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Facing sorrow… and joy

Everyone has its share of sorrow in Life. Why?
Because everyone as well, has its share of joy. Duality.
To answer “Why” doesn’t give any comfort, when we deal with emotions in Life.  A “why/because” answer is useless, for there is no way to avoid or to “tackle the problem”. We need to go through the whole experience.

There is the type of sorrow and joy which “happen to us” due to circumstances. “I feel sorrow/joyful because…” Those are the types where duality manifests.
Also, there is a kind of “joy” which is the expression of BEING. That one is little known by most. Duality does not affect it. We usually cannot feel it for we have other garments covering it: Emotional traumas.

Observe our typical Joy. Like anything in Life, it is a transient state.
An episode of sorrow, precedes Joy. They follow each other.

The “answer” to go beyond that duality is right in the middle, between that duality; between the yin and yang. However, to experience that balance, that equanimity, may take many other experiences to center our consciousness to feel that equilibrium. It is a feeling.

Experiencing Life with impartiality, is key to ride the ups and downs in Life.
Impartiality is not a “practice”. That equilibrium is cumulative, as we are able to assimilate different Life experiences: Joyful, sorrowful or in between, all included without distinction. With some we laugh, others cry.  Smile. That is the middle.
Impartiality has been known as the “Middle Way”, for it is the middle between dualities; however, typically that is understood in a different way.

Sorrow may remain despite the ending of the situation causing it, for “I” will keep the memory of that incident as a traumatic experience. Fear will be born, and that weight will be with “me” as long as “I” live, unless “I” release that emotion.
Unavoidably, there will be the experience of sorrow in Life. Sorrow is meant to change a person through a new perspective of Life. No intellectual understanding can ever do that.
It doesn’t matter whether those perspectives are “true or false.” What matters is the imminent change in consciousness once we cross the obscure passage. Change upon change, eventually we will learn to see the “mirror” rather than the outside perception of an episode. However, the trauma may remain. We still need to clean the slate, dissolve the emotion.

Life will bring a way to free ourselves from past traumas as long as we are aware of them, acknowledge them and be willing to open up. In this way, every Life experience will increase our maturity, our insight; and that will bring us closer to that state of impartiality where dualities are experienced, but there is no traumatic footprint inside. The Middle way.

While living Life, we may learn to witness it without unneeded commentaries coming from the mind.
That creates the perfect soil for inner joy, the type of “inner smile” untouched by the dualities of Life.

Appreciation and preferences


By observing the variety of life, the different shades, colors, sounds, experiences, etc. We could realize that nothing could be labeled as “bad” for it has a reason to be.
That “reason” does not deal with our perceptions of what is “moral” and what is not.

The movie of life contains everything in itself. That movie has a plot and that plot is meant to self-preserve itself through changes. We are part of that plot.

Thus a sense of appreciation and gratefulness for “what is” will be naturally born.
“What is” could be tinted by the colors of our belief systems.
If I observe a snake eating a rabbit, I could observe it or I could act upon it just to change things according to my belief system or the Disney’s channel’s view… or I could feel sad or even happy.
All of those reactions have a label in our minds: Crazy, good, bad, stupid, etc.

Every person will react in a different way.

The issue is when a preference arrives.
A preference is not a choice. A preference is something like “I’ve got to have that rather than anything else.” “That thing is especial.”
Why is that?
Because there is a consciousness of “self.” A personality built.
A preference is not “bad.” A preference just shows a personality.
That preference may not flow along with the way life may flow.

“I prefer Summer time.”
It is the intensity of that preference the one that will bring the intensity of sorrow that we could feel.

“How do you feel in Winter?”

The word could have been “cold” which denotes a matter of fact sensation. To be miserable is to be unhappy, to lack joy.
We need to remember that the issue is not about the words we use but the FELLING that we experience.

Joy is not dependent in outside situations but as mentioned before, it is the consequence of being fulfilled with appreciation and gratefulness towards life.

Appreciation of “what is” develops a different “taste bud” in our life. We are no longer limited to a particular thing or dependent on that.

As life is a big circle; Summer time will arrive again. Winter is the “cause” of Summer along with the other seasons, so why not learn to appreciate Winter?

