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The struggle of being “right.”


Our society in general has inculcated the idea that the most important thing in life is to be “right.”

This goal creates a struggle in our minds. No one wants to be labeled as “being wrong.”
Thus, life becomes a battlefield of proving rightness over wrongness.
“I am right. You are wrong.”

The above is within the limits of a childish consciousness. It is not “bad” neither “good.” It is just a type of consciousness.

I recall the story of Jim Thorpe. He was an Olympic gold medalist in the decathlon (1912.) He lost that medal after it was found that he was paid to play semiprofessional baseball before the Olympics.
30 years after his death, the Olympic Committee restored his Olympic medals… (??)

Nowadays, we cannot think of a world-class athlete who is not paid or has an endorsement to compete in the Olympics.
Was Jim Thorpe “right” or “wrong”? 🙂

Pope Francis is into changing “old methods” of the Catholic Church:.. “More than by fear of going astray, my hope is that we will be moved by the fear of remaining shut up within structures which give us a false sense of security, within rules which make us harsh judges, within habits which make us feel safe, while at our door people are starving.”

Rules change. “Right or wrong” changes as well…

Anne bought a plasma TV. It had such a huge screen, the neighbors could watch what she was watching from their homes. One of the components failed in the TV. Because Anne had some knowledge about computers and electronics, Anne came to the conclusion that the issue was hardware related. Because the TV was under warranty she called the store.
The people from the store sent their repair crew. They went exactly through the same steps as Anne did to troubleshoot the device. They sent an email to their headquarters about their findings and left.

Anne thought that her problem was resolved and waited for a couple of weeks… then…nothing! She called again to find out about the delay. The store decided to send a different repair crew…
The new crew went through the same thing. They apologized for the miscommunication and mentioned that her issue somehow “slipped through the cracks.” 🙂

In a couple of days, Anne received an email from a supervisor of the store, letting her know that “she was right all along!”

The TV wasn’t fixed yet… but Anne was right!! 🙂

In life, the issue is not just an instant of being called “right or wrong” but the important thing to remember is what happens in between.
Did Anne enjoy her time without a TV?
Did Anne found another source of enjoyment?

Or perhaps, Anne was complaining all along about something that she had no control of?

The consciousness of enjoyment goes beyond the instant of feeling the satisfaction of being called “right” at one moment or “wrong” at the other.

It is what it is. If there is something that could be done to “fix” things, then we could do our part… but enjoyment needs to be there.

To find out in the future if we are ‘right or wrong’ is of no consequence when we live life to the fullest.

Of course the above could be misinterpreted as: “performing evil actions and not caring because it does not matter if I do something right or wrong.” 😉

The intention behind any action is what matters. There is no enjoyment in being afraid of being caught.

Fear is the opposite of enjoyment in life. Fear is the opposite of love in life.

That is why, there is no ideology or philosophy which brings fear to a human being, which could be able to transform consciousness.

Fear could be removed when we are aware of our own fears, when we could recognize them as what they are without trying to justify them or rationalize their existence.

That is, fear could be removed when we are truly honest with ourselves… That is the time when enjoyment could be free again to start flowing in our lives.

The Dangers of following spiritual knowledge without spiritual experience

This one is a topic which I wish someone would have explained to me long ago. Spiritual knowledge is explained in different ways according to the audience.
For instance, the Bible has an explanation based on a moral code as many other religions. There are many “do not’s,” just like a manual for traffic law violation. Same with Brahma Kumaris knowledge specially in the Sakar Murlis. There is this sense of “rescuing” someone from the “gutter,” to “shape up,” someone who has been misguided and usually the easiest way to accomplish that “guidance,” is by clearly negating certain actions or activities. However, in that negation there is neither explanation nor the opportunity for further understanding for that experience is the “gate to hell.” 🙂

For instance, If the traffic law says: “Do not drive pass a red light.” It is easy to understand why. There are cars coming from other directions. That is the opportunity for an accident. However, at the same time because we understood “why” and were able to see an “experience” without experiencing; we could fully understand that if we are driving at 4:30 AM and there is a red light which is stopping us for the last 5 minutes and we do not see any cars coming from any place; then we can use our judgment to make a decision in that experience. Right? What would you do? Wait for someone to fix the light? Your decision. Call the police to allow you to cross the red light? Sure why not. Your decision… 🙂

This is when “breaking the law,” may not be really “breaking it” but understanding the “spirit of it.”

In spirituality it is not that easy. For instance the realization that “people come and go in our lives and that we cannot rely on anyone, but to learn to be self-reliant and to be capable of living with ourselves, alone,” that sounds good. It is very obvious.

Many will act by closing doors to others for “fear” of being attached. If there is that attachment and the person who they are attached to goes away, then suffering will set in. Therefore, to avoid that suffering, it is best to push people away from us, from the very beginning. Right? That seems very safe but it is negating relating with life, closing the door to living.
That is why, we need to look at our own self and look for solutions. Our weaknesses will be open for us to explore, once we live the Brahmin life. Our duty is to transform those weaknesses into virtues.

Without doing this process of inner transformation, a spiritual life will be experienced as “hell within hell,” where laws, commandments, hierarchies and policies will rule our existence. If those laws are against one of our dear, beloved weaknesses; then that weakness will be expressed sooner or later and then…. We get in trouble. 😦

Therefore, a spiritual life is not meant to suppress. It is meant to transform. In this movement of transformation there is life, there is living; there is love to life.