is summarily discharged, and the subtle energies are similarly dissipated and disordered. It is a great backward leap. For those who aspire to the higher realms of living, there is angelic dual cultivation. Because every portion of the body, mind, and spirit yearns for the integration of yin and yang, angelic intercourse is led by the spirit rather than the sexual organs. Where ordinary intercourse is effortful, angelic cultivation is calm, relaxed, quiet, and natural. Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body. Culminating not in dissolution but in integration, it is an opportunity for a man and woman to mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness. The sacred ways of angelic intercourse are taught only by one who has himself achieved total energy integration, and taught only to students who follow the Integral Way with profound devotion, seeking to purify and pacify the entire world along with their own being. However, if your virtue is especially radiant, it can be possible to open a pathway to the subtle realm and receive these celestial teachings directly from the immortals.”
The above is the origin of many religions, including the mass understanding of “Tantra.” That is techniques, methods are given for a “reasonable charge,” it is the mass compulsion to purchase everything including who you want to BE. The above, will compel those who feel “un-evolved” to DO things to become “evolved” despite their DOING not matching their BEING. That is a mirage.
In my experience, Life as well as sexuality, are journeys. Sexuality IS the expression of who we ARE.
There is no “higher or lower” sexuality, it is only what we ARE, the “now” without further labels.
If what we ARE changes, our sexuality will change as well.
Thus, the emphasis is not on techniques and methods to improve sexuality. The emphasis is on “improving” the self.
How do we “improve” the self?
Through openness to life, through awareness, through observation. No actions needed. No fees to pay. No certifications to obtain.
Life will bring those teachings according to our level of consciousness, our place in the journey of Life. Kindergarten is not less than being a college graduate, for without kindergarten there would not be a college graduate. It is a continuous, a process which will bring the range of experiences through our awareness.
In Life; there are no shortcuts. Every stage has its own timing.
Thus, importance is no longer placed in a particular stage of Life or a particular aspect of it, we may discover that our capacity to enjoy the journey is of utmost importance.
For those interested in finding a “purpose” to living, let me express that in 2 words that we may understand.
1. Enjoy 2. Learn.
Joy is an attitude towards Life. Joy will keep the child inside.
Learning the teachings of Life lessons while unlearning the conditioning of the “office world” will nourish our insight, which will bring evolution, wisdom.
It is that valuable insight which will “certify” us as being ready in Life for that “sexual angelic cultivation” when our time arrives.
If we want to find someone to teach us, we will not find anyone who truly knows.
If we want to pray to the celestials teachers to get their teachings, it will not happen.
In Life what we want to accomplish does not matter. What matters is what we are willing to go through to get that. It is through that journey how we learn, how our consciousness changes, how we evolve and gain insight.
Self-realization is not sold in best sellers. It is not taught in any retreat by certified holy masters.
If we want self-realization, we will need to give up ourselves. That is the ultimate openness to Life.
Are you willing to go through that? Perhaps not now, but believe me, your time will arrive. 🙂
One of Life sweetest pleasures is to share with your friends the immense freedom of being just “you.”
As a seeker, I am discovering the full circle of Life. In my experience, it was about going outside for validation, for love, for acceptance just to come back to myself, to feel comfortable in my own skin, in my own company… that “getting used to” could take many years. It is a process.
When we reach the “comfortable” level, that is the time when Life will prompt us to move on, to go “outside the shell” for a “new beginning.” That is the time to integrate with the Totality under a new “me.”
When Life gives us “idle time” with ourselves, it is to recuperate, unwind, gather strength and face what is left, to complete that full circle.
Many times, we will find friendship in some who remind us of ourselves. We could see many characteristics that we have in common. That brings a comfortable, nurturing friendship.
That reminds me of the saying: “Tell me who your friends are and I ‘ll tell you who you are.”
Nevertheless, many times we forget that friends are those who show us who we truly are, and accept us as we are.
Want a teacher?
There you have it, in flesh, near you !
Have you seen Ralph E. Wolf and Sam Sheepdog from “Looney Tunes” cartoons?
They have opposite interests, they will disagree, fight and try to outwit each other while in “office hours,” but once they “punch out” the clock, they are friends again as if nothing happened before.
Most humans keep the past inside them, some as a reminder of a “payback time,” and others as a “danger” signal to reject something or someone, thus; unknowingly allowing for a traumatic experience, which will become a deep emotion in need of healing, later on.
What is that “punch out of the clock” in a friendship?
The ability to say, and feel: “I am sorry.”
It is not just lip service, but the connection with a person will be maintained in the capacity that we have to feel appreciation for that person despite differences.
Is he/she pushing all your buttons? Is he/she “mirroring” you and that is exactly what you do not like about them?
For the aware individual, that is an excellent “teacher”!
If your Life journey is dedicated on knowing yourself, who could be the most adequate person to partner with in Life?
The opposite of yourself, of course.
The sheepdog with the wolf makes a great Life long partnership as long as there is a common time to “punch out” of the clock.
