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“Learning” Detachment


Enjoyment of the movement of Life is the main requisite to “learn” about detachment.
Everything is change, constant change, to flow with that is to be all right with Life.
To trust Life.

As soon as a piece of “I” touches that continuous flow, that is the point where the “I” acquires some expectations which will give greater support to that sense of being “Me” different from everything else.
By all means, open all the doors that Life offers. Experience. The expectation to find something “good” for you in a particular door is the set up for suffering.
The “I” will experience exactly what it needs. It is that “knowledge” which brings the necessary trust.
When we trust Life, we enjoy it.

It is in that realization how we could observe that “making effort” to be “detached” in Life, is plain repression.

Of course, the above realization or description of “my” experience is not related with a religious or traditional view. This is not “spirituality for the masses,” for “everyone to understand.”

In my experience, natural detachment, which occurs out of enjoyment of Life and its changes, is a prerequisite to know Love; that is to dance with “what is” out of appreciation.

There cannot be “love” unless there is enjoyment of living. There cannot be love if there are expectations.

Lost in words, we could say “we need to be loving and detached.” That is just a description of a state of being, which cannot be attained by “doing” things.

Lost in experience, I could say… Just enjoy Life with its different experiences.

This is not something that happens out of following an artificial method or “making effort.” This is something that naturally occurs when we are enjoying the moment without caring about or labeling “how the moment is.” It is just the moment.

The “I” selects, rejects, accepts and judges every moment. As that “I” withers away, what is left is that observer who enjoys the “trip.”
A “detached observer”? or a “witness”?
It is an “Enjoyer.” 🙂

To be conscious, to be aware is a great gift. Do we take it for granted just because everyday we experience it?
Everything will change. Every moment is unique. Not special but unique.

Detachment and Love are not “virtues” to attain, to “work on,” to “make effort,” to know or to “practice.”

If we do that, we could merely repress our current state of consciousness.

Enjoyment of Life. That is the key. Everything else follows that.
Life is change. Enjoy the change.
Life is unpredictable. Enjoy that lack of certainty.
Life is … Forget the label and …begin to feel it, because by feeling it, there is nourishment and when we are nourished, we could give…. Love.

A Life Witness


The keyword to use in “Spirituality” is “witnessing” or to be a “detached observer.”
Accordingly, to reach that state is the highest a human being could attain… 🙂

Witnessing or being an observer and participant of life is a state of full integration with “what is.”
The word “detached” adds further misunderstanding.

Misunderstanding will occur if we would allow ourselves to just follow the dictionary meaning of those words. We need to remember that those words are a “distortion” of “what is,” and so will be these words… nevertheless, the sharing shall continue on.

Who is doing the witnessing? Who is being a “detached observer”?
If the answer is “I,” that could be anything but being a detached observer.

Ananda would like to use the words “observant and participant” to describe his realization.

Let us say that Carl witnessed a car accident. The people inside the 2 cars colliding at high speed, were in a “poor” condition. There were tears of pain, rage and fear surrounding the accident.

Carl is a “spiritual” person. Therefore, he decided to send “good wishes” to people in the accident.
It is indisputable that Carl has separated from the scene and made the decision to be a “good person” by sending good vibes and then becoming “detached” from the scene by continuing on his path.

Carl could have made the attempt to “help” the people, but that wasn’t his “karma,” he thought.

Carl acted from an intellectual standpoint by following his belief system.

Was Carl witnessing or being a “detached observer”?
No. He thought he was, but he was actually playing indifferent towards what happened.

To witness or to be a “detached observer” is not to separate from “what is.” It is the complete opposite. To integrate into “what is,” but not as a person, as an “I” thinking: “I am part of everything.”

That is a belief only.

Witnessing is not possible in the consciousness of self. Any religion or philosophy, which validates its teachings on the existence of self, cannot understand “witnessing.”

Therefore, we could see that “witnessing” or being a “detached observer” is not a “practice.”
No one could practice that.
It is a state of consciousness, which is void of beliefs and emotional baggage.
Witnessing is not “attained.” It happens.

