To stabilize in your self-respect is the key to happiness and all treasures
This avyakt Murli today, has deep points on the meaning of “relationships.”
Those deep points could be easily misunderstood if we did not have the experience of what BapDada is talking about. We could say : “Baba says that I have to renounce all worldly relationships and just have Him. From now on, I will not have more relationships with anyone…” 🙂
Let us take a look at this Murli.
BapDada started with the significance of self respect. That is to answer the question: Who am I?
The entire knowledge is merged into the question of “who I am?”
Through gyan and hopefully through experience, we have experienced the soul. That is the basis of that self respect, because we know that we, souls are imperishable; playing a part right now; and for Brahmin souls it is an “effort making” part at this time.
Even though in “role consciousness,” we will not be able to experience that part of the future; through soul consciousness we could, for the experiences are already “recorded “ in us. We have experienced those. Is it a matter of emerging the “photo album” from the Golden age in us and watch the “show.” 🙂 or for the more “down to earth” of us, logically and rationally, this knowledge will make us see that when “there is night, there must be day.”
The soul is timeless. For souls there is no such a thing as a “relationship.” A soul is complete in itself.
That is why; BapDada is saying that “an Angel does not have a relationship with no bodily being.” This does not mean that we cannot relate with people, but let us be aware that when we use a “label” to denote a relationship, such as “husband,” automatically that “box” is filled with the image of a person. That is why BapDada mentions that by choosing a human being, the same relationship with the Father diminishes.
Those labels of “relationships,” such as father, wife, brother, family are just labels which bring “support,” however, that support becomes detrimental when that person in that particular relationship disappears due to many reasons. The fact is, physical relationships disappear.
If we are in a relationship with a soul who is playing the role of a husband or wife, by all means have good wishes and pure feelings, by all means have love; however, do not place that soul in the box of a determined relationship (husband, wife) for then you have set up yourself for suffering as those relationships are temporarily and their support will make us “attached,” dependent. Therefore, we will remember them until we find a “replacement.” Through finding “replacements” to fill our own emptiness, we miss the opportunity to be self-sovereign. We need to remember that we are souls, “tourists” in this Drama and every soul that we are in a close relationship with at this time, had a different relationship with us in past lives.
Since relationships, all those boxes with labels such as, ”my friend, my wife, my brother, my…..” are a source of support in our life, the images of those people will pop up in our heads, for they are part of our lives. Even the “divine family” can be part of this. BapDada is asking us to “transfer” those boxes to Him. Thus, “we should have all relationships with the Father and none other.” That is the deep meaning of it.
Observe how every label of a relationship gives you some sort of support. We feel secure if we have a wife, or a husband or parents who will take care of us and give us love and whatever we need. In return, we need to fulfill those relationships. “You scratch my back and I will scratch yours” mixed with attachment and love as our source of support. On the other hand, since we are souls and understand roles, we could relate with another human being with love but without those expectations which come when someone is placed in the “box” of a determined relationship.
This takes a 360 degrees change in our vision. However, BapDada is asking us to have those sources of support in Him. Not to forget Him. Thus, remembrance of the Father so we can remember the self and answer the “puzzle.”