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When “bad” things happen to “good” people

Raysha and Ahnanda were speaking with Mathias, the wise “tree”.
Mathias was emphasizing the importance of expressing who we ARE. Everyone has a “mission” to express in Life, but that is consciously hidden and even repressed through mental conditioning for fear of not fitting the mental idea on how things “should be”, to be “proper.”
Ahnanda said to Mathias: “In our quest for expression, we have experienced many hardships in Life…”
Mathias replied: “That is because you are complete.”

In Life, to be “complete” is to have the capacity to experience both ends of duality. A person who is complete, will experience what is commonly known as “good” or “bad”, with greater emphasis than someone who is still in its infancy as far as consciousness is concerned. The experience of that which we label as “bad” changes people. 

“Spirituality for the masses” is very soothing in this respect. The aim is to gain customers, by caressing their egos.
For example, if you have experienced a “broken heart”, this type of “spirituality” will “teach” you how to deal with that. They will share with you the tools to heal and they will give you the “how” not to experience the same thing again.

That is for those who will walk carefully in Life, afraid of making “mistakes”. Live in fear. Keep your heart untouched by avoidance, by using the tricks, tools and techniques to keep you safe and heal you whenever “you” want.

That is not accurate, nevertheless; has value. It is for the masses. For the “best sellers.” For those who are not aware yet.

Feel the broken heart completely. Let it sink in. Become aware of that.
Then observe, find the “why” it hurts. Just remember that is ALL inside you. It is not because of you, but inside you. That “thing” is what will need to heal. That experience is an opportunity that Life is giving us to find out about ourselves, to “know thyself.” Whether we decide to live life “protected from further pain” and thus, not living Life; that is still yet another experience which will bring other experiences in Life. Eventually, the “broken heart” will disappear in due time, not when we “want it” to. Life brought it. Life will take it away.
How is it possible for those who do not even “know thyselves” to know when the duration of an experience is enough? Every experience in Life has timing.

We don’t need to try to “fix” everything in this lifetime. Enjoy Life, but become AWARE of who you ARE, so you learn to understand yourself, to accept yourself, love yourself and consequently, Life. Thus; learn to trust Life. That is how even though we are hurt, we could go in the open again. It is that trust the one that heals. It is also called “acceptance” but I like to refer to it as “openness.” 

As what we call “good” is undone to become “bad” all by itself, so that which we call “bad” will become “good” again. It is a game.
No one needs to figure this out how to DO it. It just happens. It is the way of duality.

My new friend Miguel (being of light) mentioned to me: “Notice how your breathing is automatic, you don’t know if the next breath will be there for you. Trust Life. You are protected.”

“Protection” in Life does not mean that “bad” things will not happen. It means that “bad” will become “good.” It means that a “bad” experience is necessary to evolve, to change into something different; thus not really “bad.” It is a catalyst, part of our evolving consciousness. “Good” people have the capacity to endure “bad” things. That is the other side which needs to be experienced, explored for a complete experience in Life, that is to be complete.

A jigsaw puzzle needs to have all pieces together to be complete. However, the game is not to have the puzzle sitting there complete. All pieces will be disseminated through living Life, we label that as “bad”; then we will need to find the pieces in many lifetimes and make them fit again into a complete jigsaw puzzle.
That is the game.
Life is the greatest game of all.

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Going beyond mental understanding

Our world of concepts is supported by our perceptions. That in itself, will give us a twisted view of what we call “reality.”
For example, what I can observe, touch, smell, etc. becomes my physical “reality.” Many individuals having similar experiences will agree to label our descriptions of similarities as “reality.” However, how could we be so sure that what we are able to interpret through our senses is in fact what is “real”?

Isn’t science verifying our physical reality from the standpoint of what our senses are able to pick up? What is that which we could truly know?
We heard it many times, ME; but yet that is left for the very last.

We use more labels to figure out what we ARE, but we do not observe what IS.
We are a “soul” we say. Isn’t that merely a label to describe a concept? The concept is whatever we believe a “soul” to be. How is that helpful to know ourselves?
Is the reality of that label depending on my experience alone ? Or perhaps is the acceptance of the authority of someone else like a guru, a scientist, God, etc?
In self knowledge, concepts are truly deceitful.