Observe the world. If you believe that “I am” something or other, that belief will not allow someone to be an observant because there is the “I” of separation from “what is.”

If we go back to the car accident episode, the minute Carl had the belief that what happened in front of his eyes was “bad” then, that belief will not allow witnessing to appear. If Carl felt sorrow, he wasn’t a witness anymore. His emotional baggage was triggered by the event.

What should be Carl’s behavior then to be a “detached observer”?
To ask that question means not to understand what is being conveyed.
Witnessing or a detached observer is not a behavior.

If Carl has worked in observing his beliefs and how emotions have appeared because of that, then it is in that inner work how the state of integration with the Totality appears, because there is no separation with “what is” when we become empty.
That is emptiness.

Less “stuff “ in our heads means greater openness to “what is.”
Greater feeling of gratefulness and appreciation of “what is” means greater inner joy. A belief will not allow for that to occur, because a belief will give us a static perception of an ever-changing world.

Some “black or white” readers may interpret the above as “it is better not to have feelings.”
NO. That is not the message. Carl may feel compassion but not sorrow.
Because his state of being, his joy; it is not dependent in what happens around.
To fill ourselves every morning with gratefulness of being, is to fill ourselves with joy and those vibes will be with us to “give” continuously and not because we have in our minds that someone needs our “pure” vibes.

One more time, observe your own beliefs. Observe the belief that we have about ourselves.
Life is an ever-changing movie, which has already a direction, a plot. The perception of the “I” is nothing but a manifestation of that plot through a being. It is through our own beliefs and emotional baggage how a personality is born and with that we deny ourselves the chance to change and to be different. We strive to be the “same”
or we strive to attain some intellectual idea.
Both are not in harmony with the changing nature of Life.
To be an Observant and Participant of life at the same time, is a paradoxical integration of the opposites to be One.

Witnessing a detached observer in life

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It was a cool and breeze night in Spring. There was a full moon shining over the clear sky surrounded by the tranquil waters of the Bay. An inviting golden path of light touching the water, illuminated the landscape with its slow rhythmical movement, accompanied by the soothing and calming sound of the Ocean caressing the boulevard’s balustrade.

That is the ballroom dance show of Nature!
All beings are invited to take part of it, but only those who can see it, will know where to “be.”

Donald was appreciating the full moon moving across the sky, when suddenly a cloud covered the sight of the moon and the golden light.

Lights off! 🙂

That cloud finished the party! 🙂

Was the cloud purposely moving to “stop Donald’s party”?
Was the cloud really moving or it was the moon, moving in the path of the cloud?
Wait a minute, the moon does not have any light….It is the Sun….

Can the cloud move by itself, or it was the wind moving the cloud?
Is the wind able to move things by itself or is the Earth moving in rotation, which produces wind?

Donald realized that his mind was producing “deep analytical questions” which could be labeled in that moment as “ unrelented sheer stupidity.”

The time calls for unuttered appreciation and enjoyment… not intellectual questioning.

“Lights off” is part of the movement, the show…

In life there are many variables, which together produce an outcome.

Donald: Why Sally shouted at me?
Daisy: Maybe because she was angry with her parents…She had a terrible childhood, you know. It wasn’t really at you. Don’t take it personally…

Donald: But.. Why me?

Daisy: Because you were there. Because you are pretty soft. Because you are wearing a red tie, and she hates red ties… because…

We could simplify by giving “reasons” but those reasons are not complete. Something is missing.

Nevertheless, everything goes back to the observer.

The observer is the “point of reference.” We could say “that everything is relative to the observer.”

Then, as long as there is an “observer” there will be a point of reference, a point of view. Consequently, the division between the observer and that, which is observed, will be there. It is in that division where the consciousness of individuality resides.

Totality, togetherness, unity, oneness, etc. is not part of that consciousness.
Please see that for yourself.

In Spirituality, one of the “goals” is to be a “witness,” a “detached observer” of life. There is only observation. There is no observer nor a separated object to observe.

