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Patience: The art of waiting

A desire, a goal, an objective will always be in the future.
Patience lives in that gap between the “now” and that future.
A desire, a goal, an objective may be attained or may not.
We could live with the belief that we will do.  There is no attainment that could bring inner fulfillment.

“Success” is the word we use when we attain something.
“Failure” is the word we use when we cannot attain.
Patience is the common ground where Inner fulfillment is found.

Have you experienced what is like to patiently wait?
If you “do it right,” you will not feel the time as “wasted.”

Don’t like to wait?
Then do not have a goal, an objective, a desire to attain.

When there is no failure, there is no success; thus, patience only remains.

Wait! That is it. Wait a minute, a second… How long can you wait?
Why do we feel tired of waiting?
Because of the need to attain.

It is “bad” to have an objective or a goal?
NO! As long as you are willing to play the game. Objectives bring time, and time brings the “future,” the waiting game.

Without objectives or goals or desires, what could we DO in Life?
Easy. We could live Life.
Can we live without goals? or should we patiently wait until we can?

Patience: Hallowed be thy name…

On tolerance and patience


Ananda was complaining to Mathias, the wise tree; about the visit of a friend; Raysha.

Ananda likes to relax, unwind and take it easy. Raysha on the other hand, likes to be with people all the time, by using her effective “healing skills” she was helping many and having many people around her; but Ananda was not used to such movement.

Ananda told Mathias in a lamenting tone of voice with suffering gestures:
“ I couldn’t sleep well last night…What can I do, friend. I have to tolerate and have patience during her visit.”
Mathias responded to Ananda’s sacrifice and toleration: “ Friend, Mathias is amused at your performance…” 🙂

Ananda thought that he was going to get some sympathy from his friend; after all he was practicing the “virtue” of tolerance and being extremely patient with Raysha.

In the consciousness of “you” and “I,” that is when the child is separated from the Father as well as the other “brothers and sisters,” the word tolerance is “good.” It is called a virtue.

A child can “tolerate” another brother or a sister when things are not going according to his wishes.

A child can have patience with “another” when the response he is getting does not fit his expectations.

A child, who can only see separation, will be tolerating things as a “good thing to do.” It is a “virtue” to tolerate others.

However, in another consciousness, to tolerate means not to accept things as they are. In other words, “I” pretend to go along with whatever is happening to avoid confrontation or a childish tantrum in front of others.

Any sort of “toleration” has a breaking point. Things cannot longer be tolerated and then, the “real” self comes out from the repression of having to tolerate.

Is truly to tolerate a virtue?
When the “savage” child pretends to be “well behaved “ for the sake of all, to tolerate may be called a virtue by some. Nevertheless, it is not a virtue, when that performance is born out of separation and it does not reflect the true feelings of the self.

In oneness, there is only continuity in life changes. If we could observe ourselves and see how we “pretend” to be “nice” with “others” through being “tolerant;” we can see that our vibes and feelings change. Using a nice word such as “toleration” cannot mask those vibes.

In oneness there is emptiness of that “I” which puts a wall on things that are happening. That wall is the product of our own beliefs and comfort zones; that is the construction of a personality. When that personality clashes with “others” or with a circumstance, then we could either “react” or be “tolerant.”

To react is to hit something from the inside to the outside. To tolerate is to hit the self, the inside from the inside…

There is no virtue in self-damage, but in the childish world where there is only “you or me,” as separated beings, a virtue is meant to help others over the self. You need to select between you or someone else.

In Oneness, there is no “other.” Therefore, no need to tolerate or be patient. This is not a concept to be analyzed, it is an experience of life through a different vision.

Virtues cannot appear by being cultivated. We are already complete with all of them; but the illusory vision of separation may need to change, the “illusion” needs to be removed for those virtues to automatically appear.

The support of the “I” through spiritual teachings separating the “you and me,” is a beginner step into the recognition of that “I” but is not meant to be the whole “truth” but just a different view according to consciousness.

As we change our view, our consciousness from that separation into oneness, there is a different perception where patience and toleration are no longer needed.

Question: Dear brother, The following points from your article is great. In my experience there is no easy escape and also the fake game will not work either. One question though, sometime we get tired as to how much longer we have to wait before we see the day light, as the suffering, and sorrow is too painful, should we keep moving along? “The knowledge of duality has the answer. Night changes into day automatically once night time reaches its limit; in other words; by being totally aware, without escape, by feeling that sorrow, that anxiety, that anguish, which is that “hell” in us; that is by being conscious on those things, then they will go away just like night time changes into day light. That is part of observing the self. That is the “work.”

Thank you for your great question!

Dear soul,

When you “wait for when it will finish,” you are in essence “tolerating,” when you tolerate there is no “acceptance” of what is, but rather we can’t wait for things to change. When we do that, we are not living life in the moment and also we are not aware, we are not sure that “night will turn into day time” at its right time. We have doubts.

On the other hand, when we have that certainty, “tolerating” is over. It is senseless to complain about “why is there still night time?” or to fuss about night time or to reject night time or to talk about how terrible is night time, all of that “perception” is what is causing us suffering…. all of that is just adding suffering into the self… Night will change into Day automatically, whether we fuss about of it or not.

The day we get to understand this, we will be able to see that to “waste” energy in fussing and tolerating is just making us tired without any purpose.

Dear soul, in your question:”Should we keep moving along?” 🙂 You will keep moving along. The question is if you rather move along with a clean mind filled with “good wishes and pure feelings” or with lots of “painful thoughts” about something which is temporary and “natural” in the unlimited.

Best wishes!

Question: Dear brother, first let me say you are doing a wonderful job clearing doubts of BKS and showing other no BKS what it means to be yourself and to be a spiritual person. As much I want to lead a vice free life, there are times where my uncleared sanskars make me perform small mistakes now and then which sometime when I review my act for the day makes me feel very discouraged. It is as if even with the determination to stop these kind of small mistakes I feel helpless. How can I get these out of my way so that I can progress further?

Dear soul, Thank you for your kind words. The “role” plays and “I” get out of its way…

On your question, let me share my experience.
Determination is good and part of the solution, but it is not enough. More than anything else, patience is required.
“You may lose a battle but not the war.” This is an advice that someone which we both listen to, gave me sometime ago.

Whatever it is, be aware that it is happening. Be conscious of it. Yoga is the best medicine. However you want to call it (meditation, remembrance, yoga, etc.) Just experience the self and become “centered” before doing anything. Be aware of that peaceful self and maintain that feeling as much as possible. Value peace and quietness in the self more than any other things, and whatever disturbs that, should be let go. It is not a fight, after all. It is about letting go by being aware.

Best wishes!