Everyone has its share of sorrow in Life. Why?
Because everyone as well, has its share of joy. Duality.
To answer “Why” doesn’t give any comfort, when we deal with emotions in Life. A “why/because” answer is useless, for there is no way to avoid or to “tackle the problem”. We need to go through the whole experience.
There is the type of sorrow and joy which “happen to us” due to circumstances. “I feel sorrow/joyful because…” Those are the types where duality manifests.
Also, there is a kind of “joy” which is the expression of BEING. That one is little known by most. Duality does not affect it. We usually cannot feel it for we have other garments covering it: Emotional traumas.
Observe our typical Joy. Like anything in Life, it is a transient state.
An episode of sorrow, precedes Joy. They follow each other.
The “answer” to go beyond that duality is right in the middle, between that duality; between the yin and yang. However, to experience that balance, that equanimity, may take many other experiences to center our consciousness to feel that equilibrium. It is a feeling.
Experiencing Life with impartiality, is key to ride the ups and downs in Life.
Impartiality is not a “practice”. That equilibrium is cumulative, as we are able to assimilate different Life experiences: Joyful, sorrowful or in between, all included without distinction. With some we laugh, others cry. Smile. That is the middle.
Impartiality has been known as the “Middle Way”, for it is the middle between dualities; however, typically that is understood in a different way.
Sorrow may remain despite the ending of the situation causing it, for “I” will keep the memory of that incident as a traumatic experience. Fear will be born, and that weight will be with “me” as long as “I” live, unless “I” release that emotion.
Unavoidably, there will be the experience of sorrow in Life. Sorrow is meant to change a person through a new perspective of Life. No intellectual understanding can ever do that.
It doesn’t matter whether those perspectives are “true or false.” What matters is the imminent change in consciousness once we cross the obscure passage. Change upon change, eventually we will learn to see the “mirror” rather than the outside perception of an episode. However, the trauma may remain. We still need to clean the slate, dissolve the emotion.
Life will bring a way to free ourselves from past traumas as long as we are aware of them, acknowledge them and be willing to open up. In this way, every Life experience will increase our maturity, our insight; and that will bring us closer to that state of impartiality where dualities are experienced, but there is no traumatic footprint inside. The Middle way.
While living Life, we may learn to witness it without unneeded commentaries coming from the mind.
That creates the perfect soil for inner joy, the type of “inner smile” untouched by the dualities of Life.
Because most of humanity has a mind concerned with separation, division as a perception of Life, then unhappiness will be the outcome of such mind.
Observe your own mind. There is “I” and there is “you.” Also all personal pronouns are part of the division. We know to be bound by language syntax, but we believe deep inside that “innocent” division to be true. That carries an existential problem beyond language. Observe how the main tool that we use to figure out “Life,” is based on “analysis.”
Analysis is a tool for further division. We want to know something which is whole by dividing it in parts. However, parts do not make up what is meant to be whole. The “whole is equal to the sum of its parts” we say, it is a nice theory in society, but doesn’t quite work out in “real” Life. Can we take apart a human being in its numerous parts, and make it “work” as a live human as it was before the division?
Our vision of the world is meant to analyze things. Observe politics. It deals with government, administration of people in a society. Politics relies heavily in all sorts of analysis. We don’t take people as “people”, we divide people. We create groups and out of that we create struggle between groups. We forget the common good; but become biased and select what is most convenient for a particular group. That is “Democracy.” Not the nice theory of what is supposed to be; but the “real,” practical aspect ongoing around the world.
There will not be a self realized individual dealing with politics. Not because “politics is dirty business” but because politics is a fictitious, one sided way of looking at Life. That political vision is incapable of putting things together in synthesis.
Politics is about conflict among groups and power struggle of certain groups. That is the outcome of a mind which has been trained to divide.
How is it possible to find “solutions” for problems created in our society which such mind?
It is not possible. “Problems cannot be solved with the same mind set that created them.”
That is a quote from A. Einstein. “Division” is a mind set.
Where is the root problem in need of a “solution”?
The human mind.
Happiness is not a creation of the mind. What our society considers as happiness is truly infantile, nevertheless; we cannot find a happy person there, but rather a sedated one. Someone who lives in the comfort zone of his mind’s achievements which, are only another reflection of a mind trained to divide, to fight, to conquer, to compete, to become “someone” in Life, as the utmost value.
Most know that happiness is not brought by material things. Nevertheless, we strive to obtain those at all cost. Happiness is not in circumstances, settings, relationships. It is not bound by what is “out there”.
Happiness is inner fulfillment. It is an inseparable sensation when we breathe, which makes us alive and vital. That cannot be found in the mind. That is why, there is “no-mind.”
