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A perception is a teacher not a judge.

“I thought I saw a pussy cat… I did, I did!
No. You didn’t. You are wrong!”

In Life we may have different perceptions of reality. That is based on the filtering of the mind, which in turn is related with the limited information gathered by our senses. The “I” creates that filtering.

At that point, we may assume things, we may extrapolate on previous known stories, and determine that our perception is the “right one.”

Perceptions of reality are neither right nor wrong. For we are always dealing with a changing location of consciousness and type of information that we could perceive.
What it is “now,” will not be tomorrow.

The issue is when we have determined in our minds that something is the way we think, and because of that we place an unchanging label of approval to our perceived “reality.”

Certainty is created by “force” in that way, and then supported by a belief, when we fear that our “reality” may change.

It has been said that the World is an illusion.
It is not. It is what we perceive of it. Neither illusion nor reality.

What is the purpose of experiencing, if that experience will be colored by a subjective perception, which is not “reality”?

There is no purpose for experiencing unless we make up one. There is no “reality” per say that is why; there cannot be illusion. Are you enjoying that perception? 🙂 Our capacity for enjoyment is fundamental to live Life.
Because perceptions cannot be right or wrong, what matters is how we feel about that perception, what matters is what we discover about us through that perception. In self-realization, every experience will give greater realization of the self for the one who is aware.

It has been said that the world is our own mirror. As long as there is a “someone” an “I,” there will be a reflection of something. That reflection can show us what is inside us, which is not meant to be labeled as “right” or “wrong.”

A stranger came from out of town asking for help. Carl, heard the stranger’s plead but decided not to help.
Carl was taught to “never trust a stranger.”

We could be lost in the morality of judging if Carl’s action is “right” or “wrong.” That does not matter.

What matters is if Carl is able to look at his own biased behavior. If he is able to look at the belief of righteousness based on a generalization.

That is true “spiritual” intelligence.

When we understand Oneness, how is it possible to discriminate based on the duality of “stranger” or “non-stranger”?

For that observation to take place, any cultural or religious belief will need to be set aside.

Another example?
Henry may have lived under the impression of having the unconditional love of his girlfriend. The girlfriend run away with another man.

Henry could divert his energy in demonstrating how “wrong” his girlfriend was.
That is not the point, if we are dealing with the opportunity to grow in consciousness.
What is important for Henry is to observe how this episode is generating in him certain emotions, feelings which otherwise are hidden from his awareness.

Those things are the “real me” in disguise.

If we look at Life under this perspective, how “bad” or negative was the experience of Henry then?
It wasn’t negative at all, but the opportunity to learn about “him.”

“ But …That is not the case for the majority. 90% of people will feel devastated, perhaps to the point of taking their own life due to the pain felt as a consequence of their own attachment… in the name of love…”

Sure. That is because there is no awareness of that which we call “self.” There is a price to pay for that awareness which the majority is not willing to pay for… until there is no other way.

Life itself is the greatest teacher for those who are aware. For those who are not yet, a religion, a moral code, a cultural tradition may be necessary to tell them how to behave, how to feel and how to live.

Have you ever wondered why there are so many books’ titles, starting with the title of “How to do” something?
Perhaps we have the answer now.

So, you saw an Oasis when there was only a desert?
Observe your desire for water. Your mind is meant to do the rest.

The paradoxical “I.”


We could understand about “black or white” belief systems. It will be more difficult to understand that “rationality” is as “black or white” as those beliefs.
It is either A or B. It cannot be both.
Observe how our labeling will give us something to choose from.
It is in that “choice” where the “I” thrives.

When there is a consciousness of a “real I” making decisions and shaping the world, automatically the realization that the “I” is not capable of some things arise.
Which are those things?
To create itself. To be immortal. To have control of the world.

“God” came as a solution for those problems, which only exist in that “I” consciousness.

The paradox is that this “I” exists in certain consciousness but at the same time that “I” does not exist in another type of consciousness.

When the “I” does not exist, neither God needs to exist. When the “I” does not exist there is nothing, which may need to be accomplished, attained as a “life or death” mission.

It is the “I” wanting to become “better, enlightened, beautiful, famous, immortal, controlling.”
Those “wants” are never ending. There is always something new to accomplish.

Nothing wrong with that, BUT if all of those “goals” of the “I” are not accomplished then “failure” is the label to live by.
That “failure” is mundane as well as “spiritual.” It is the same exact thing.

Want to “make money” so you could retire early?
Sure, why not. That is a good objective for the “I” to accomplish. Nevertheless, if the journey is not being enjoyed for the sake of reaching the objective, if working 60 hrs + per week are accompanied with high doses of stress, that retirement may never happen. If it happens and the “I” is attached to its work for a sense of worth, then the days of retirement will not be enjoyed.