“But why? They will be fighting all along!”
That may be true. That is why it was said, “for those who are in the journey of knowing themselves.”
The opposites are complements.
One with yourself, you could be one with another who is the opposite.
“Wouldn’t that be a great challenge?”
Yes, but it also has a great reward.
“What is that?”
To find love.
Love the ones who are like you but also the ones who are the opposite. Isn’t that a religious teaching? Yes, and without the experience in “real” Life, it is just a meaningless dogma.
Every single relationship, every single friendship has been planned out just for you! Whether a “good” experience or a “bad” experience, it is exactly what you need in your current stage.
We are going in a full circle in Life, so there is no objective to reach, but just to enjoy the unique moment as it is.
Perhaps, do we want an easy “method” to “achieve” friendship?
Here are the “steps:”
2) Show empathy
3) Say I am sorry.
Do you like that? Want to teach that to others?
No rush.The above is completely useless! 🙂
You can only act as you are. To believe that by changing your behavior you will “achieve” something is truly an illusion. Repetition of a script will only dull your feelings.
Nevertheless, to go through that illusion is “good” for it is part of your journey which is pointing to no other place… but yourself.
I have learned in Life that out of all the possible relationships that one could experience, friendship is the most flexible, adaptable and capable of allowing us to be true to ourselves.
Freedom in friendship. The bond of a friendship is what is needed in all other relationships, for even if the other relationships dissolve, friendship will remain.
Friendship is the epitome of a relationship.
If we could only perceive the “other” as a friend…
A sense of belonging is so important for our well being, but there are few things that we could belong to, without being asked for something in return.
When you find friends that accept you without conditions, without rules and restrictions… value that time, be grateful to Life because you found an invaluable treasure … 🙂
Our ‘conditioning’ in life has been successful! Congrats!! 🙂
We learn many things from our parents when we are born, then we go on into school to deepen that inculcation by learning how to speak and write. We may find other views and beliefs which we could “choose” to adopt through the process of assimilation…
When we come out of that “systematic learning environment,” then we believe that words are “reality” just like 2+2 are always 4 (so we think) then using operative keywords such as: If, then, or, and, nor to express ourselves becomes important …just like a computer program. At the same time our beliefs are strengthened. “I believe in this” becomes our source of “reality.”
As adults, we could “choose” to become indoctrinated in different ways: Religion, TV, books, entertainment, addictions, collective neurosis, civic beliefs… Lots to choose from! 🙂 I have a “choice.” 🙂
The above scenario is neither ”good nor bad.” The above is not written so we could denounce our “indoctrination.” It is part of living in a society. However, the above becomes an issue once we act unconsciously, that is once we allow only the information that we gathered up until we were around 7-year-old (which is settled in our unconscious) in conjunction with any new information that we could become persuaded by or influenced by, as the “dogma” to believe in.
We could talk all the “rationality” that we’d like but the issue to realize is that a 7-year-old kid is not rational but highly emotional.
We could probably observe that a philosophy of life, a belief about “spirituality” will not be able to make a deep impact in the self, until the emotional aspect has been dealt with, healed and harmonized.
Let me emphasize that any well thought out, rational philosophy of life is useless to go deep into the self until the emotional aspects are dealt with.
Nevertheless, the rational world of grown ups have decided to forget about the “emotional kid,” and use those lingering emotions to manipulate an adult through the practice of “punishment and reward” as the way to understand a “moral” society; which will continue into our beliefs of the afterlife.
Manipulation, indoctrination, assimilation…brainwashing… 🙂
An adult surrounded by collective neurosis, will obviously assimilate that trait unless that adult is conscious of it, and is capable of not rejecting things but integrating himself into that Totality without being absorbed by it. This is the trait of a spiritual walker. Openness will allow to observe without judgment but at the same time to act when necessary.
It is through our feelings how we could allow the integration with the Totality, and by leaving the rational mind to act only for rational tasks. There is a time and a place for everything.
Ananda was swimming in the Ocean. He saw a flock of birds passing by. In the past he would have counted the number of birds rather than observing them, appreciate them. In the past he would have missed the beauty of that flight formation for the sake of having a number, a referential dry number in his mind so he could tell someone: “I saw 14 birds the other time.”
What could you expect. This is what Ananda had learned!! Numbers, separation, analysis, logic, accumulation of data. Rationality only.
All of that is of no help when the time has arrived to enjoy life.
Learning to unlearn is necessary to experience newness in life.
Thank you for your good question!
We need to be like children. How a child learns something so easily? Because that child is not concerned about “erasing” what he has learned. He is not concerned in analyzing stuff and comparing to find “faulty” information, to contrast and to weigh ‘pros and cons.’
A child is open to “learn,” accepts without comparison. If that which he has learned brings some benefit, a child will stick to it until something else comes up. Probably that is the reason why BapDada calls us children most of the time; even though we like to play “children” around Baba, our minds do not.
It is excellent that you realize those “clouds” coming into your mind. Realization has its own “cure.” After that, there is no need to “do” anything else.