But, what our educational system knows about it? Not much. In fact, what we are so eager to learn in our educational system is all about living in the ego mind. Most individuals are only concerned with their own achievements, the well being of their own group and the continuous struggle to maintain an ideal status quo during their life times, which they fight to provide to their own kind, their succesors. Conditioning is very strong and will continue on from generations.
Therefore, a sensitive, intelligent person will look into this. His personal journey will deal with recognizing and knowing his own mind. There lies the conditioning. There lies the madness.
This route doesn’t take the traveler into “name and fame.” There are no medals or prize money at the end of the journey.
There is only this sense of fulfillment, which indicates that we found our place in Life. This “achievement” happens without being “someone”, without doing something “special”, without fighting and trying to “conquer” our self created demons.
The “normal” conditioned mind, will be unable to understand that unless, the actual “mind set” is left behind.
The experience of Life is typically seen as duality: Going up means to go down.
There is day and there is night. Can we select one without the experience of the other?
Those selecting or being attached to only day or only night haven’t understood this.
Do you look for success? There must be failure. Do you look for truth? There must be the experience of falsehood. Do you want good? There must be the experience of evil.
Thus, how insane is to place high regard, high value on one side of a duality and reject the other, when both are complementary. Both come together as a “package.” Therefore, it is ONE.
Our society is suffocated by the experience of a misunderstood duality. There is no “two” opposites but “one” complementary experience.
Life is not concerned with human morality. It merely presents the whole range of experiences. That is a strong reason to observe that most religions do not fit the way of Life itself, but will support the conditioning of human morality, that is; one side of a duality. Life constantly will show us the whole experience.
If the above needs further clarification, I will add this example.
Are you familiar with the teachings of J. Krishnamurti and Osho Rajneesh ?
Most “spiritual seekers” are. Both are like day and night. “Dawn” (between day and night) is the rebellious attitude which they have in common.
Krishnamurti says that there is no method to reach the “truth.” Osho will give plenty of methods for that. Krishnamurti did not follow any books. Osho gave some of his teachings using some books that he had read. Krishnamurti did not want followers. He did not choose someone to replace him. Osho had followers. It is said that he picked before his death, someone to continue with his “dream.”
Both observed that we live in a sick society. That is “dawn” again for both. Krishnamurti, supported to look deep within and inquire within to freed yourself through a new consciousness. He believed in the change of the individual. Osho wanted to build a “Noah’s ark” with followers who would be living outside society in a new paradigm, with a new consciousness. That is collective change.
Since their teachings were opposite of each other, who is “right” and who is “wrong”? Isn’t that the typical conditioned question which we cleverly ask to side with something and be “right”?
Because they are opposite, it doesn’t mean that one of them has to be “wrong”. That is the old conditioning. Rather; because they are opposite, they are complementary of each other. They are ONE.
Both teachings will show us the complete Life experience.
Do you want a “method” to reach “truth”? Osho is the man for you. Once you have gone through that, you’ll be ready for Krishnamurti and you will have no more methods. If you start with Krishnamurti without going through Osho; you will not be ready. Do you want to know the extent of love? Start with Krishnamurti to end up with Osho.
What is my point?
Embrace both opposites in Life. This is not a question of morality. It is a matter of knowing Life. Not from the conditioned “intellectual” perspective of society, but without the parameters which are holding us back to be open to the uncertainty of Life.
Life is not interested on who is “right” or “wrong”. Why should we? IT IS as IT IS. It is not a matter of “choosing one” over the other. It is a matter of accepting both and OBSERVING honestly, where you fit within that range, and go from there.
There are more “teachers” than Osho and Krishnamurti. A person may go through many of those teachers. Some may even embrace religions which will be necessary for a particular path. The “Yes” and the “No” will need to be experienced for a complete experience. This cannot be only intellectual information. There must be experience.
We need to go through it. That is when there is true change. That is your unique path.
Raysha and Ahnanda were speaking with Mathias, the wise “tree”.
Mathias was emphasizing the importance of expressing who we ARE. Everyone has a “mission” to express in Life, but that is consciously hidden and even repressed through mental conditioning for fear of not fitting the mental idea on how things “should be”, to be “proper.”
Ahnanda said to Mathias: “In our quest for expression, we have experienced many hardships in Life…”
Mathias replied: “That is because you are complete.”
In Life, to be “complete” is to have the capacity to experience both ends of duality. A person who is complete, will experience what is commonly known as “good” or “bad”, with greater emphasis than someone who is still in its infancy as far as consciousness is concerned. The experience of that which we label as “bad” changes people.
