“BapDada warns you: Children, don’t become trapped in one another’s name and form and thereby destroy your status.” SM 8-20-12
You are following the ways of our society, happily or unhappily. “Falling in love here and there,” being in a relationship and if it doesn’t work out, then magically switching to another; baggage included… and then, one good day, BapDada “gets you.”
No more relationships with anyone but Him. No more thinking about anyone else but Him. No more flirting with anyone else… and be celibate for as long as you live. Tough “Beloved,” huh? 🙂
That is “reality 101” if you met Baba single or divorced. Even though this applies for every BK, if you are married, you still have that “company,” which 99% of souls crave in this world.
Better that than being “alone.” 🙂
Somehow the “You and Baba alone” does not feel like a “constant relationship,” and playing a “bride,” while in a “male” body is “pushing the envelope” of my imagination… 🙂 Body consciousness? Yes. Nothing new.
Obviously, it is just a matter of time, before the “test” of “name and form,” comes in.
Warnings are good, but there is no way to avoid that unless I put myself in a vacuum away from everyone.. and then, even then, my repressed feelings will play “tricks” on me. There is no scape. 😦
We can try living up to an ideal, but we forget many times that our hearts have been hurt, that our ways to deal with that “pain” is through a violent behavior towards others…. to impose myself on others, to “conquer” a person, to subdue another being and to call that love when necessary.
It takes time to heal that “pain.” In BK life being secluded from making another relationship to “save the day,” is the perfect environment for all the “inner devils” to come out in the wild.
It is just a matter of time. They will come out or they will eat you up and make you ill. That is the choice.
I can play “tough cookie,” but the devils need to come out to be free from them.
That is the Brahmin journey, in my experience.
As Brahmin souls, we have lived in relationships with other human beings most of our 80 something lives. Add “settlement” of karmic accounts by “recognizing” souls at this time, who had a meaningful relationship in our previous lives; and that makes for a life in “hell,” right in hell.
Such is the environment.
In my experience, the only recipe that I can support is honesty with the self. We are not ready to face any of those tests of “name and form” unless we have conquered sex lust and we are following the “code of conduct” daily. We are not ready to be in any sort of relationship until then, if what we are looking for is “mastery of the self.”
That is why “only few” make it. Not everyone can wait.
The aim is to heal the heart. Believe or not is not about feeling alone or being alone, but to heal the heart and its many pains and emotional distresses of so many lives dealing with violence in many ways: Through words, actions, thoughts, etc.
Take my word for it.
We need to learn again what is love.
In my own journey, being able to follow that code of conduct while having Yoga experiences which will sustain me, was of paramount importance. Without yoga, you become a “has been” sooner or later. This is the journey of “Form.”
The journey of “Name,” starts with our self-esteem. We want to follow. We have been “cut off” so many times and we have been used to “fight” for everything we get. Then, it is easier to follow someone and to be submissive to that person. That “name,” drives my behavior. That submissiveness could end up in the test of “Form,” and from there it can go into other things which will end up in suffering unless; our feelings, our emotions, our heart has been healed.
The test of “name and form” is not something to be afraid of, but something that will happen and that we need to prepare ourselves with honesty by knowing when we are ready to face that test.
Females have a lot more to lose in this if “sex-lust” is the outcome of that test. A female may not have a recourse against the strength and violence of a typical male; that is why; BapDada in his wisdom; gives plenty of experiences and love to females (sisters.)
As a male if you have not conquered sex lust, the test of “name and form” will “eat you up.”
If you have conquered it, on the other hand; “Maya will salute you.” 🙂
May you be a victorious soul!
Great question! Thank you.
Submissiveness has many meanings to different individuals.
In a spiritual gathering, in a religion; it could be considered a symbol for “egoless.” As a matter of fact, when someone is submissive is considered to be “good.” In the real world, to be submissive means lack of “drive,” lack of self respect.
We can act in life. We can be submissive at work while we are surrounded by our bossess. It is that respect for hierarchy which could turn into devotion. To know that our jobs are necessary to survive could bring that.
At a spiritual gathering we may not be submissive, because no one there controls our salary, our way of living.
Therefore, to be submissive is not necessarily a “bad” trait. Your dog will be submissive to you, because the dog knows that you will feed him. With others, the same dog will not stand a flea nearby.
The issue comes when we realize that we are not honestly expressing ourselves. Here is when the thought of being submissive is bothersome. The dog doesn’t think about it. The dog knows about his own survival and comfort. A spiritual human being will observe this characteristic of submisiveness in himself and will be turned off by it. That is the time to change.
There is fear in submisivness. There is fear of being left out, of not being part of the “gang.” When that fear goes away, submissiveness goes with it.
In life we learn, neither to be submissive nor to be an arrogant bossy flea…Any extremes lack balance and when there is no balance, there is no song to sing. 🙂
All the best.