Question: om shanti brother, I am starting to churn on the topic of “discipline”. A lot of it is lacking in modern society and I see how this causes big problems with youth for example. I myself have a bit problematic history with the topic as I used to experience it as being imprisoned, being limited. In my BK life however I noticed some very disciplined and well-churning sisters flourish, even fly by it! So now I want to do more than recognize the value, I want discover the secret of discipline. (I read one earlier article of yours mentioning discipline, code of conduct).
Thank you for your question!
As the video below explains: “The purpose of discipline is to live fully.” That is what the “Code of conduct” means to me. You have the boundaries limited but within those boundaries you could explore. Discipline does not mean rigidity. It means to “reform” the self by following guidelines. I mention the word “reform,” because as you mentioned about the youth, if we do whatever “we feel” like, it is not really within the limits of “whatever we want,” but whatever we have learned that we want. For example, we know that water is good for you, but on any given day most westerners would rather have a glass of “Coke” than water. We have acquired a taste for carbonated water with sugar and caffeine, we need to “reform” the self; thus; discipline. Some people take up discipline for a weekend, some for their entire life, but there must be understanding as to why we are doing what we have decided to do, for otherwise; there will be repression.
Just like love goes together with detachment; true discipline goes together with flexibility.
Question: Dear brother, you have said that we should not lead this Brahmin life out of repression. But then you lay great importance on the ‘Codes of Conduct’ in Brahmin life and say that we shouldn’t compromise on that at any cost if we want to continue with the Brahmin life. So, in order to do that, first we have to follow them by compulsion initially unless it becomes natural, right ? And beside this we have to continue increasing the experiences of soul consciousness, right ? Please also explain the word “accuracy” in following the maryadas. Thanks.
Thank you for your great question!
Please do not take me literally. Experience things for yourself. I am just sharing my own experience with the issues that language brings in a generalized “black or white” world of understanding.. Yes, it is true that I mentioned about the need to follow the code of conduct to be “in the game.” As I mentioned before, that will keep our consciousness /awareness out of the “normal” consciousness of the Iron age. As you know, we are all numberwise, so what is accurate for you may not be for me. See? My circumstances, my experience with the maryadas, my belief in them, my health, etc, etc. all of that make your situation different than mine. Adjust accordingly, that is “accuracy” according to time and circumstances and capacity and not according to something written on a piece of paper.
For a Brahmin soul, the Maryadas should not be a “compulsory” thing. As a matter of fact, it wasn’t for me except for “amrit vela” (took some training) the other codes I was able to understand without compulsion.
Therefore, from my experience, there is compulsion only where understanding is lacking. As I mentioned before, “understanding” is not an intellectual exercise, but it is aligning words, thoughts/feelings and deeds on the same direction. For example if you say: “Celibacy is great,” if your thoughts/feelings are something like: ” i don’t think so,” then you actions will be “mixed,” and the stronger sanskaras will eventually take “leadership.” At that point, you are following celibacy out of compulsion. See?
At the end, you will not need to follow the Maryadas anymore… when they are part of you, in a “natural” way.
Question: Om Shanti !!!! May i request you for the good soft copy of this Maryada chart, so that the letters are seen clearly. Thank you!
Thank you for your question!
Hopefully one of our readers will be able to provide that chart, for otherwise; I will have to type everything in my little laptop… I do not have a copy of it.
If any of our readers would like to send me that chart as an attachment, please write to: tiger(AT)reiki.nu
Question: What are the 16 mariyadas? I am new to knowledge and I know most of the maryadas but I want to make sure that I really know all of them fully so I can apply them in my life.
Question: Om Shanti, Dear Brother, Is it ok to have have Ginger? I feel that it is also come under the category of Onion and Garlic. Am I correct?
Thank you for your question!
Although I am running out of “research time” these days, below a link that i found where it clearly states that Onion and Garlic are from the same family. It does not mention the same about Ginger
I know of some BKs that will “excel” in suppressing things “just in case.” I heard about radishes being another “family” member of onions, etc. The Maryadas mention to be away from garlic and onions due to their aphrodisiac properties, and that is what I would recommend, in “general.”
If you feel that you would like to experiment by taking ginger out of your diet as well as radishes, please let me know what you find out.
Personally, I do not eat radishes (never liked them) and ginger is a once in a while item.
Question:dear brother star. plz detail me the maryadas of being brahman soul. i knw the suoerficial ones bt want to ‘view’ the in depth principals fr deepening my exp of ‘being’ the being dat i am love u fr all the help.
Thank you for your question!
Here is an article about it, which was shared here sometime ago. I would recommend you to take a look at it.
Also, there is a good article here http://www.brahmakumarisforum.net/chat/post5841.html#p5841 titled, “Medicine for the diseases of the body and mind is – Mera Baba.” Go through it as well. Towards the end, it will mention about “purity” and its meaning.
This article could be helpful for those of us who are looking for medicines for the soul… 🙂 I believe this article was originally in Hindi and translated by Sister Gayathri from India.
Brahmin life out of the box
I was looking into “older writings.” This one is from the Summer of 2011. I took a vacation to Spain, which is a country which I feel that I belong to. I visited an ex-BK friend of mine as well as a “lokik” relative. It was a crucial moment to learn “acceptance” for me, as well as a healing experience from a previous moment of emotional pain. When I read this article, I recognized the story of the lawyer who wrote me which is shared below.
