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Question on transforming sexual energy

“Avyakt 7, for the non intellectuals like me can u please elaborate on transformation of energy, how it can be done , how to develop the feminine side. I am also in the similar state and guilt is killing me. Please help.”

Dear reader, (question related to: http://avyakt7.com/2013/10/26/question-on-masturbation/) Transforming sexual energy into feelings Is not something that can be explained in a “1,2,3 steps.” It is a journey which varies according to the individual.

Same thing with becoming acquainted with your female side. Please note that avyakt7 is referring to universal feminine energies. This is not about acting like a female if you are a male. We are referring about energies here.

This is interesting to note for humans have interpreted spirituality as being related with the physical dimension. If a quick decision was needed, if strength was needed, then a male was used to represent that rather than “male” energy. Likewise, for spirituality; the passivity side of female energy is needed to become acquainted with feelings.

However, many have interpreted that to portray women as being more spiritual than men. It is in this duality of separation through physical characteristics where we can only go through extremes; that is at one time a male is the figure of spirituality whereas at other times, it may be a female. In reality there are women with more male energy than female energy. This can be easily observed in places where males are rejected.
Nevertheless as explained before, the main issue is to learn to feel. Let me give an example that hopefully you could relate with.

For example, many individuals believe that they “fall in love” with someone through “chemistry,” that is sexual attraction. If you have ever experienced that sensation, there cannot be a possible space for tenderness and generosity (feelings) when there is a need to release sexual tension due to sexual attraction. Songs have been written about this “love.” “I need you. I got to have it. You spark love in me..etc.” 🙂

Love is gentle, slow and complete, tender, harmonious. It is not just about sexual organs but it is about the whole being, a totality. If you have ever had that experience with someone, you know that sexual impulses are not the first thing to “take care of,” but there is more to it. There is enjoyment in the company. Enjoyment in sharing. Enjoyment in communicating. It is a different level of intimacy.

The reason why I am describing the above is so you could understand what I mean by feelings.
If there is no such a person in your experience, some may find those feelings with God according to their experiences or beliefs; while others with Nature.
The point is to feel beyond the pull of sexual attraction. That is accomplished when we are sensitive to beauty beyond the physical realm. This is the only task.

Not knowing your beliefs or setting in life, Avyakt7 would recommend Nature as that source of love that could teach you to feel with intensity again. Nature is always there and its beauty is Universal, beyond form. Be part of it. Merge with it. That is learn to love it.

Nature has both types of energies, male and female. Male is the Sun, the mountains. Female is the Ocean, the Moon.
Stop the thinking and let yourself be driven by that experience. Feel the water in your skin. Appreciate the Moon in the night.

Feet are the representation of the female energy in the body. Walk by the beach barefooted, the grass.
Be in touch with your body by practicing exercises which develop that female energy such as flexibility and harmonious movements. For example, hatha yoga (recommend yin yoga for it is gentle and very meditative) or Tai chi.
It is important to embrace female energy because that is where feelings are, which will balance the “male” side of things: The Sun, thinking, strength, action etc. Our society mostly embraces “male energy” creating an unbalanced personality in both man and woman.

As you “practice” you will discover new things.

Sexual energy sometimes builds up through self imposed violence towards the body. Please refer to the writing on “Sexual alchemy” (Under the “Awakening by Mathias” tab)
Life may give you other options to develop your sincere desire to overcome sex lust. In Avyakt7’s path, massage therapy was that option which appeared when Avyakt7 was ready.

Massage therapy is one of the most tender ways to relate with someone. It could be also used in the opposite way as to arouse sex lust as well. That is the challenge.

Dear reader, all there is to it is to feel deeply, to be in love with life and to wish to share the best in you with others. Let life show you the way, be open to it and become aware of yourself at every moment. Learn from your internal and external reactions.

You could meet someone’s energy with male or female energy: passive or active. You could learn to balance those energies in you.

In the Indian tradition, that being who has balanced those 2 polarities of energies is known as “Vishnu.”

Observe yourself in every interaction. Someone who is learning to ride a bike does not feel guilty when he falls down because he knows that he will learn to ride the bike sooner or later. To fall down is part of the process as long as it is a “genuine fall.” That guilty energy is detrimental, when what is required is to learn from the experience, to experiment, to try new things with sincerity and to live the moment with consciousness.

Best wishes!