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Observing the inner drama of the mind


Ananda was wondering about the words of Mathias; the wise tree, about getting rid of the “Me.”
In theory it sounds good, but how do you do that practically?
By simply not being attached to anything we think or perceive. Simple but not so. Paradox. 🙂

Ananda had the ritual of watching the waters of the bay every morning. Ananda does not feel compelled to do this as “mandatory,” but it is a natural fulfilling experience for him, as if he was seeing a friend.

When Ananda observed the waters of the bay without emitting any judgment in his mind, something occurred: Some sort of understanding appeared by just looking at the world of the Ocean and their participants: The seagulls flying, the fish swimming in formations just like the birds, the dolphins arriving from afar to be seen, the wind blowing and the sunshine reflecting on the waters of the bay, which created a calming sound when hitting smoothly the walls of the bay. All of that made a symphony, harmonious music with the theme of celebrating a new day.

Ananda was getting ready to go for a trip far away to a land filled with buildings, cement and noise, also known as “progress.”

Ananda knew that his morning ritual of “self purification” will be stopped for a while. He had developed love for Nature, specially the Ocean.
Then a thought arrived. He thought: “I will really miss you.”
Ananda was working on observing his mind, thus; Ananda caught that little phrase when he was about to build the “feely” emotion of “I miss you.”

Ananda realized that he was comparing. Anada realized that he was anticipating the future based on his experience of the past. He was attached to the thought of “having the waters of the bay,” in his mind.

From there, everything was about the game of comparing: the new place versus the old one. The likes and dislikes, the “how miserable I feel now and I wish things were like they used to be.” All of that, is plain rejection of what is.

Ananda realized that whenever he compared, he will be choosing one thing rather than another. That choice meant his automatic emotional dependency on something. That “me” selecting things to depend on which by nature are transitory.

As Ananda discovered these things while observing his mind, deeper emotions came up.

Ananda thought of that moment when he fell deeply in love with some one. That person did not reciprocate his feelings; but that experience didn’t allow Ananda to “move on” in life. Every woman that he met from that point on, was compared against a fictional “blueprint” of perfection, an emotion which depicted perfection and no woman could be closer to that.

Ananda was trapped in that emotional drama, which truly showed him the issues of being trapped in idealism and daydreaming, on playing your own movie in your mind.

Ananda then remembered the time that a dog bit him. His ego made a trauma out of that experience and his mind confabulated to create fear every time Ananda was close to a dog.
“All dogs are like that. Don’t get near to them,” advised the “little voice” inside his mind, the “Me.”

Ananda perceived how accumulating psychological information in his mind, which is known as memory; was the cause of not living the now, for those experiences had greater value than the current present.

Ananda realized that this memory of an experience in life, became permanent every time his ego felt hurt, neglected, lacking respect; that is every time an experience came below “his” expectations.

Ananda realized that the source of all of that was this center who he called “I.” That center is psychological, it doesn’t exist but his mind make that “center” alive. That center even has his own little voice talking to Ananda all the time, to prove its existence.

Finally, it “clicked for Ananda,” when he remembered what Mathias; the wise tree, mentioned about being empty and getting rid of the “me.”

There is “pure” observation without comments, that is, the “Me,” is not there. It is like a 3 year old baby looking at the environment attentively, learning new things. People would infer that these babies are “thinking,” but that is not there yet. As a matter of fact, most of our thinking comes out of learning our language, then the concept of “me” is learned very well and from that “separation” arrives.
It is just conceptual separation made real in our mind.

Religions and philosophies have used different methods to deal with the mind. One of them is to busy the mind. Remember this or that instead. Fantasize with this or that, keep the mind busy. That is a method relying on something else to keep that peace “of mind.”

Nevertheless, to observe our own mind without being the observer is a step further, a step beyond dependencies. It is the art of figuring things out for yourself and by yourself.

You become your own teacher.

Sharing of book and Question for June 10, 2013

http://lifesoperatingmanual.com/read-it-online/ Hey just started reading this book today. Just read a few pages till now but it resonates. Thought to share

Dear soul,
Thanks for sharing it. Below is a link of that book which worked better for me. If someone does not have time and wants to get a feeling of the book, please read page 63 to 67.
Also, a link to a bio of the author, Tom Shadyac is added. He has been around in the world of the “rich and famous” and then decided to simplify his life…the spiritual bite.