In the “black or white” world, we have been told that preferences are “bad,” desires are “bad,” etc.
“I must not have desires or preferences.”
Because the Guru/ God/ holy scripture / priest/ holy person has said so.

That is called repression. There is no need to force ourselves to adopt a behavior which is not consistent with our state of consciousness. That is “spiritual self aggression.”

To observe every change in life, to welcome those changes and to adapt accordingly is to flow with life. Every stage in our life has “uniqueness.”
Everything is unique but we distort that pristine uniqueness when we have a preference and call that “especial.”

At that point, we have set ourselves up to experience sorrow.
Life is unique. We are unique. “Especial” is a personality value, a preference that qualifies other things as “non-especial.” That is separation (duality) and with that separation, the sense of self becomes alive.

Point in Depth: Demystifying Heaven and Hell


“Heaven: The most elitist place ever created.” Avyakt7

As we grasp the depth of this knowledge, we can avoid speaking in terms which bring a “black or white” understanding and observe that in between something “black” and something “white” there is a range of color tones that need to be considered as well, for they exist; for those colors are “real.” This is what gyan calls, “numberwise.” In that range, there is variety of perception and experiences.

When we talk about Heaven, Paradise; we necessarily have to talk about “Hell.”
When we say, “This is heaven,” we have automatically “created” what is not Heaven and conveniently assigned to that the nice label of “Hell.” 🙂

We need to recognize that this Drama is about experiencing. There is a range of experiences which need to be experienced according to capacity.

“Happiness” is one of those magical words, which also brings its dual opposite; that is “sorrow.” The interesting aspect to “see” is that happiness can ONLY EXIST where there is sorrow. Why? Because duality works like that. We can only recognize happiness because we know about sorrow, we have experienced sorrow.

A Brahmin soul has the experience of “non-duality,” that is the only difference in experiences between a Brahmin soul and a non-Brahmin soul. That experience of “non duality” is what a Brahmin soul will call “heaven,” nevertheless; that experience of non-duality is never experienced by any other soul in the Drama. Therefore, a Brahmin experience of “paradise or heaven,” is merely a Brahmin experience which, among Brahmins will be a “numberwise” experience as well.
Therefore to say, “I am a BK soul and only BK souls go to heaven” is an oversimplification of looking at Gyan in depth. We are caught up with labels.

Every religion has made the same “mistake,” of assuring their followers the experience of this “unique” heaven. If you look at every religion which believes in “heaven” and “hell” there is a “black or white” understanding, a childish view, an oversimplification of something which only this Gyan has mentioned many times in different Murlis but which is hardly understood: NUMBERWISE.

A soul who comes for the first time in the cycle, in what is known as the “Copper age,” (Please don’t take that name literally as meaning a “third class ticket.” It is not like that,) that will be their “highest experience.” Their “heaven” will be there. Similarly when that same soul experiences his most degraded stage; that experience of “hell” will not be as “terrible” as it is for a Brahmin soul. Please see that those ranges of experiences differ among individuals.
The greatest mistake in understanding Gyan, which is meant to be “UNIVERSAL,” is to have the Brahmin soul experience as the “yardstick” as the measurement guide to “judge” all the other experiences from different souls.

That is why as we “grow up” in this knowledge, we will not be caught up in romantic words, or names which bring a “division” of something being better than something else.

Is the Golden age better than the Iron age? Wrong question. Please take away that “better” word. Even to call “Golden age” to the first experience of the cycle of time is misleading.
It is just the 4 seasons. Some experience all seasons, others do not. However within their own experiences there is the experience of duality, the experience of “happiness and sorrow,” the experience of “heaven and hell.”

We have different experiences, different capacities, different “realities,” but we have been taught to compare (better than, less than,) judge based on one standard know as the “truth” for all, and believe that only two colors exist, “black or white.”

In that dogmatic perception, we will miss the rainbow of possibilities.

Reader’s remarks: About Dharamraj

Om shanti.

Baba says that as Dharmraj He would only show us our mistakes/ sins but would not punish us Himself. He was/ is/ will be just a Detached Observer.

