On Family, TV and Violence
The master and his disciple were greatly amazed, observing a formation of new born ducklings following their mother duck, near a lovely lake.
The master said: “Life has a hierarchy. In the human family, parents have their position and it needs to be respected by offspring during their parents lifetime. Respect means acknowledgment. A family decision which does not consider that hierarchy will have consequences which could be even assumed by later generations. Our genealogical family past stays with us. It is the inheritance from our ancestors. In society we have been taught to consider wealth as the only type of inheritance that we could have inherited from our ancestors, but that is only the more superficial layer.
Society in general gives more importance to wealth, power and influence. Television, movies and news are the means used to indoctrinate those values to unaware individuals. It is taught that an individual ought to be successful in society. Success is defined by the amount of wealth a person has obtained; for that person can buy influence over others, power over many and has the ability to dictate what society adopts. The common good is easily forgotten as each individual is out for himself, his beliefs and his success creating conflict with another.”
The disciple said: “ Master, there are spiritual groups suggesting not to watch television at all.”
The master replied: “Television is neither good or bad. Most unaware individuals cannot recognize the messages. They end up adopting what represents economical gain for few and in time that becomes normal, accepted by them, the new normal. Have you observed that?”
The disciple responded: “Yes, master. I recall watching some TV programs from the 70’s and 80’s. It was very unusual to see killings in them in such a graphical way as it is shown today. It appears that the most sanguinary, brutal and hideous a scene of crime is, the better.”
The master replied: “The level of sensibility has been modified, to create a sadistic pleasure where violence is expected. It is like adding one more teaspoon of sugar to a glass of juice every now and then. Eventually a person becomes used to violence and expresses it in every aspect of living. Violence becomes an addiction which is exploited for the sake of profit. Diabetes is one consequence of consuming too much sugar, but the consequence of being fed with violence is oppression, control, unconcern and disconnection with other living beings. That is why, some spiritual groups may suggest that Television is evil, but that is a reaction to try to protect unaware individuals. However, these same individuals will be repressed in following that. Repression eventually will explode and indulgence will be greater than before. The individual needs to become aware by himself. Then, conflict is not.”
The disciple inquired: “What do suggest to do master, to be out of that loop?”
The master said: “Drink juice without sugar for some time or drink water instead. Experiment. Self willingness without external coercion or fear, shows individual readiness for change. It is in that experience how an individual may discover his sensibility through his own experience. That is the adventure which few are willing to take. Most are told what to do and even though they feel to be free to choose they cannot, for their conditioning is very strong and is part of them. A human being is not violent unless he is afraid. Thus, fear is fed in many ways and the ways to solve that, always point to some form of violence. As the individual becomes heartless, the doses of violence is regularly increased to keep the business going. Become AWARE and the solution arrives by itself.”
Solitude: The easy way to experience the self
Trapped in the world of noise, lights and permanent ongoing actions, is a sure way to get lost in everything that our senses could perceive.
Watching TV is more than images changing in a continuous frenzy, it comes with a selling story as well; it comes with the possibility to increase our desires. That is the principle of a society engaged in consumerism. How to sell, how to create a need. How to get the clients “hooked” into that need. Making a dollar out of addictions. There is great “variety.”
Prizes will be given to those who can sell. More “goodies” so they can spend more, consume more.
Highly emotional words are another way to hook us into emotions; the dramatic emotions of someone who suffers; of someone who is upset or angry. Shout, scream. Become violent.Fight. Let them know who is the “boss.” That sells.
Our senses are being bombarded from different sides. Noise with “funny” comments along with ready made laughs, makes a “sitcom.” That will give as ammunition to imitate. Lights flickering, watch the forbidden apple,” for a few moments; so our minds create desires. Something to attain, something to fight for, something to live for.
The struggle of living is in not only in earning and being responsible for our own acquisitions, but in having things to show “our accomplishments.” That is the vicious circle.
There is a price to pay for all of that “showmanship.”
It is called lack of simplicity and when we lack simplicity in life, we are continuously busy in “trivial” things that we have accumulated to fulfill desires created by someone else. The trick is that we believe those to be “our own” desires.
We believe that this is living.
Talk to a person. See for how long they are able to listen to you, completely. Watch, their interest in being “funny,” emotionally “high,” “outgoing,” a “fast talker,” who knows all the latest clichés as uttered by the TV stars… Let me talk about the weather, the politician, the “jet set,” anything including about myself in a light, trivial way just for the sake of saying something, of “communicating.”
It is a world of monkeys. Monkey sees monkey does.
Texting, being hooked up with that “smart phone” so we are not able to smell the roses, but looking at the small slaving screen looking to say something to someone, to read something, to send something…. to show that we are alive, even though we are no longer living but merely existing….
Could you be alone, for just a minute? Could you sit in a room all by yourself without any noises, without any lights, without any thoughts? For how long?
Until that is not experienced regularly, the experience of peace is unreachable. Solitude is the most important step to experience that peace.
It is hard to stop thinking about feeding the dog in a few minutes, or what your boss said in the office or your “bratty” kid told you; or about putting gas in the car before leaving for whatever land…
Look at your face in the mirror. Watch. You couldn’t sleep last night. See how you are forgetting things, see how you are constantly “rushing.”
Fast thoughts taking you nowhere. At the end of the road, you will end up in the same place that someone who took it easy all his life. There is no distinction.
That is the “future.”
Someone who has tasted solitude, will be able to experience serenity in his life. The “mad house” is going on “out there,” inside there is a profound tranquility which is beyond any religious belief or rituals. It is a deep sense of being complete.
It is in this completeness when we could talk to the Ocean, listen to the Wind; smile in a walk along a full moon or to hear for the first time the symphony of birds as we wake up… with no rush. With time.
Time is the most precious commodity we could ever have at this “time.” You cannot buy it.
Simplicity brings solitude at the palms of our hands.
It is in solitude how serenity could be experienced and it is in the continuous experience of this, when we will recognize something different; that is what we truly are, which has been lost due to ongoing “progress” among other things.
Peace is not a religion. It is not spirituality either. It is you and me, when there is nothing else to take our minds away.
It is freedom, and in that freedom resides the only place where love could ever be.
Question: I’m 20 years of age. I’ve been part of BK for 1year. I joined BK because of an unexpected failure. I have been trying prevent myself being addicted to TV and internet, but in vain. Please suggest me ways to get away from it. Thank you. Om Shanti
Thank you for your good question!
Welcome to the “die alive” club! Meant for those who are die hard fans of God and self-transformation! 🙂
You recognize that you have an addiction. Stop trying to stop it.
Just give your TV away for ‘free’ to a “good home.” Stop paying the internet service at home. That is all.
You cannot stop your addictions now, but you can get rid of the “triggers,” if you believe that those things are giving you sorrow in your life. That is, if you have understanding.
At that point, you will be “free” to observe your own addictions. What do you feel? What is that which is pushing you to do this? Unless there is an understanding which comes through observing the benefits of TV and internet in relationship with your spiritual life; all that you will do is suppress your obsessive “need” to watch TV and to be on the internet. That is to be “busy.”
Hint: The issue is not the TV nor the internet. The issue may reside in your addictive personality to “do something” all the time.
The feeling of boredom may arise. Welcome it. Deal with it. Be his friend. Then, it will go away by itself.
You have a good start in the BK life, you have a wonderful opportunity to “know yourself.” 🙂