Tagged: rationalization

We shall not repress but transform

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As more individuals are waking up to the effects of a “black or white” mentality of “good and bad,” then the observation that every process happening in our self needs to be observed without using our reason, but by going deep in our feelings to find the issue.

The ‘truth’ is not an intellectual game of words when we understand how paradoxical life is. The ‘truth’ cannot be a concept or some commandment or some philosophy for whatever is written is static and even though may be logically grounded, it is not necessarily the way life itself operates.
Life is fully paradoxical.

A paradox is to be realized but it cannot be fully explained for it escapes the way our language and mindset has been conditioned to “think” as being “true.”

Truth is then to have the capability to go deep in our feelings by putting the mind-games aside along with all beliefs and to look at what our core being is letting us know.
That which we hear is not the “truth” to be put into a commandment but it is the “truth,” “my truth” of the time, which will change, which will evolve as we evolve with life.

To be that “truthful” is not as easy as it sounds. It requires our willingness to be completely alone, completely left aside in a society where the “majority wins” and the “truth” becomes just a paragraph to cite.

Whenever we learn to repress, we have learned to rationalize and to comply with the perception of the “majority” for the sake of belonging.

The energy of anger is neither “good nor bad.” It is not a matter to catalogue it into a convenient box.
If we find that it is “bad,” we will try to repress something, which will be experienced regardless of our philosophical or political mind game of the day, then we could feel guilty, bad, in need to ask for forgiveness, etc. which are nothing else but the consequences of the way we believe the world to be. Full of “black or white” duality.

That energy of anger could be “good” if it is transformed into strength. The Mom who witnessed her kid trapped under a car, had no problems lifting it to save her kid. These cases of “hysterical strength” are increasing in number. Sports are another outlet for anger. When that energy is focused, humans could do wonders.

Nevertheless, when that energy of anger is not properly channeled it becomes suicide for the one experiencing it.
Every human energy that we could feel is there just because it has a reason to exist and it depends on how we transform it to be able to live in harmony with it.
That could be the teaching to embrace and not to repress it because it is “bad.”

The same goes with lust, with fear and with rage.
To observe how those energies come up and to be able to use them when it is proper, becomes the art of managing our own energies. It is not a matter of “reacting” like a small kid who could not contain himself before getting to the bathroom.

It is in this way of looking at things without judgmental labels but by honoring what goes on in observation, how inner mastery is a possibility.

Enjoyment of life does not reside in repression, but in expressing at the adequate time with the right energy.

That is the reason why discipline exists, (teaching the kid to use the toilet) so it will allow us to enjoy life to the fullest rather than repress our existence.

The morality of beauty

Kahlil-Gibran

When a human being deviates from the common good, then different rationalizations will arise to protect his own perceived individuality.

Mr. A wants to get more out of life by “having more” than anyone else. Mr. A has the right to “have more.” Note that the whole mental idea of a prosperous society is to “have more” of anything.
That could be money, things, people, sex, pleasure, things to do, places to go, etc. In this type of mentality to be “idle” is out of the question. You have to fill your time with “doing” and “achieving.”

Obviously we have set up the environment for competition. Yes, we could call that “healthy competition” to label our ways in the most “sensible way.” 🙂

Obviously, to “win” is everything and that “winning” could be interpreted as being “better,” not being a “loser,” and since that is the motive, the purpose of our existence, then our behavior to procure that “win, win” may deviate from the Totality.

Trying to win 1 million dollars or to win Paradise is the same ego centered thing.

That is how “morality” came into existence and with that, all the rules, commandments, codes of conduct and laws that we could think of; just to make the game of “winning,” a fair game… 🙂
“You are a loser” even though you played “fair” because someone was “better than you” according to the laws and moral standards… 🙂

That is how manipulation and interpretation of those moral standards have changed throughout human history.

Then, to perform certain activities was considered to be the “culprit” of insensible human behavior, so “do not’s” appeared as moral patterns to follow and praise and with that a rigid mind appeared, thinking that something is “good” because it is the law or the moral standard of the time.
Our lives became “mental” and we got separated from empathizing and feeling life as part of the whole thing.

There is the sign by the lake: “Do not swim.” We see someone drowning and we may be good swimmers, as a matter of fact, the individual drowning is not far away… Do you jump in and save the person or not? If you don’t, you may be following the “law.” Intellectually, you have done the right thing!

Your heart may tell you a different story, but nothing that you could not “drown” inside yourself by trying to forget about it!

If we become too mental, too brainy about acting, we could never act in a “good way.” All we could do is to follow a script, which is not what we feel.

Many religions and societies are in favor of scripts, and laws. Being “right,” means doing what is “right” according to some standard.

For someone who is in tune with his own feelings and who is sensible to beauty, that sensibility becomes the law.

Not touching a prostitute to help her to cross the river is the law for some. To feel the beauty of empathizing and feeling for others, is the heart, the core of an action.

Many are so caught up with particular actions by calling them “good or bad,” and forget the heart of those activities; that is what I feel beyond my individuality.

To become sensible to beauty is something that many have lost. This is not only physical beauty but the surroundings, the vibrations, the setting and what we could bring into it. To feel beauty is not related with seeing it… although that beauty could be enjoyed through the eyes as well.

Life is way more than rigid systems created by the mind. Life is more than a book with commandments.

When we learn to be part of the Totality, the whole; then mental rigidity is out of the question.

Many are so busy teaching others about the “law of God,” forgetting about becoming sensible to beauty and the law of your own heart. The unspoken truth of your feelings in connection with all.