Now, I really understand where he was coming from. Last year, I wasn’t able to completely see it. That usually happens when I review some writings, I can see things that before I couldn’t. This is the nature of life, we are always learning new things at the right time and the moment we feel comfortable with what “we know,” we start stagnating….
Recently someone contacted me via email in reference to one of “my” writings about “time, experience and reality.” That person mentioned that once he started reading the first couple of paragraphs, he understood my position: what I was conveying was “right.”
He mentioned that he had an experience in a dune when he was “out” in another “dimension” and his former dead wife was giving him some knowledge on how everything worked. He mentioned that he was a lawyer by profession as if he wanted to add some validity to his experience or state of mind. He wanted to distribute his “knowledge” into the masses, and while in this task; he discovered concepts such as “singularity” and “multiuniverse” which he added into his description but to make it easier to grasp he said that we were like “bubbles” coming from a big ocean and then separating from that ocean to experience individuality even though we couldn’t “see “ our common origin and unity but eventually after experiencing that apparent individuality, we would go back to that ocean, that source to be “one” again.
(Added today: Now this makes full sense, for individuality is not “real” once we see that we are pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of the Drama and eventually, the seed which expands to become a tree, will need to go back to be a seed again….)
When I explained traditional “gyan” to him about being “souls” going from Parandham to have a physical experience but eventually to go back again to the soul world, he said: “nicely put.”
I was wondering if perhaps some individuals have some explanation on how everything works through other sources but without religious traditions and devotional, regional language. That knowledge certainly will fit their “capacity” to understand, and therefore; it will be “right” for them.
Phrases such as “God creating” and “God destroying all other religions” and “God giving an inheritance” and “God punishing” and “God having a selected group of “real” children” should be by now, fully understood. Please do not take those phrases in its literal form. They are meant to show a sense of urgency, a sense of belonging and a sense of importance of self transformation for the intellect of little children.
My understanding is that there are many ways of explaining “how everything works” in the Universe. I have shared many times how the Drama works with only one purpose and that is self-perpetuation. So it repeats again identically. Whether we decide to place God as the “main actor,” “director,” “creator,” “Savior,” and give such titles; for me is a matter of devotional love when in fact, Baba has explained that “He is bound to the Drama.” Nevertheless, Brahmin souls need a specific knowledge to become Deities which other souls will not possess. That is the difference. That is where purification comes and the importance of God at this time for Brahmin souls. Without God and his combined form, BapDada; there is no possible way “up” when everyone else is experiencing degradation.
I wanted to share that,I had the experience of going on a vacation and mingling with the “old world.” My understanding of that experience was very rich. I learned the importance of living by the Brahmin code of conduct but at the same time to be able to mingle with lokik souls in such a way as not to offend them, imply “superiority” or plain disrespect of what they believe, where they stand in life and their values and thoughts. No efforts to “convert” people to the “true” religion for the sake of “creating subjects.” 🙂
That respect to non-BK souls is very important to develop the “ 8 powers” fully. It is an art to be able to relate with others in their terms but at the same time to maintain our BK principles. This type of experience is something which can be fully experienced when living away from a “normal” BK day to day life, meaning when there is a time table completely planned for the day. My experience was to relate without the white clothes and the badge which could intimidate souls about a pre conceived relationship (teacher-student.) It wasn’t about “me” being the “teacher” but “me” being just like them, a friend sharing a distinct experience according to what the Drama presented at that moment.
At one time in my early life I had asthma triggered by some allergic reaction. The doctors suggested that I should stop eating certain food items. Sugar (in every form) was one of those items. I was so used to adding sugar in everything even before tasting it. I was fond of adding sugar to my morning glass of natural juice…which I thought, that practice was “normal and healthy.”
After a month of living without sugar, my taste buds changed totally after an initial reaction. When I could resume my previous diet and add sugar, I went ahead and surprisingly I did not like sugar in my juice anymore.
Similarly is the practice of the Maryadas. There will be an initial reaction for most but eventually, it will become a sanskara only through practice and understanding. The real test to find out if those practices have become “natural” to us or “artificial” is “out there,” when mingling with “lokiks.”
Every Maryada has its own challenge and we will realize that remembrance is the “bread and butter” of Brahmin life. Some Brahmins will “suppress” and “repress” just to maintain their code of conduct.
That is courageous of their part but to be “free from influences” is the objective and to reach to that point is a task that no every Brahmin is ready to face. Living a “natural Brahmin” life is the key to survive out there. This reminds me today’s Blessing about being powerful to overcome any obstacle, attraction or anything out there meant to distract us from our path. As long as we have the compass of our objective clearly in front of us and recall that at every step, there is remembrance.
A Brahmin soul needs to be able to realize the importance of living “without eating sugar” as a way to preserve their health. To be scared of sugar is not a mature behavior, but to understand that even if someone pours sugar in my glass of juice, it is for me to stop drinking. If I am still craving for sugar, I will go back to it. If that craving is gone, I will not. We progress in Brahmin life when those “rules” become “natural” in our behavior without any supports or peer pressure. To get to that point, is the individual task of everyone of us which as we know, eventually will be a numberwise matter; for a “kingdom is being established.”
The ability to “open up” to life from a “natural Brahmin behavior” has an impact on any lokik soul. At that point “service” is no longer a matter of “words” but to be the “embodiment” of those words…silent words… without being spoken.
To experience life lessons within the context of gyan, gives an immense understanding of life which cannot be transmitted to others through a class or through a writing, for knowledge cannot be transmitted but only remembered…it is already within us.