Most “spiritual” and “morally correct” individuals, are concerned about this: “Doing the right thing in Life.”
A veil of sainthood, righteousness is coveted by the “I.”
There are many “rewards” (Just like a credit card reward point system) associated with DOING a morally accepted script, allowed by society, religions, nations, fraternities, schools… all of those institutions which are regimenting/conditioning (also known as teaching/educating or preparing ) the individual.
As we are “right now,” there are many scripts in our minds deciding what “a right action” is.
A young person may want to “DO” the right thing in choosing a career. That same man, may want to “DO the right thing” as he fathered a child out of wedlock. Later, he may want to “Do the right thing” while deciding whether to put his ill father, permanently in a hospice.
The phrase to “Do the right thing” has many meanings according to time, circumstances, beliefs, traditions.
Definitely, to “Do the right thing” is merely a cover, for we cannot know the ramifications, the extent of our DOING.
Carl paid for his son to go to the “best University,” even though his son did not want to go. Carl thought that he was DOING “the right thing,” for the welfare of his son.
His son was killed in a car accident, on his way to a class.
Of course; guilt surrounded Carl, for the rest of his Life.
What is the “teaching” in that story?
In the Western society, everything has to have a “moral” teaching, something the mind can apprehend so “I don’t do it again and I can teach others.”
Fear creeps in.
In Life, there is no teaching but a mirror. That experience of “losing” a son, will be colored with Carl’s conditioning. It is that conditioning the one that will come out.
But Carl is too “busy” with his guilt to realize about his beliefs.
If we were just aware of all the conditioning going on in our minds!
We may try to figure out Life, to get ahead, to be clever in Life; but the “I” does not make Life by himself.
The spider web of associations and timely interactions are out of the reach of the clever “I” but yet; “I” believe that “I” can “control” my destiny, by DOING “the right things.” I can use the support of the “law of karma” to spread “righteousness” around me. (If I “do this right,” then through karma, something right will occur to me.)
The only issue is that “righteousness” hasn’t been defined.
What is to “be right”?
Life is not concerned about our trivial morality. Life is beyond moral standards.
Was Carl “right or wrong”?
We will not able to understand Life until we clean ourselves up from all those concepts, moral precepts, traditions and beliefs clouding our awareness.
It is not a matter of rejection.
If we have our hands dirty and wash them, it is not out of rejection of dirt.
But unless we “unlearn” with the same attitude as when we wash our hands, we will be rejecting society, religions, schools, etc. as radicals and unfit members.
The path of Awakening may take someone through that route, however; we may learn that it is not the destination, but only a side scene. 🙂
Spirituality is a deceitful word.
Forget that word and you may find Life. By finding Life, you may start living it. By living it, enjoying it. By enjoying it, finding the meaning of spirituality. It is not a concept.
To find honesty within ourselves, sooner or later we may learn to forget everything we have been taught, only to find who we ARE.
Every experience in Life only will show us who we ARE at that moment in time.
When we learn to accept ourselves as we ARE in an unconditional way, then we may be able to accept “others;” not as an idea, a concept, a “spiritual” virtue to practice, but as genuine, unrehearsed, unlearned, natural way of being.
Want to practice empathy?
Want to work on being more loving?
Want to practice detachment?
Do you have sainthood as an objective?
Want to teach peace to others?
Then your mind is engaged in the intellectual world of ideas, concepts and “spiritual” words.
When the mind empties itself from the intellectual world, there is knowing in BEING.
Does not make any sense?
Wonderful! That is a step forward.
Forget the “practice.” Forget to label virtues. Forget all dictionary words defining Love.
Unlearn all of those concepts.
“To surrender,” is not to give up something in Life. It is effortless openness when the “I” dilutes itself.
“To love someone” is not just a mushy feeling. It is to allow that one to be, without conditions. To grow together in joy.
“To be detached” is not to be insensitive, aloof. It is to acknowledge the process of another, knowing that we have our own.
“To go with the flow” is not to follow what Life offers for there is no option to choose from. It is to BE one with Life.
If you “practice” any of my “definitions,” you will deceive yourself. If you repeat any of my definitions, you will not be honest with your own findings.
