Tagged: sincerity

Question: Honesty for Spiritual growth

“Dear Brother, I thank you for your honest opinion and efforts towards spirituality. Coming from Indian origin and being conservative, we always look for others’ affirmation for any of our actions. Being a BK is no different, the same thing is followed. But the problem is there is a struggle(BK or otherwise) between the actual experience(the truth if I can say so) and the outer self (the outward behavior to please others). If one doesn’t go by the group, he is considered as half-cast or rebel. There is a clash as there is a feeling for the need of a group for spiritual progress (away from purely materialistic group). When people see your experiences, articles they get support for their inner selves which is longing to express the emotions, freedom, struggles. May be one should have that courage to be honest with oneself to progress spiritually (BK or otherwise). If we don’t we are losing our time by just believing a set of principles as real effort. Because many teachers/seniors speak of following the principles with more and more sincerely, because there principles helped them, but to put them explicitly as support systems only (not the effort itself) for spiritual progress would make the lives of spiritual seekers a lot easier. It would be good if you can elucidate the fundamental qualities needed from your experience for progress for a spiritual effort maker.”

Dear reader,

Thank you for your great question. As you mentioned, there is this pressure to conform, to be part of something in order to “move on.” Everyone is caught up in that in one-way or another: At work, in the religious gathering, in a society with determined set of values and traditions, etc. The consequence of not following is to be “alone.” Are you ready to experience that? 🙂

The answer comes when we realize that this is happening. That realization will bring the way out of that situation when the time arrives, if it arrives.

That right moment is something for every individual to recognize.

If the above sounds “very general,” it has to be in that way, for this blog is read by many individuals from different viewpoints and state of consciousness.

From avyakt7’s own experience, the truth is in yourself. This sounds like a cliché; and it is, if you have not experienced the third level of consciousness, the self. Perhaps there is more to it which avyakt7 hasn’t experienced yet, so avyakt7 does not hold anything as “absolute,” avyakt7 is open to “learn.” Knowing the inner self will give you that closeness to God.

When you are committed to Spirituality, which means that you realize that there are many weaknesses within “you” which are lingering there due to lack of greater consciousness; then change will be on the way. The issue is “you,” the solution is in “you.” The path is honesty, sincerity in your dealings with yourself.

Usually religions and methods are there to “protect us” from that “outside” that you mentioned. It feels reassuring when others feel and think like you; but there is danger in that as well, it is called self-righteousness.

When you want to plant a shrub or a small plant that will become a strong tree later on; you will probably use a stake to support that shrub. Religions are that stake. That protection will be there but that stake will need to go away for the tree to find its own strength. Others will need that stake as long as they live. There is variety that is why, there cannot be “the answer.”

The purpose of that stake is to allow you to gain greater consciousness.

From my experience, Christianity gave me the teaching of being “accounted for.” That there was a God who could help me if I was “good.” That I needed to recognize my “sins” and change my behavior. Through Brahma Kumaris, I learned about my own vices. From my experience, all the methods/principles taught by the Brahma Kumaris are meant to recognize sex-lust and anger and to transform them into feelings of benevolence to all. Celibacy is not a repression but a choice of a lifestyle in a different consciousness which obviously will not apply to everyone. There is variety.

Through other teachings, I have learned about the inner self.
There is no such a thing as one teaching being “better” than another, but teachings come from different states of consciousness and they will be beneficial as long as the individual matches that consciousness. In this way life becomes a school. Our state of consciousness will change. Life is change.

Take a look at your life and see if you have learned what you need to learn out of your current religion, belief or “ism” that you follow; if you say “yes” but then go back to the old pattern which brought you there in the first time; you will know that you were not honest with yourself.

That is the way to find out. It could be risky.

Taking the “stake” out is a big deal. You will find out if you are capable to stand up despite the storms, the hurricanes of life… Are you ready for that? You decide the timing. No one should pressure you. If you are not ready, that is OK as well. Every tree is different.

As long as there is appreciation and gratitude for all of those experiences, which are teaching us different things in life, we could grow.

Let us just remember that everyone is playing their own role in life. Mine is unlike anyone else’s and so is yours. See where you fit in this “movie of life.” That is your honesty, your sincerity, your gift to humanity.

Best wishes!

Reader remarks: Understanding Spiritual experiences for the sake of clarity

“Avyakt 7, deep gratitude for sharing your experiences through this blog. Restating for the sake of clarity and my understanding from your recent posts. What I gather is that once the sex lust is conquered and one has learned to watch our movie as a detached observer and live life with greater awareness, clarity and sensitivity we need to have faith in Divine Energies and be open to the experiences this drama brings without fear and being attached to whatever practices/beliefs helped us reach this stage and also be aware that following certain beliefs (which we may have been following for a long time in this or even in previous lives) probably colored our perception towards certain things as good and bad i.e. ‘marriage’ or ‘sex’. We still need our own methods to clear our thoughts and be in tune with ourselves each would find its own method – one way could be spending time with nature and taking care of diet. One has to be honest and true and would know what stage you are in to see when to progress and not use this as an excuse to get out of practices which may be helping you immensely and are not easy for all to follow i.e. celibacy and Amrit Vela. These recent posts have helped me validate my personal experiences many many thanks.”

Dear reader,
Thank you for your valuable input and kind words of support!
Life is immense, avyakt7’s experiences are not. This is one of the things that we may need to look at for further elucidation. Avyakt7 is not a guru, but Avyakt7 is a spiritual walker, walking a spiritual path which may not be the same for others according to our own personal stage and capacity.

Thank you for sharing your understanding. Please be aware that your understanding cannot define someone’s experience. Our understanding is always limited and cannot grasp the unlimited unless reasoning; logic, definitions, analysis; that is all of that which is the mind, is completely dropped and then, what is left cannot be put into words… 🙂

When a leaf is on a tree, the leaf has a sense of belonging to something greater to itself. There is a sense of protection. As we know, a tree cannot keep all its leafs in a particular way forever; for there is change. When the wind blows or when the tree by itself sheds its foliage, a particular leaf will no longer be there. Destiny may have placed that leaf on a river stream. That leaf will be fine in that river stream as long as the leaf remembers that a leaf can float. That same leaf will make its life miserable if it is attached to something which is no longer there, the tree.

If the leaf remembers to be a leaf, it will avoid being close to fire; for it knows that fire will burn it. If the wind takes the leaf far away from a tree, a leaf will survive by not opposing to it, just by gliding through the wind. A leaf can do this because it remembers that it is a leaf, but if the belief of a leaf is that it belongs to a tree to be complete, then that belief will bring suffering, for now (according to time) the leaf belongs to the wind.

At the end, a leaf does not belong to anyone but it is part of the stream of life, being a leaf when there is a need to remember that, and forgetting to be one; when the need arises. That is the teaching of being and non-being. It is the teaching which will free us from thinking that we are just one thing and attached to it, when we could be many …or nothing. It is up to our own awareness that we could see more or less… because our awareness is not complete we can only see one thing.

To take away the blindness away from our eyes is the task of the spiritual walker.
Being honest, sincere and true to yourself may be the best policy in life.

Best wishes!