The ‘punishment’ that we undergo in Dharmraj puri would be ‘self-inflicted’. The soul watches his/ her sins and experiences pain and suffering based on what it is viewing. The soul realises its mistakes/ sins and ‘experiences’ equal amount of pain and sorrow that he/ she had inflicted on others.

That is how the soul gets purified and returns home as a pure soul sans all the weaknesses and vices he/ she had in the last birth.

Mostly, it seems like (sounds logical too) we settle all our karmic accounts of the previous births before leaving the present body. Yes, we do not know/ remember what all foolish, useless, and sinful things we had performed in our previous births; but we know the ‘root-cause’ of all those actions which is body consciousness.

So, the more we let go of our b.c. or, the more we improve our soul consciousness, the more our sanskars get reformed and sins will be burnt.

So, when we reach the subtle region for the ‘final purification’,we will be left with the (fresh) sins of this last birth that we could not settle before leaving the body. 🙂

The near death experiences that we have read explain how loving is/ was the DIVINE LIGHT (Baba/ Dharamraj)and how a few angel like people (8 jewels who will sit in the tribunal) were supportive and accommodating. Baba and the 8 jewels will not ‘condemn’ us for our ‘misdeeds’, rather, by giving love and support, they enable us to withstand our pain and suffering.

What else can we expect from the Ocean of Love and the Ocean of Knowledge who understands the Drama and our roles? The 8 jewels who sit in the tribunal are equal to the Father at that time hence they too shower love and power on the souls who are going through the process of ‘settlement’.

It is the Spiritual law that any soul has to lose its power of purity with time and has to regain it fully by the end of the drama either through realisation, or suffering, or both. So, the sweet Father and the 8 angels just assist us to understand our mistakes and to get rid of the dirt of vices.

Let us use the power of knowledge and yoga and remove our vices as much as we can so that we would not need to suffer much on our way back HOME.

Another point related to this aspect is – Baba says that the ‘punishment time’ would not be long, it might take just a few seconds.

One may wonder how could we view our long list of sins in such a short time. True, we are used /habituated to think of time as something that runs in a linear fashion. (sorry for loss of words to express my thoughts in a better way.) But many souls who had the near death experiences were able to see ‘All the important Events of their life’ in a few seconds!

So, it is possible. While describing the ‘Dharmaraj puri’ (the name of the subtle region on our way back Home), Baba says that even though it takes very little time to view our sins and to go through the suffering, one experiences that period to be like a very long time.

Our sweet brother Einstein’s theory holds good even in the subtle region! 🙂

Let us become wise and alert and become a sample for many many souls
by transforming ourselves and inspiring them also to make sincere effort.

Let there not be the FEAR of punishment but the willingness and enthusiasm to regain our lost purity and strength.

yad pyar,


AVYAKT7 responds:

Below you will see different Murli’s excerpts.
Note the contrast between Sakar Murli and Avyakt Murlis.
Also note that the information is given which may seem ” a roundabout” and not to the point. Note that even the “jail of the womb” was considered Dharamraj- Note that Sakar Murlis mention that every sin from every birth will be accounted for. 🙂

Also, the Father is mentioned as being Dharamraj, but then Dharamraj is mentioned as his “right hand.”
This is why, we cannot take versions literally. We have to churn them.
However, my preferred version is:

Avyakt BapDada 19th April 1969
“Only eight will cross the land of Dharamraj without experiencing punishment. This is the method for not experiencing punishment. The more you stay in the awareness of the point, the greater will be the change visible in your sanskars.”

For me it is sweet, short and with the recent experience of Brahma Baba of becoming avyakt.. and He is giving us how to “avoid Dharamraj.”

Best wishes,

Murli excerpts:

Murli of 19-08-2001. Pg. 3 Last Paragraph: Question: What is the land of Dharamraj? How and when can you experience that? Answer: The land of Dharamraj is not a separate place. The experience of punishment is called the land of Dharamraj. All your sins appear in front of you at the end and the demons of death are not anything living. It is your own sins that appear in front of you to make you afraid. Those moments are the moments of repentance and disinterest. Even small sins appear to be like evil spirits and these are referred to as the demons of death coming to you. Ugly ones come, beautiful ones come, and even Brahma Baba appears in front of you in an official form. A tiny sin is visible in a very fearsome form. Some mirrors are such that a small person appears to be very fat and tall. In the same way, at the final moment, there will be cries of distress of repentance. There will be that pain and burning internally. It will feel as though someone is peeling your skin. There will be these feelings. There will be the experience of such punishment of sins and it will be very severe. This is referred to as the land of Dharamraj.