Free will and Predestination. Merely labels to describe a perception. When we go beyond the labels and concepts, another “reality” emerges.
That is our interdependence. Observe the web of relationships. When we understand that our actions affect everything else (Totality) we could also understand that someone’s activity even though away from my field of perception, will definitely affect ME in some way. The part (“I”) affects the whole (every living being) and similarly, the whole affects the part. “Logical”?

Why do you like chocolate ice cream (or other flavor)? How does it (particular taste) appeared in your repertoire of things to like? We don’t think about that. We prefer the shallow “I like.” End of report. We call that “free will.” There is a Totality behind that “I like” phrase, we express a small part of that Totality through an insignificant “I like.”
However, Science hasn’t proved that. Science cannot comprehend that we ARE individuals but at the same time, a Totality. That is too far out.

What are the practical aspects of the above?
Every religion, every philosophy, every “ism”, every political party out there cannot have the “truth.” It is always partial. An incomplete perception.
How do I know that?
Life cannot be described through words. The Totality cannot be understood through words just like a human being cannot.
Need proof?
Ask someone to describe you exactly as you ARE. That is not only your psychological make up at a certain point in time, but your physical appearance, your unique behaviors, etc.
It is impossible. Only you know and the totality of what you know cannot be shared to others.

Perceptions. Our world is viewed through perceptions.
Isn’t what I am explaining also a perception? You bet.
That is why, mental explanations, descriptions and concepts are only distractions from what truly matters.
What is that?
To learn to be AWARE of ourselves. That is the only thing that we can know for sure, the only thing that we could be completely honest about; but yet for most of us, that “reality” is full of conditioning, full of traumas which will not allow us to fully look.

The mind has expectations, it has dreams, it has objectives to accomplish. The world is a playground to “achieve” and to show everyone “who we are.”
That is ego. That is not who we ARE. We ARE when ego is not.

“We” are a soul. “We” are a spirit. “We” are a multidimensional being.
Those labels behind concepts are fooling us from the possibility to observe.

Get rid of those labels. They only confuse and limit the unlimited.
Feel what IS. Observe what IS. Become AWARE of that without the distraction of labels and mental voices, which compel us to verbalize our experiences.

When there is no mind, we ARE.

Living in a mental box of “righteousness.”

Life is unexpected, dynamic, ever changing. Our society taught us to behave and meet situations with a recipe or pre-cooked package of actions, moral standards and laws.

We believe that a particular action labeled as “moral” is useful for all situations. That is not so. When our moralists realize that, then we try to create another recipe that will fit all. As a consequence, many discusions will arise leading nowhere.

As we go beyond conditionings, we will find that Life is only met fully in the moment.
Experiences are personal and could be used as personal guidelines but never as commandments or laws which can apply to all.
This realization will take away our neediness to be “right,” or to give free advice to others.

One thing is to say “in my experience…” another to say “my advice to you is…”

My favorite cup is made of blue glass. If I was that cup, I will see things “blue.”    (reminds me of the “blue song.”) Through that center of personal experiences all I could feel comfortable with is that which I recognize: Perhaps another cup made of glass. I will not be able to distinguish colors as all I see is blue.
It will be a mistake to believe that everything is of blue color. In fact, I wouldn’t know colors at all. I wouldn’t understand what a color is, for I will need to experience contrasts to see that.

Most individuals in the world are trapped in their sense of self and their self centered perception, their own experiences which would like to label as “truth,” “right,” and all of those words which will make us feel “better and above.”

We could choose to meet Life intellectually. We could choose to follow a determined philosophy or belief but in doing so, we are creating a particular cup of a particular color. Life is much greater than that.

As I observe my kitchen, living room, bedroom, house, neighboorhood, city, country, continent, etc… I could observe that there is no end. Everything is so different, unknown, mysterious and yet “I” pretend to know it all… “I” pretend to be “right.”
I am just a cup of glass with extraordinary value as I am unique, but just like everything else. We tend to value things through their utility, but that is another conditioning. If it IS, it has the right to BE. That is value.