Please see that as long as there is a point of reference; that is an “observer” there cannot be a witness or a detached observer of life.

Therefore, no one whose consciousness is only located in individuality (observer) will be able to grasp and to experience the integration with Totality, for that means to be a “detached observer” in life.

Many think that to be a “detached observer” is to be calm and indifferent, someone who feels no desires…someone who is “dead.” That is possible when someone who only experiences the consciousness of individuality in his life, pretends to be a “detached observer” in life.

In the consciousness of Totality, a detached observer is completely alive, joyful, appreciative… enjoying the changes, the ups and downs, the turn around… 🙂 Just like a child.

Witnessing -Observing- Detached Observer and all of that

The following videos will illustrate “practical spirituality,” versus “theoretical” spiritual “skills.” 🙂 These videos are about 5 minutes each.
The topic is witnessing or being a detached observer.

Out of the many modern ‘gurus’ in existence, avyakt7 enjoys to listen to Mooji once in a while.
Mooji is not like the typical Guru surrounded with all the devotional, uppity stuff around him. To avyakt7, Mooji shows human care and with his unpretentious style is able to touch listeners with his spiritual experience. Below is a video of him (there are a couple of devotional pictures before the video itself.)

Dr. Scott Peck in this video could be the typical “lecturer theorist of Spiritual knowledge.”
This video will explain the intellectual concepts behind “peace skills.”
You “learn” skills to “love.” He is going to enumerate all the skills you need to become a loving person, a “love master.”

You will learn to work through conflicts by getting into “detach” mode but at the same time, using your peace “skills.” 🙂
You are in a detached “mode” but it is not “good” to be too detached because people will think that you don’t care, etc… His talk is a good starter point for someone who does not want to listen to the word “spiritual” but yet only believes in conceptual learning and in building “skills.” 🙂

Spirituality is not a mental game to “pretend” to be something that we are not. Detachment is not a “skill” that we learn; it is a state of consciousness which appears as we experience a different awareness based on inner inquire, solitude and harmonious living.

There are not Ph.Ds in Spirituality. There is a “reason” for that.. 🙂

Question: How does the stage of a detached observer cut off our sin?

Thank you for your very good question!
Dear soul,

I will give a bit of explanation to your thoughtful question.

First, let us erase that word “sin” from our vocabulary. In the understanding of the “unlimited,” we can see that there is a movie going and actions will be performed which have a consequence. Without those activities, we wouldn’t be able to experience duality and thus, go back to non-duality. It is best to refer to “sin” as “body conscious” activities; for these actions are performed in that consciousness.

In that way, we can erase the idea of “bad” that comes with the word “sin;” for after all; we will experience the fruit of those activities; which as we know; are part of the “eternally repetitive” Drama of life.

A “sin” is the experience of suffering as a consequence of a previous deed. “Vikarma.”

That stage of a “detached observer” also known as “witnessing,” or a “trustee,” or being “karanhar” and letting “karankaravnahar” work through us; we could go through the movie of life without being affected by it. Just observing and enjoying the “show,” the movie.

Therefore, there is no such a thing as “cutting off” sins; for the law of karma will do its work regardless but this time, we will not be affected by it. That is how the “crucifx will change into the experience of being pricked by a thorn.”

Now, here the important point: As we settle our karmic accounts, we will be experiencing that stage automatically, for less things will be able to affect us. BUT, if we practice that stage ( I rather say, experience that stage) then, we will be able to “accelerate” the stage of not experiencing those “karmic accounts” with the same intensity until there is no longer the experience of that karmic account, (it doesn’t affect us) so we are free from it.

Thus, greater experience of the stage of a detached observer, less experiences of karmic bondages. That is the meaning of “cutting off sins.

In Sakar Murlis, that stage of being a “detached observer” is known as “karmateet.” Brahma Baba mentioned that this stage will be reached at the “end.” However, in avyakt Murlis, that stage of being “karmateet” or a “detached observer” was updated to “living now,” and not just at the end. In this way, we could be experiencing those karmic bondages but feeling them as a “thorn pricking our little finger.”

Best wishes!