Here is another paradox. Enjoyment of Life is not a function of the “I.” To enjoy Life, there is a need for the no “I” to arrive.
A function of the “I” is to “want” and to “accomplish.”

No “I” could fully enjoy and appreciate Life as it “is.”

Is anything that the “I” can do to become “no I”?
To ask that question means that there is no understanding yet on the above.

There is nothing that the “I” can do to learn to enjoy Life.
It happens when the “I-ness” has reached its full growth.
It is in that “full-growth” when disappointment and suffering is experienced and then, when a new consciousness appears.

Some may experience being fed up with themselves. Some may experience frustration, a meaningless life. Some may experience no “reason” to keep living.

That is all part of the process. The “I” will start dying.

Enjoyment of Life does not mean to be complaisant, to be apathetic or to have simple “fun.”

Enjoyment of Life primarily is to be at peace with oneself, to enjoy our own company and because of that, to be at ease around others and different circumstances.

When the above is lacking, “wanting” to acquire, to become something, is the main pursue. There is no enjoyment until the goal has been obtained, but paradoxically; once something is obtained, it is the time to look for something else to pursue.

The “I” is like a glutton. The “I” could keep feeding itself with a belief that there is something else which needs to be attained.

When we are in Nature, enjoyment comes when there is nothing that we want out of it.
That enjoyment is gone when, our vision is to “use” things for our own mission, objective, goal. As the “I” has no limits, that “use” becomes quickly “abuse.”

Is the “I” bad? Do we need to get rid of it? Do we need to conquer it? 🙂

That is exactly what a person full of “I” will say or think. It is the same “Black or White” mentality at work.

The “end” does not justify the “means.”
There is no “end” other than what we believe to be.
There are no “means” other than a journey.
There is no “justification” but a belief in a rationalization.

Enjoy the scenes without further labeling. Allow yourself the freedom from your own “self.”

Reality= Vision + intensity


Zach: “The Earth is flat. Everywhere I move, the land underneath my feet is always flat. I cannot be otherwise.”

Mary: “Life is suffering. Everyone is suffering in the whole world. There suffering and more suffering and then… you die. It is over.”

Paul: “ My job is filled with incompetent individuals. They are a bunch of backstabbers.”

Margaret: “My dog is very kind. “Precious Pup,” is incapable of biting anyone without a “reason.” “Precious “is a smart little dog.”

Richard: “ The Earth is a sphere. NASA has taken pictures of it. “
Zach: That is a lie! I don’t experience it like that.

All of the above phrases are beliefs. Once we set our mind in a particular belief, our vision becomes stuck in something. That stagnation in the reality of movement, becomes our “reality.”

Please see that even Zach has some “reason.” His experience is different. To intellectualize something as the Earth being a sphere is beyond the experience of a “normal” human being. However, we believe in the proof beyond our experience.

The same is with everything in life.

There are 3 levels of internal information, which come together into “The” experience.

1) The mind has images 2) Our eyes or senses “see” and believe 3) Our heart feels.

The mind experiences a quick movement of images. When we “process” those images according to previous experiences, we form a belief.

When that belief acquires some intensity, it becomes part of our feelings.

Our feelings in turn, will give us an experience. That is what we call “reality.”

As your vision, so your attitude.

Please bear in mind that our vision is constantly clouded by beliefs about something, someone, ourselves, etc.

When we are constantly “feeding” that belief with our feelings, that belief becomes stronger; the experience becomes stronger as well, until “reality” shows us a different “picture.”

Our belief could be a source of stubbornness and obstinate behavior, which could be only changed under the intensity of the flames of suffering.

“Falling in love” is one of those experiences. There is a vision made up of beliefs about someone. Due to our circumstances (loneliness, needs, wants, expectations, desires) we perceive someone with those beliefs; (Mr. Wonderful or Ms. Beautiful) we create a prejudice in our minds based on the images being displayed in our minds.

We could hang on with those beliefs until the experience of living life brings suffering to an extreme.

That extreme pain has to be stronger than the intensity of our belief, for us to be able to change.

That intensity will be part of our feelings and those feelings will manifest in our bodies as emotions which could be detrimental if we had a very intense belief.

That is the equation of “reality.” 🙂

On the other hand, when expectations are out. When we let someone or something change according to its nature rather than our wishes, we are in a continuous state of acceptance. That is the “natural” state of being.
Because everything is changing.
The world, Nature, our lives, our bodies… except our beliefs.

Those beliefs are our vision. Our world will manifest as the intensity of our feelings increases.
There is continuous change and timing in life which is not about “me” and what “I” wish to happen, but always… will be what is required to happen for “me” to continue on….

That acceptance, that surrendering to life and living will allow us to see the reality of life itself without the color of our own beliefs.