“Spirituality for the masses” is very soothing in this respect. The aim is to gain customers, by caressing their egos.
For example, if you have experienced a “broken heart”, this type of “spirituality” will “teach” you how to deal with that. They will share with you the tools to heal and they will give you the “how” not to experience the same thing again.
That is for those who will walk carefully in Life, afraid of making “mistakes”. Live in fear. Keep your heart untouched by avoidance, by using the tricks, tools and techniques to keep you safe and heal you whenever “you” want.
That is not accurate, nevertheless; has value. It is for the masses. For the “best sellers.” For those who are not aware yet.
Feel the broken heart completely. Let it sink in. Become aware of that.
Then observe, find the “why” it hurts. Just remember that is ALL inside you. It is not because of you, but inside you. That “thing” is what will need to heal. That experience is an opportunity that Life is giving us to find out about ourselves, to “know thyself.” Whether we decide to live life “protected from further pain” and thus, not living Life; that is still yet another experience which will bring other experiences in Life. Eventually, the “broken heart” will disappear in due time, not when we “want it” to. Life brought it. Life will take it away.
How is it possible for those who do not even “know thyselves” to know when the duration of an experience is enough? Every experience in Life has timing.
We don’t need to try to “fix” everything in this lifetime. Enjoy Life, but become AWARE of who you ARE, so you learn to understand yourself, to accept yourself, love yourself and consequently, Life. Thus; learn to trust Life. That is how even though we are hurt, we could go in the open again. It is that trust the one that heals. It is also called “acceptance” but I like to refer to it as “openness.”
As what we call “good” is undone to become “bad” all by itself, so that which we call “bad” will become “good” again. It is a game.
No one needs to figure this out how to DO it. It just happens. It is the way of duality.
My new friend Miguel (being of light) mentioned to me: “Notice how your breathing is automatic, you don’t know if the next breath will be there for you. Trust Life. You are protected.”
“Protection” in Life does not mean that “bad” things will not happen. It means that “bad” will become “good.” It means that a “bad” experience is necessary to evolve, to change into something different; thus not really “bad.” It is a catalyst, part of our evolving consciousness. “Good” people have the capacity to endure “bad” things. That is the other side which needs to be experienced, explored for a complete experience in Life, that is to be complete.
A jigsaw puzzle needs to have all pieces together to be complete. However, the game is not to have the puzzle sitting there complete. All pieces will be disseminated through living Life, we label that as “bad”; then we will need to find the pieces in many lifetimes and make them fit again into a complete jigsaw puzzle.
That is the game.
Life is the greatest game of all.
Our world of concepts is supported by our perceptions. That in itself, will give us a twisted view of what we call “reality.”
For example, what I can observe, touch, smell, etc. becomes my physical “reality.” Many individuals having similar experiences will agree to label our descriptions of similarities as “reality.” However, how could we be so sure that what we are able to interpret through our senses is in fact what is “real”?
Isn’t science verifying our physical reality from the standpoint of what our senses are able to pick up? What is that which we could truly know?
We heard it many times, ME; but yet that is left for the very last.
We use more labels to figure out what we ARE, but we do not observe what IS.
We are a “soul” we say. Isn’t that merely a label to describe a concept? The concept is whatever we believe a “soul” to be. How is that helpful to know ourselves?
Is the reality of that label depending on my experience alone ? Or perhaps is the acceptance of the authority of someone else like a guru, a scientist, God, etc?
In self knowledge, concepts are truly deceitful.
Free will and Predestination. Merely labels to describe a perception. When we go beyond the labels and concepts, another “reality” emerges.
That is our interdependence. Observe the web of relationships. When we understand that our actions affect everything else (Totality) we could also understand that someone’s activity even though away from my field of perception, will definitely affect ME in some way. The part (“I”) affects the whole (every living being) and similarly, the whole affects the part. “Logical”?
Why do you like chocolate ice cream (or other flavor)? How does it (particular taste) appeared in your repertoire of things to like? We don’t think about that. We prefer the shallow “I like.” End of report. We call that “free will.” There is a Totality behind that “I like” phrase, we express a small part of that Totality through an insignificant “I like.”
However, Science hasn’t proved that. Science cannot comprehend that we ARE individuals but at the same time, a Totality. That is too far out.
What are the practical aspects of the above?
Every religion, every philosophy, every “ism”, every political party out there cannot have the “truth.” It is always partial. An incomplete perception.
How do I know that?
Life cannot be described through words. The Totality cannot be understood through words just like a human being cannot.
Ask someone to describe you exactly as you ARE. That is not only your psychological make up at a certain point in time, but your physical appearance, your unique behaviors, etc.