Avyakt BapDada 7th February 1980

If there is not controlling power the soul will have to appear in the court of dharamraj (the supreme judge) and will be fined! So be refined and avoid being fined. Do you wish to be welcomed with honour in the court of dharamraj? Or do you wish to experience repentance?

06-06-03-Sakar murli
Firstly, it is Ravan that gives you sorrow and secondly Dharamraj gives you punishment in the jail of a womb. He gives you a vision of all the sins you have committed. In the golden age, a womb is like a palace,

07-07-03 Sakar Murli
If a burden of sin remains, the tribunal will sit for you. You will then be given visions: This is what you did in such-and-such a birth. When someone sacrifices himself at Kashi, he is given a vision and then punished. Here too, you are given visions and then Dharamraj would say: Look, the Father was teaching you through this body of Brahma. He taught you so much, but in spite of that you committed these sins. You are not only given a vision of the sins of this birth, but the sins of birth after birth. It takes a lot of time. It is as though you are experiencing punishment for many births and you will then repent and cry a great deal. However, what can be done at that time? This is why I tell you in advance: If you defame My name, there will have to be a lot of punishment. Therefore, children, don’t become those who defame Me, your Satguru

You have to be tolerant in every situation and you also have to understand that the Father is the Father and also Dharamraj. If anything happens, simply report it to the Father. Then, that would reach Dharamraj anyway, and that person would be subject to punishment The Father says: I give happiness. It is Dharamraj who gives sorrow, that is, punishment. I don’t have a right to give punishment. You tell Me and then Dharamraj will give the punishment. By telling Baba about it you will become light because He (Dharamraj) is still the right hand.

Page 31- last line from the book “Brahmin Life a Diamond life’ by Bro Nirwar.
“There is a fear of Dharamraj. Sakar Baba used to say that the Father is here now giving the experience of all relationships. At the end the relationship will be that of Dharamraj. But for whom? Only those who break Baba’s law

The above from: https://sites.google.com/site/rajyogikhem/home/festivals/dharamraj

Avyakt BapDada 19th April 1969

Only eight will cross the land of Dharamraj without experiencing punishment. This is the method for not experiencing punishment. The more you stay in the awareness of the point, the greater will be the change visible in your sanskars.

Avyakt BapDada 25th November 1995

For the new ones, the murli is very deep, but in the Diamond Jubilee. BapDada wishes to free all of you from everything. If you do not do this he will have to take on the form of Dharamraj. At the moment, Baba is telling you with love. Why should you not become free whilst there is still the form of the Father? The older ones think that BapDada should do something so that everyone becomes all right. But Baba does not want this. Baba does not want to be taking the form of Dharamraj. He can punish everyone internally in one second, and that punishment would be very intense. But BapDada does not want this. The form of the Father is very loving. If Dharmaraj becomes his companion, he will not listen to anything. Do you understand?

Avyakt BapDada 19th March 1990

You want to go with Baba do you not? Or do you want to wait in between in the land of Dharamraj? Does everyone have the determined thought that we are together and we will all go together? At that time, Baba will not stop – he will not wait – he will fly in a second.

Avyakt BapDada 18th January 1988
If God is pleased, you will be free from Dharamraj the account keeper, and you will also be free from Maya.

The above from: http://themurli.wordpress.com/

Question: Could you please explain the difference between consciousness and ego?

Thank you for your question! 🙂

Consciousness is being “awake.” = ‘Conscious.’
Ego appears when we are asleep, unconscious.
Consciousness is soul consciousness
ego is body consciousness.

Being eternal is an awareness of being conscious.
Being time constrained is unconsciousness, ego.

Consciousness is “being” in the moment. Present. Now.
Ego is living in the past or future, acting.

“I am” because I am conscious.
‘i think my thoughts” because there is ego.

Consciousness/awareness brings stability in my stage.
Ego brings “ups and downs.” Sorrow.

Best wishes!