Know that your own definitions will need to change in time, just like mine. That is what we have in common. Change.
It is said that to know “Spirituality” there is a need of a teacher to teach.
I am assuring you that none of the “spiritual values” can be taught.
It can only be found in your own walking path. As you place one foot in front of another in your Life journey, you will recognize the teaching that Life offers, only because you already know it. Concepts can be taught, not Living Life.
To teach “spirituality” is deceitful. We can only share our experiences as a friend shares with another.
When that one is ready, your words can only inspire, allow for a different perspective, but words are not meant to teach in the realm of Life.
Life is the teacher, without being appointed for that.
Thus, we can only teach when we are ONE with Life…. and at that moment, there may be nothing to teach. 🙂
Peter saw a wasp in one of the walls inside his room. Immediately, he brought a broom and smashed the little wasp. Peter felt good about it. He got rid of a potential harmful insect who could sting him at anytime. He may be allergic to its poison. That sting could have been very painful, he thought. Even though, Peter haven’t experienced what is like to be stung by a wasp in “real life” his belief in the painful experience, his belief in a “harmful insect” was predominant.
In Peter’s mind, he has done “something good” for him.
Carlos watched a wasp in his room. He immediately thought on how to collect that wasp to put it outside his room. Carlos watched the wasp and picked up a broom to get the wasp within his reach. The wasp was up-high in the wall. Carlos observed how the wasp didn’t have any energy left. Apparently the wasp was in the room for a long time, probably trying to get out. The wasp calmly step into the end of the broom and Carlos was able to open the window, maneuver the broom to go outside the window and let the wasp go.
Carlos didn’t feel good nor bad about this, but he felt that he wanted to help. Carlos believed that this wasp wanted to get out and even though he knew about the possibility of being stung, he offered the opportunity to the wasp to be free again. Nevertheless, Carlos felt “good,” a nice flowing feeling within.
In the above, we see different scenarios. None of them is “good” nor “bad.” There certainly will be consequences to be experienced which in turn will be further “teachings” in life.
Peter acted with fear. That fear transformed itself into violence. Nevertheless, in his mind his action was “good,” that is his belief; but as far as life is concerned he may need to experience that fear and violence which he sent out.
Yeah.. it is “bad karma”…Right?
Nope, it is called “learning” for those who are able to.
Carlos on the other hand, will experience the consequence of being open and having empathy to other beings which are part of the totality of life. Perhaps his action would have changed if he saw 100 wasps in his room! Maybe… but that is not part of his reality, thus to think in that possibility is an empty thought. Every “reality” will appear according to what we need to experience.
A wasp is neither good nor bad. Please see how we are the ones labeling that insect. It is like labeling a snake to be the devil, or to be “bad.” That is just a belief. When we agree to let that belief inside ourselves that belief becomes our way to see the world.
“… and then the serpent spoke to Eve and told her to give the apple to Adam…”
Please see that “reality” is neutral. It is the dance of the movement of the forces of yin and yang, duality. It is intended to achieve something so its complementary force could arrive in its own time, thus maintaining the balance in the totality of life.
You live what you believe. No matter what it is. This belief could be a religious dogma, it could be a belief about someone or something or even about ourselves.
Nothing exists in our mind as “good or bad” until we believe it to be either way. Obviously there are consequences for everything, but those consequences cannot be labeled as “good or bad” either, because those consequences will bring benefit in one way or another. Some need a little teaching. Others more than that.
Many times, like Peter; we could create stories in our mind. To see a wasp in the wall could bring so many different stories to many individuals… Moreover, when those stories are recurrent and go to the extreme, then there could be an issue with our minds.
The problem is not being able to realize this, to be able to see it in us.
Any type of behavior which is non-harmonious with the totality, has some belief in it which is not allowing harmony to emerge by itself.
Any experience when made into a “trauma” creates a belief which generalizes into something.
If Roger experienced being bitten by a dog, then “all dogs are bad.” 🙂
We can only hope that sanity will be experienced in Roger’s mind. Only a mind blessed with sanity could take advantage of a situation, that is make it a teaching, an experience in the spiritual path of opening our hearts to the totality of life.
To that which we all belong to.