It is impossible. Only you know and the totality of what you know cannot be shared to others.
Perceptions. Our world is viewed through perceptions.
Isn’t what I am explaining also a perception? You bet.
That is why, mental explanations, descriptions and concepts are only distractions from what truly matters.
What is that?
To learn to be AWARE of ourselves. That is the only thing that we can know for sure, the only thing that we could be completely honest about; but yet for most of us, that “reality” is full of conditioning, full of traumas which will not allow us to fully look.
The mind has expectations, it has dreams, it has objectives to accomplish. The world is a playground to “achieve” and to show everyone “who we are.”
That is ego. That is not who we ARE. We ARE when ego is not.
“We” are a soul. “We” are a spirit. “We” are a multidimensional being.
Those labels behind concepts are fooling us from the possibility to observe.
Get rid of those labels. They only confuse and limit the unlimited.
Feel what IS. Observe what IS. Become AWARE of that without the distraction of labels and mental voices, which compel us to verbalize our experiences.
When there is no mind, we ARE.
Life is unexpected, dynamic, ever changing. Our society taught us to behave and meet situations with a recipe or pre-cooked package of actions, moral standards and laws.
We believe that a particular action labeled as “moral” is useful for all situations. That is not so. When our moralists realize that, then we try to create another recipe that will fit all. As a consequence, many discusions will arise leading nowhere.
As we go beyond conditionings, we will find that Life is only met fully in the moment.
Experiences are personal and could be used as personal guidelines but never as commandments or laws which can apply to all.
This realization will take away our neediness to be “right,” or to give free advice to others.
One thing is to say “in my experience…” another to say “my advice to you is…”
My favorite cup is made of blue glass. If I was that cup, I will see things “blue.” (reminds me of the “blue song.”) Through that center of personal experiences all I could feel comfortable with is that which I recognize: Perhaps another cup made of glass. I will not be able to distinguish colors as all I see is blue.
It will be a mistake to believe that everything is of blue color. In fact, I wouldn’t know colors at all. I wouldn’t understand what a color is, for I will need to experience contrasts to see that.
Most individuals in the world are trapped in their sense of self and their self centered perception, their own experiences which would like to label as “truth,” “right,” and all of those words which will make us feel “better and above.”
We could choose to meet Life intellectually. We could choose to follow a determined philosophy or belief but in doing so, we are creating a particular cup of a particular color. Life is much greater than that.
As I observe my kitchen, living room, bedroom, house, neighboorhood, city, country, continent, etc… I could observe that there is no end. Everything is so different, unknown, mysterious and yet “I” pretend to know it all… “I” pretend to be “right.”
I am just a cup of glass with extraordinary value as I am unique, but just like everything else. We tend to value things through their utility, but that is another conditioning. If it IS, it has the right to BE. That is value.
I heard the saying “Ignorance is bliss.” I understand the meaning of that; but also that “knowledge” is truly a kind of ignorance.
Blissful, if we don’t take it so seriously as the “only truth;” however, miserable if we completely believe in it.
There is no knowledge able to contain Life.
Our society praises logic and reason as a way to gather objective “reality.” Logic becomes the tool to discover if something is “right” or “true.”
Humans have created a society with structure, where something logical could be enforced.
That is right, logic is another ideal of our society. Life is not logical at all. Have we experienced that?
The ways that we try to understand Life are typically the ones taught to us, passed to us by the educational system. It is almost as if we have built our own little world of ideas, supported by dualistic language which do not have the ability to describe the amplitude of Life, but only to make partial, inaccurate references.
What is the logic behind a “good man” experiencing a terrible death?
A “good man” according to who? What do you mean by a “terrible death”?
What is the logic of hunger in the world? Aren’t humans working together to help each other? How long would it take?
Life is not logical. In our society, we have made it to appear as logical. That reminds me about the “logical song” by Supertramp. The ability to feel without the interruptions of the mind is the trademark of a child. A “reasonable” man has so many things to THINK about. The joy of life is taken away.
Logic, reason… Those mental tools have transformed the lives of so many “professionals.” They are efficient, they have degrees, they are comfortable, well off, but not fulfilled. Emotionally they may not be able to connect to another human being, although that one may be physically close; emotionally there is a huge distance.
Without emotional connection, there cannot be fulfillment.
Observe how Sexuality has been transformed into physical pleasure. Sex without emotional connectivity is in fashion. It is more efficient, less complicated. It is practical. Logical. The desire of not “getting involved” brings at the same time, a sense of missing something.
Life requires our complete involvement at every moment.
Logic and reason scrape the surface of “reality,” but yet most believe that “truth” is in them.
Life offers so many experiences which reason is unable to see.