I heard the saying “Ignorance is bliss.” I understand the meaning of that; but also that “knowledge” is truly a kind of ignorance.
Blissful, if we don’t take it so seriously as the “only truth;” however, miserable if we completely believe in it.
There is no knowledge able to contain Life.

The shortcomings of Logic

Our society praises logic and reason as a way to gather objective “reality.” Logic becomes the tool to discover if something is “right” or “true.”
Humans have created a society with structure, where something logical could be enforced.
That is right, logic is another ideal of our society. Life is not logical at all. Have we experienced that?

The ways that we try to understand Life are typically the ones taught to us, passed to us by the educational system. It is almost as if we have built our own little world of ideas, supported by dualistic language which do not have the ability to describe the amplitude of Life, but only to make partial, inaccurate references.

What is the logic behind a “good man” experiencing a terrible death?
A “good man” according to who? What do you mean by a “terrible death”?
What is the logic of hunger in the world? Aren’t humans working together to help each other? How long would it take?

Life is not logical. In our society, we have made it to appear as logical. That reminds me about the “logical song” by Supertramp. The ability to feel without the interruptions of the mind is the trademark of a child. A “reasonable” man has so many things to THINK about. The joy of life is taken away.

Logic, reason… Those mental tools have transformed the lives of so many “professionals.” They are efficient, they have degrees, they are comfortable, well off, but not fulfilled. Emotionally they may not be able to connect to another human being, although that one may be physically close; emotionally there is a huge distance.
Without emotional connection, there cannot be fulfillment.

Observe how Sexuality has been transformed into physical pleasure. Sex without emotional connectivity is in fashion. It is more efficient, less complicated. It is practical. Logical. The desire of not “getting involved” brings at the same time, a sense of missing something.
Life requires our complete involvement at every moment.

Logic and reason scrape the surface of “reality,” but yet most believe that “truth” is in them.
Life offers so many experiences which reason is unable to see.

Hope, achievement and wisdom

In Life, to hope for the best is important to maintain good spirits despite “setbacks.”
That type of hope brings tranquility and will allow us to digest an experience. Those experiences that we label as “negative,” or “bad,” are without a doubt; needed in our Life path. There is no way around them, no way to avoid them, no way to change what is already in our destiny.

We cannot make our own destiny, otherwise; how could we learn from Life? When the extent of our DOING is only conditioned by our previous experiences and idiosyncrasies, we are not living Life. We are merely surviving it.
To live means to allow for newness. “Newness” in Life means to accept the unexpected.

We could have high hopes that our path in Life will unveil, and teach us what we came here to learn. If we do not find those lessons which Life is tirelessly teaching us at every step of our journey; we will live a meaningless Life, despite “achieving what I want.” In society, “success” means to achieve. In Life, success is to become fully aware of the lesson.

We don’t learn through “achievements.” We learn through setbacks. That is how wisdom is made. A wise person has had countless setbacks. Thus, are those truly setbacks? The label is deceiving.
In society, setbacks means failure. In Life, setbacks bring the opportunity for wisdom.

Wisdom is earned in Life. It is not learned.

To “improve” in Life

The concept of “improvement” has many meanings.
In our society, it is about obtaining things: Comfort, a position, wealth, health, etc. This meaning comes from a position of “lack of.”
The mind compares and assesses according to our conditioning. Because this comes from the mind, there is no inner fulfillment.

“Spirituality” for the masses (best sellers) is about transposing this concept into virtues and subtle powers or stages of self-realization. That perception is very simplistic and far from what Life supports; nevertheless, it is easy to understand and to follow. For a seeker, it means that he can assess his own improvement.
“This method changed my Life,” we hear; just like a commercial from TV.

In Life, “improvement” is consciousness. Greater consciousness means greater inner observation. There is inner fulfillment without looking for it. 
The masses are unable to understand this.
How is it possible to “improve” by merely observing myself?
In Life, everything has a rhythm. Night changes into day, little by little.

