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Witnessing -Observing- Detached Observer and all of that

The following videos will illustrate “practical spirituality,” versus “theoretical” spiritual “skills.” 🙂 These videos are about 5 minutes each.
The topic is witnessing or being a detached observer.

Out of the many modern ‘gurus’ in existence, avyakt7 enjoys to listen to Mooji once in a while.
Mooji is not like the typical Guru surrounded with all the devotional, uppity stuff around him. To avyakt7, Mooji shows human care and with his unpretentious style is able to touch listeners with his spiritual experience. Below is a video of him (there are a couple of devotional pictures before the video itself.)

Dr. Scott Peck in this video could be the typical “lecturer theorist of Spiritual knowledge.”
This video will explain the intellectual concepts behind “peace skills.”
You “learn” skills to “love.” He is going to enumerate all the skills you need to become a loving person, a “love master.”

You will learn to work through conflicts by getting into “detach” mode but at the same time, using your peace “skills.” 🙂
You are in a detached “mode” but it is not “good” to be too detached because people will think that you don’t care, etc… His talk is a good starter point for someone who does not want to listen to the word “spiritual” but yet only believes in conceptual learning and in building “skills.” 🙂

Spirituality is not a mental game to “pretend” to be something that we are not. Detachment is not a “skill” that we learn; it is a state of consciousness which appears as we experience a different awareness based on inner inquire, solitude and harmonious living.

There are not Ph.Ds in Spirituality. There is a “reason” for that.. 🙂

Detachment, preferences, desires, freedom and Love


The word “Detachment” is used in Spirituality as the ability to become a “witness,” that is a “trustee” in all the different life situations.

Through “detachment,” “Me” becomes another actor in the “movie” of life (my part) and as such “Me” is the “observer,” the one sitting comfortably in a seat in the first row of the movie theater of life, just to watch the show… which includes “my” part.

That detachment in only possible when there are no desires.
That is one way to check if our so called “detachment” is “true,” for if there is any sort of desires about a particular outcome, we cannot be “detached observers.”

Not to have desires is one of the first practices that any spiritual teachings will teach. Desires are the “doors to suffering,” we are told. Nevertheless, our minds are usually full with desires.

That is why, it becomes important to check our thoughts, to watch the mind and its emotions, as a “detached observer.”

Thus, to be a “detached observer,” a “trustee” in the movie of life, we need to check our own mind first.

A desire will come to the mind and our thoughts will create a story. That story brings emotions and those emotions have the control over us to “make us feel” sad, happy or neutral.

Detachment does not mean to “negate” life, but to enjoy it without “attachment” to it. That “attachment” is also at the level of our minds. It is the mind who is attached to, who does not want to let go. The thoughts in the mind are obstacles to feelings in the heart.

In “detachment” there will be preferences many times. That is life will offer different experiences that we could be open to. As mentioned before, rejection is a sure way to suffer. Many may see rejection of life as detachment from it. That is a separation, that is asking for suffering through the “desire” of being detached.

Life may open the door with possibilities. Which one to take? That is a preference. That is a “choice.” In Detachment there could be a “preference,” but even within that preference, there is no expectation of an outcome, that is a desire on that preference is not materialized.

However, at the most “elevated” level of the self, that is when the “self” is self-less, that is when “preferences” are not even part of the equation, for there is acceptance of that which appears, in that; there is freedom from the movie of life.

In that freedom there is love.

That is how being detached and being loving are related.

Love the freedom of love

When a human being is trapped in his own “movie,” when a human being is in bondage of his own thoughts, ideas, perceptions, ideals, etc. that human being is not free. Without freedom there cannot be love for love is made of freedom as the ocean is made of water.

There is love from the mind and there is love from the heart.

Love from the mind will trap someone. That love is obsessive. That love wants to possess someone. That love does not let go. The mind creates stories. Those stories have a preconceived destination. When that destination is not reached, the mind cries. When the mind cries, the heart feels. When the heart feels that sadness; there is bitterness, anger, despair and …. a disease. All of that is love of the mind.

That love from the mind has expectations. That love from the mind cannot let someone be free. That love from the mind demands for a return.

The mind has to be free to love. The mind has to be empty from words and thoughts to love. The heart needs to be free from the tight strings of the mind to dance its own tune.

Love is freedom. Utmost freedom. A free heart dances in the stage of an empty mind, for love is an ongoing experience and not a memory, a picture of the past.

Love is appreciation of beauty without trying to hold to it, to possess it with our bare hands as to make it “mine.”

Love appreciates and let freedom take over. That is love from the heart.

I cannot love a bird by holding it in my hands to “take care of it,” but by seeing it fly as it is meant to be. Not to recognize the nature of a bird is not to care about it. That is love for “normal” people. It is about what I think is “right.” It is about “me.”

Love is void of hopes. It does not have an agenda. Love does not have a “structure, “ or particular content other than to let someone “be.”

To appreciate the beauty of that moment when the bird eat from your own hands; just to become stronger before the long flight towards his own destiny; to see that bird going away; flying high in the sky… when the mind is free of the “when will you be back?,” at that point when the heart is free from the tyranny of the mind; at that point; you have felt love from the heart.