Best wishes,



Dear soul, How is it that us souls are programmed to forget our past lives after taking a new costume, however some souls are able to remember their past. How does that happen? Is there any explanation given in gyan regarding this? Or can you share your thoughts please? Many thnx

Thank you for your question!
Dear soul,
To remember and to forget are part of the Drama of duality. “Actors” do it in a numberwise way (That is Gyan) that means that some will forget more and others will remember more.
Nevertheless, whether we remember or forget, we will bring with us our previous pearls and baggage as well.

Best wishes!

Question: om shanti , I have the image of someone( hope u understand ) in my mind which i want to wipe out whenever i am alone or while in meditation , that someone arises in mind ,sometime there is feeling of easiness of forgetting but most of time i can`t , i want to get out of this fully to concentrate on myself and nothing else , how to deal with this subconscious feeling ?

Thank you for your question!
Dear soul,

I understand what you are expressing for I have experienced that.
Here is what I found: The harder you try to forget, the harder it will become to forget that person.
The more attention you pay to that, a greater fantasy will be built in your mind with the feelings and emotions which will strengthen that experience of remembering someone who you do not wish to or that you are trying to close your feelings to.

Just open your heart, send good wishes and “move on” in your mind to the next thought. As long as you keep good feelings consciously and you are not building stories in your heart or mind, forgetting will happen; but as we know; it may take sometime. This is a karmic account for the mind to settle.

Conquering is never done through force. It is done by letting go.

Best wishes!

The duality of remembering and forgetting

If we want to express how the Drama works in simple words, then we need to “remember” that those words are to forget and to remember.
These 2 words express the teaching about duality and also our persistent idea that things have to be either “good” or “bad.”

Is remembering “good”? It depends. It is good to remember God. It is wasteful to remember the past.
Is forgetting “good”? It depends. It is good to forget the past. It is wasteful to forget the self, the soul.
Similarly all duality embraces this type of teaching. On the other hand, our “petty” morality only knows of written laws and commandments which are unbendable, inflexible and therefore, easily written in a piece of paper to be worshiped and called the “truth.”

Balance, harmony consists in looking at these dual values and use them at the “right time.”

Paradoxically, this is not something which has to be decided as when we “decide,” to take a course in business law rather than ethics; this decision is made by the Drama already and all we have to do is “observe and align.” That is to flow with it.

The above requires awareness. It requires being awake. It requires a higher degree of intelligence than merely repeating words or information.

Intellectual understanding is not the highest form of “knowing,” it is the most rudimentary, for it only supports description, taxonomy, labels. Intuition on the other hand, is a higher way of knowing, which does not require understanding which could be conveyed into words. That “knowing,” is direct, full according to time and therefore, complete.

The Golden age is an example of this type of intelligence. There is neither remembrance nor forgetfulness. It is a state of knowing without written codes or laws. We need those codes as reminders for we forget, but those codes are not in itself the destination.

In the world of duality, the remedy for forgetfulness is remembrance. In this way, remembrance is an individual matter; because only us know what we are forgetting after knowing gyan, that is what we are forgetting after experiencing something spiritual.

We cannot make “effort” to forget. We can only make effort to remember.
We cannot make effort to forget the past. It comes automatically when we are in acceptance of the present, in amicable terms with our present; that is in contentment.

BapDada described this yesterday when He gave His definition of what a Brahmin soul is: “To be a Brahmin means that your speaking and doing; your thinking and speaking, your listening and putting into practice would be the same.” (AM 11-11-12)

Otherwise, we are not in alignment, for our thoughts do not match our feelings and our feelings do not match our words. That chaotic stage pulls our intellect in different directions.

By remembering and experiencing the soul, our present becomes a fulfilling reality. In that fulfillment there is no need to draw a “personality” which comes from the past.

Similarly when we “forgive,” we basically forget. That forgetting to be true, has no trace or label of the past.
To do this, we need to be fully in the present. That is to experience contentment.