If a human being could “improve” things, that person may want to speed up the timing for that change. “It used to take this long to get to dawn. Now it is less.”
Observe that “improvement.” It is unnatural. It is based on the human ideal to favor day rather than night for economic reasons or any other “reason.”

In Life, when we are not aware of timing of a change, we are acting in a very egoistic way. It does not matter if the DOING is labeled as a “good action.” Something is out of synch.
To “improve” in Life, means to be in tune with Life.
When we OBSERVE, we are attentive to what is natural. Consequently, our actions will consider that.

CHANGE is happening continuously in Life. It happens all the time at every moment; but yet; humans are concerned in DOING their own change. That unnatural movement is detrimental to our environment and consequently to ourselves.
Why are we so concerned in “Saving the Planet”? That is yet another DOING of the mind. Because we separated ourselves from Nature and Life, the interests of our society were our top priority over the common good, that is Nature and all its players (animals, plants, etc.)

Our lack of OBSERVATION took us to this place were the SAVIOR and the SINNER are the same. Do we see that? SAVING the planet from WHO? 
To ask our society in general to take a second look and OBSERVE the natural ways is utopia. Society only knows about “spending money” (mental conditioning) and DOING things without understanding of LIFE, to “improve” things.

What is the understanding needed?
As it is inside, it is outside. A chaotic individual cannot “save” something that he perceives as being outside himself. He must start with himself.
“Yeah, but this will take a long time for every individual to DO that. We need a practical solution now!”
The dog is biting its own tail. It is a wonder how it doesn’t feel pain. Perhaps if we buy a band-aid and put it in the “right” spot of the tail, things will improve.  Here may be the next campaign: $$upport band-aids! Save the dog!

The intelligent seeker

A time will come when we want to DO things “right.”
However, what is our standard for that? Our conditioning of what “right” should be.
It is from there how we envision “spirituality”: A God that should act in the “right way.” A “Paradise” where right-full people should go to enjoy Life forever, since they were busy suffering the mishaps caused by “others,” who in turn, will pay their dues in “hell.”

Our idea of “justice” is framed within those parameters: Give to A the same amount as to B. That is our concept of equality.
From there, a family will automatically implement those “values.”
Education then, becomes nothing but training to implement these ideals in the minds of children. We call that to do the “right thing.” Those “unfortunate” who are away from the system, are uneducated, handicapped children who are not in the same condition to “compete” with others in “Life.”

We could inquire into the “fairness” of competition. Then, we will find 2 contradictory “values,” justice vs. competition.
Contradictory “values” are the signature of our society. Thus, be smart. Use those as convenient. That is to be politically correct, right. Right? 🙂

Therefore, any spiritual teaching in alignment with values of society, are only preserving mainstream understanding. Those teachings could be helpful for some to fit with society’s values; but rest assured; that these teachings are not a reflection of the reality of Life. They only reflect our society.

The first thing to understand is that Life is not only what happens between 8 to 5 at work. It is not what happens on TV. It is not what happens in the family.
Life is more than that. To grasp Life we will need to go beyond our need to preserve that who we think we ARE. Our identification with that, will not allow us to move into the changing waves of Life.

Who we THINK we ARE, is not who WE ARE.
What others label us, is not who we are.
Let it BE undefined, without a conceptual idea.

Society is not prepared for that, but that is the starting point for deconditioning, otherwise; we become successfully trained with these teachings.

What are those teachings?
In a word: FEAR.
The future is more valuable than “now.”
Fear of punishment here and the afterlife.
Fear of the unknown. Death is perceived as something to avoid.
There are “good” and “bad” individuals. They could be easily recognized as if they were wearing a particular t-shirt color. Thus, we fear labels.
If you are not like us, you are against us.
If it cannot be controlled or regulated, it is “bad.” Sex comes to mind.
Pretty words and politicians will save the World.
Technology and math are the key for happiness.

Those values are heavily imprinted. This perception becomes our trauma in Life.
How could we be able to OBSERVE something different when we have that ingrained in our core?
That is the first question to resolve (for an intelligent seeker.)
Freedom from the known, is at the end of the street.